That is my normal understanding. In my case i was ignored for two weeks then got some sporadic replies via text about the issue that happened (yes I apologise and accepted it was my fault, she wanted to forget about it).I saw her in public and got a hello and bye, the next time I saw her she literally ignored me like I didn't exist.I am being ghosted in this instance right?
Not really. If she gave you any indication of why she is upset with you than that's not ghosting.
She did give a very vague mention of what happened that evening, but it was due to either what I did or what someone else did that had an effect which left an imprint on me, basically when she saw/heard me it brought back Trauma to her.After the last time I saw her when she said hello/bye to me I quit a joint community group we were in where I was a major contributor and she ran it. I tried to talk to her before quitting as I felt uncomfortable with how things were with us and I wanted to step away so she could run it without issues between us. After this event when I saw her in the park that was when she completely ignored me but her friend acknowledged me and said hi to me.So I guess I am being given a second period of silent treatment?
Were you guys dating prior to her silent treatment?
We talked about it but she said she was not in a place to date but that we were 'friends' (that is her wording). That conversation happened about two weeks prior to this evening before she disappeared on me and when she told me were just 'friends' nothing changed between us.I don't want this to be permanent. But I know she has a tendency to lash out at people who are purposely mean to her which I have seen. I have not intentionally done anything to piss her off and I have apologised and done everything to right the situation and from what I can see from mutual friends she has not bad mouthed me or done anything to ruin me which she could of done so quite easily.So I am not sure if this is ghosting or just the silent treatment?
Does she not want to encourage you to like her when maybe she doesn't feel the same?
All I can think is she does not see me the way I see her which is odd, one guy friend reconnected she had a crush on me and another female friend said the same that she was definitely flirting with me.When she gave me the friends speech she made it clear we were friends but then afterwards said you know what we are, we are 'friends'. and both my mates thought she meant she liked me as more than a friend.I have physically escalated with her at times and she seems to only tell me to top if I tickle her otherwise if i massage her feet, legs, but up her ribs no word from her to tell me to stop and this has happened multiple times. Now any other woman I did this too would off told me to naff off the first time or slap me etc and made it clear, I don't know many female's that would let even a good guy friend feel them up when they know the guy likes them and wants more (not just sex but a relationship).The thing is I find it odd if she was stringing me along as we have spent a lot of time together in person, over the phone etc and I have been very clear about how I see her and what I want (a relationship) even though she has said that is not what she wants.She is very conflict avoidant when it comes to interpersonal issues but work wise she can be like a tiger and never quit. So is this a case of not wanting to talk to me about this and hoping it will all go away? and I will get the hint we are just friends... But I know the moment I mention another woman she will get annoyed. Another female friend thought this was a case of her liking my attention and now I am taking it further she is trying to reset the clock and then start again? I. e. stringing me along?
All I can think is she is not interested in me that way but the sudden ghosting/silent treatment (whichever it is) surprises me. She knows me well enough that I would not start shouting at her or go mad if we talked about this but she does not want to talk about that subject with me or what happened that evening. I just wanted to know what went wrong that evening so I don't do it again.If it is her not being interested in me beyond a friend then fine I can accept that move on and be friends with her but it almost feels like she is punishing me for what happened and I have to figure it out.I honestly don't know if we will speak again but I have moved on. I just don't see how she can be interested in me as surely no woman who is interested in a guy would give him the silent treatment for a month now based on what I have said has happened?
Maybe she was interested but you made her mad. Who knows.
Maybe but she turned me down before and gave very mixed signals. She knew I wanted to talk to her to resolve this and I had apologised but I have just been ignored. I think its time to just move on and forget about this.I saw her today in the park and she just turned around and walked away from me when she saw me. On Friday she just ignored me as we walked by each other in the park and I don't think going to home to try to talk to her will do any good (no I am not going to do this).I guess I will just have to leave things as they are and if she talks to me again then we can talk. I can't really believe she was interested in me as she knew I wanted her and she turned me down and I have done everything to try and talk and fix this issue which has led to me just being ignored.
Also she has not blocked me on Whatsapp or Facebook, surely if she really wanted no contact she would block me/remove me there as well?
I agree! Silent treatment is not golden... Communication is golden!Any hints to determine if this is ghosting or silent treatment?
No Contact, Ignore your Replies. xx
She is doing this but she has not blocked me on Whatsapp or Facebook, surely if she really wanted no contact she would block me/remove me there as well?
Maybe just not Wanting to Be Rude and Crude. xx
**It could Ruin her Image. xx
Thanks, gag. xx
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