So, it’s not me then? You think he was the one being mean? You don’t think that I sounded needy?
If somebody spoke like that to me I would have dropped him immediately. He's not there for a serious relationship. He's only interested in fooling around. You're not being needy, it's not you, it's him. You two are not compatible, and he's simply wasting your time. He's just going to resent you at the end of the day and it's not your fault.
If it's such a turn-off, then maybe he needs to stay single because he thinks dating is a joke.
Thank you for answering... he kind of hurt my feelings because I didn’t know if he was ready for a relationship so, I was basically saying that if he’s not ready then I don’t blame him for it but, it’s not my fault either so eventually, when it ends that we leave on good terms. Could you see that I was saying that?
Trust me when I say you're not going to really leave on good terms. Don't be passive. Be bold and be Stern. Because you deserve better. He has no right to be treating you like crap. If he thinks like that of you and you already is being respectful of him, he's just going to continue to mistreat you. That's why you get out of that relationship. It's just going to become emotionally abusive and he's not taking consideration of your feelings. Just by him saying that it's a turn off alone is a abuser in the making.
You think he could be a narcissist?
I’m heart ❤️ broken, I’m devastated. He begged and begged for me to let him back in... after a year and a half I finally open up and then all my feelings come back slowly... and, now this. I’m not going to respond and if I do respond I will be very nonchalant. For good this time. And I will not initiate any texts to him.
I'm sorry to hear that. But I think you need to pay attention to what is really going on with your relationship. If you have the stuff going on and it's not the first time this happened, then this relationship is just over. It's not healthy, is not good on your self-esteem, and it's not good of your mental state oh, and you should not be dealing with that. It's he is somebody saying that he's asking for you for forgiveness, he needs to really look at himself. He is thinking too much only of himself. And again, when it comes down to self care there's nothing wrong with thinking of what it's best for yourself. But not when you're in a relationship like that. I only pray that you get healing. But I only see you getting healing when you're away from him. Maybe you two can be friends. But you two are definitely not lovers.
He doesn’t want to be friends. That’s what the year and a half was about. He wanted it the way he wanted it. I told him I would be friends with him a whole year and a half. He said I have plenty of guy friends that want to be friends with me and he’s not the one
He doesn't want to be your friend but meanwhile he's a terrible lover. So my question is to you why you still in this relationship? A lover is supposed to be a best friend. Know what you need to tell him is that he is a lazy lover and he needs to take responsibility for his relationships and his procrastination in it. It's not fair to you and you deserve better. Your other guy friends have nothing to do with you. You are dating him. You are not dating your friends. It sounds like to me that he's more interested in another person. Or he just wants to go his own way so that way he can date other women.
You need to tell him that he's nothing but a coward. If he actually felt that way too he wasted two plus years of your time.
I’ve told him things like that in the past... he goes angry, cold turkey and I feel like crap... so, I think the best way to deal with it is to act like he’s just “an anybody” and move on... he already said “ I’m not going to be a guy pal” which means he’s not wanting to be an ordinary guy... I’ll make him a nobody guy to me than... at least my guy pals have my attention
I think he only cares about himself and what he wants and if he wants it then he will initiate it “ not me” I’m so over it , thank you so much
Your welcome. That is not somebody you want for a boyfriend. If he wants to be so special that he needs to start treating you with respect. Which sadly he don't even know how to do.
Well, don’t you think he should say “ I’m just in it for the fun” “ I don’t want a relationship “ or “ I can’t have a relationship” Why not just tell me instead of saying “ this serious talk is a turn off”
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