We did actually have sex when we dated. I appreciate your response. Knowing this, do you still believe that a friendship can be formed?
Other than the fact that you both committed sexual sin. I highly doubt that now. because once you start having sex and you not going to want hold yourself back. It's just going to leave you both sexually frustrated and miserable and then next thing you know if you bought that ended up having sex involved with other people then you both are going to end up hurting each other. It's best you both get away now before it gets too complicated than it already is. That's why you don't have sex before marriage. That's one of the top 10 reasons why.
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Home-run. We had sex a few times.
Then sadly no. He’s your ex and any attempts at platonic friendship will not work.
What makes you so confident that it will not work?
Because I’m a guy and I know once a guy has had sex with someone once unless it was a horrible experience he will want to again eventually. You already said it happened more than once so that implies he liked it. As a ‘friend’ he’s going to try and get your panties off again.As a girl it’s clear you had emotional feeling and felt attached to him because you had sex. Nod you broke up but likely some emotions are still there. Am I right, do you still have some emotions for him romantically? Even if not you will get horny and remember how great the connection felt; you will be lonely and want to try it again. Any feelings of friendship lines will be blurred and if you two hang out the temptation will be too strong.So do you still have feelings for him? And can you close your eyes, imagine him naked, and honestly say he’s just a friend?
I see where you are going with this. I honestly really respect his ultimate decision to break up, for it was for a valid reason. The excitement and memories outweigh the sexual experiences I had with him. Of course if I want to remember the sexual experiences I had with him I will be able to vividly remember them (I also kinda have a good memory). I think that if I were to reach out to him, I would need to make it clear that I am ONLY looking to be friends with him and if he makes a move on me, then I will never see him again. I mean even though we’ve seen each other naked doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends, I sure hope that it doesn’t mean that. I could always just try it and see if the friendship works out. I just don’t want to 1. Feel used, 2. Get hurt, 3. Go through the whole process again... but I still want to remain friends with this guy. Because we barely dated 2 months, I don’t feel like that is enough time to become too emotionally invested in someone.. so maybe I’ll give it a try
It’s not going to work but I know you want to try. Just be prepared. When it doesn’t work at least you will know for the future than an ex is an ex and not a friend. I went through the same mindset and also tried to be friends with exes, eventually I learned. Good luck