Here's the story. I'm 20 years old and I've never had a girlfriend. I want one in the worst way -- nothing could make me happier than having someone to love and care for. But lately there's much standing in the way.
I would prefer to be the one to ask her out -- in fact, I've asked ten girls over the last ten or so years and I was rejected each and every time. My own self-esteem already being at a low, it just got even lower with each rejection because I could not understand what I did wrong. Nowadays if I like a girl I'm too afraid to approach her. I mean, I'll watch her, but I won't act on it because of this paralyzing fear.
So, in the end, I'm waiting for the girl who truly does like me to come along and tell me herself... mind you, she'll have to work pretty hard to convince me because I'm not even sure I'll believe it if I see and hear it happen. I've become convinced that there's no way on God's green Earth that a girl will ever be interested in me that way.
No flirting either -- flirting is too subtle and my over-analytical mind will rationalize away all the standard flirts as the girl simply being friendly.
So, am I a hopeless case? What advice do you have?
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You are most certainly not hopeless. You just haven't had the best of luck. It could be that with the other girls they thought of you as a friend and didn't want to risk the friendship. Or maybe the time just wasn't right. Either way, you're not alone. I've lost guys I like to so many other girls it's ridiculous. You just have to get back up and move on. That's easier said than done. Find a girl you like and start flirting. And by that I mean make the fact that you like her obvious. Tell her she's pretty and has beautiful eyes and a nice smile. Ask if she wants to hang out sometime, but don't clarify if you mean as friends or otherwise unless she specifically asks. If she does, say it's a date. If she doesn't, don't say anything. And then when you go make a move. "Too long I've been afraid of losing love I guess I've lost." - Defying Gravity, Wicked. Most girls don't proclaim their feelings becuase they want the guy to do it first. Good luck and remember you may be lonely, but you're not alone.0