Yeah I did this, I stopped flirting. I keep it professional and only approach her when it's work related. But it seems like she keeps trying to get my attention playfully...She's an attention hoe, right?
I was going to mention that side effect. She will pursue and try to get the attention. Most women see non sexual attention in the same way that men see sexual attention.I once had a woman follow me around like a lost puppy at a job. It was identical to your situation.
How did everything end for you?
She asked me if I would be interested in being with her if she was single. I saw that as more of an attempt to get an ego boost, rather than a serious question. She started to touch and try to tempt me the more I pulled back. This simply showed me that she was not loyal to her partner.Eventually she broke up with her boyfriend and made it very clear she was avaliable but by then, I could no longer take her seriously. Years later she still shows very strong attraction.
This is very interesting. The girl at work has always been avoiding the conversation about her boyfriend but she doesn't actually hide the fact she has one. She would go on vacation with her boyfriend but when I would ask with who, shed say her friends. However, when we had a gathering at a restraraunt for work, she brought him. I am getting positive signs like very strong and long eye contact, lots of flirting, she lets me touch her, touches me, has very good positive body language of attraction. Even does thing like lip biting and licking when looking at me...Like in your situation, I started being distant and it seems like it makes her come at me more often. She sometimes eaves drops on my convos with other people and joins the convo or throws something to grasp my attention and so on..So you think the best option is to keep doing what im doing and keep it professional and avoid anything else right?
The way I see it is why should you give her any benefits, touch, attention, validation or pleasure when she already has a boyfriend. If she was single than it would be different, but she's not. She is trying to get her needs met from the both of you. Why should you allow it?At the end of the day, she's doing all kinds of stuff in bed with the guy, the she's coming to work to try to get other needs met. i say fuck that shit! I'd stay away, keep it professional and stop flirting. That's what I did with the girl I mentioned, saying it was easy. Eventually she started to come to work dressed in the way she discovered I like, down to makeup.
I agree with you, I will not give her any attention and not flirt with her.You said the girl you dealt with had feelings for you and was attracted?Do you think it's the case for me?
From what you've described, I'd say she is attracted. It's likely this attraction will grow as you pull back, partly because most guys do the opposite, and lack any self control.Something else I just remembered. There were times where the girl became a little angry after I stopped giving her attention. Not aggressive, more feisty kind of anger.
omg man! Same here! She gets very annoyed and upset whenever I pull back. She either has a mean mug on her face or she does things like responds with "K" in the work chat and so on.
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