I want answers. His main chick is still calling and threatening me... i don’t even know
What are the questions? Why do you expect answers from a liar?
His girlfriend is still calling me and threatening me and she messaged me and told me she would take their daughter
Block her. She's lashing out at you when she needs to be talking to her cheating boyfriend. It would be one thing if you knew about her, but since you didn't, you're NOT at fault! She better hone her anger and rage at him instead of wasting it on you.
I have and that’s when she started calling me on other numbers
Hmm... so she's persistent. You can put a restraining order on her, change up your number (I know that's a pain but she's getting to be annoying so...) and contact the authorities. Also, make it clear to her you had NO idea of the relationship and let her know if she contacts you again, you will get the police involved. I mean I get it, when my ex cheated on me I was ticked at the other woman (though she did know about us, but still). But ultimately, it was HIS fault for cheating, and I lashed out at him. I think it's just instinct to be mad at the other woman because, "she took your man." But realistically she knows he's at fault; she's just taking it out on you instead of the guy because she's hurt.
It’s been days and he’s blocked me so that’s why I’m still confused
If his girlfriend is still calling and threatening to, block her and report her threats to the authorities. If she gets too crazy, file a restraining order. As for answers, what more do you need? He is a liar and a cheater and got caught, and had to end his fling with you in order to save his relationship. I really hope you don't want him back... you can do so much better.
They have kids and I’ve heard that she uses their daughter against him when she’s mad
That's horrible. He might not be a bad guy, but now how will you every know if he is or not? At this point it is better to cut it off clean. If he reaches out to you, how will you ever be able to truly trust him. Especially when he started off your relationship with a lie
But he could go to court for a custody battle
Yes he could. If he knows how to do that or if he can somehow navigate being homeless, paying child support, finding a home, maintaining gainful employment while fighting for his rights in a court system that views all fathers by default "Deadbeat". He'll also have to defend himself in a protection order case because if this girl is already manipulating him she knows how to manipulate the system as well. I haven't seen my daughter in over 10 years. And not because I was cheating or using drugs or abusive. Sorry. I can kinda feel for him. But he is already making horrible decisions. Mistake number one lying to someone who obviously cares about him.
There are an infinite number of ways our government and our society as a whole offer any and all support imaginable for a single mother and her children. If a man has a child and is homeless they take the child from the father put the child in foster care and send the man to a homies shelter. Men are not under any circumstances allowed to stay at family shelters
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But i told him to leave me the hell alone anyways
He hasn’t talked to me in 4 days and she’s still calling me from his phone and her phone after he got caught
Because he’s probably telling her lies about you and she’s believing it. You need to tell her to stop, threaten to get the police involved and block both her number and his.
How do you know his girlfriend accepts it
she's still with him and let's take it at face value and say you are the first girl he cheated on her with... he has cut all ties with you and blocked you she got her 2 cents worth in when she threatened you if she didn't accept it he would probably be calling you up for a booty call...what do you think it's a patern that cheaters fallow sometimes they shake it up a bit but basically it's the same where ever you go
I don’t want him back. I just want to know why did he lie... and why he could’ve just left me alone
He’s been at me for two months though
No but his girlfriend tried to use their daughter against him
He still cheated
As soon as she found out he called me and said “don’t tell her about us because she will try and hurt you even though it’s not your fault and she’s mean and dramatic”
That’s just what he’s told you! He doesn’t want you to ruin his relationship.
Why is his girlfriend calling me from his number threatening me? I told him to leave me alone
She feels you had to know and wants some measure of revenge. Tell her the truth and change your number
He told me he was single and that they coparent
Well your young and don't need this mess... so like I said tell her he lied to you and her, you didn't know, change your number and move on
How does he value me more
Meant he values her more.
But his girlfriend is still calling me from her number and his number and threatening me i already told him to leave me alone once i found out
She needs to realise that you're not the problem but her man is lol - did you tell her? Why don't you block her, she sounds like trouble.
I. Blocked her and she called from his phone
Block him too?
I have but I’ve left him alone so what’s the issue
The issue is his girlfriend has found out that her man has been cheating on her and since she has low self esteem she won't admit that it's her man's fault. She is somehow under the impression that it's your fault just so she doesn't have to face the fact that her boyfriend cheated on her.No shade though, we've all been in that situation and then learned from it lol.
It’s crazy because she called me this morning. And called me a fat whore then said that i had low self esteem
Yeah she's defo the one with the low self esteem if she feels she needs to do that.
He told me she tried to take his daughter from him but still
Honestly this is the best way of putting it
@Footballplayz Thanks, man.
Well why did he start acting like that after we had sex
Acting like what?
After we had sex he got weird. He started coming to see me on my lunch break. Asking to buy me food for work. Telling me how he wanted to be able to get close with me. Telling me he’s insecure about me. He started calling me a lot more... he got emotional after sex
Oh I see. I have one of two scenarios for that.1) He and his main chick got into an argument. He started following you for attention2) He got bored.
He’s been at me for two months though? What gives?
He was having troubles at home. If I can give you soem advice. Just move on. You're not going to get the answer you want more than likely. Forget this loser and move on.
He feels ashamed
His girlfriend takes his daughter away when she’s angry which he could file for joint custody
Sounds like something that will have to be decided in court, if ever.
He has been taking me out for weeks
You think she made him?
I think so.
We had sex but after sex he changed
Yeah, he changed when you found out that he has a girlfriend.
I mean he started coming to bring me lunch on my lunch breaks. He started telling me he missed me. He started coming to see me just because without sex. Like he got emotional after sex
If you meant anything good to him, he wouldn't hide the fact that he has a girlfriend. What makes you think he did away with all that 'emotional connection' when you found out that he has a girlfriend?
Yeah you’re right
So why was he acting like that after the sex?
He is done using you ! He was getting pussy from her then you who had better. He most probably had it figured out that if one had her period the other would not have hers. Bet he had another girl just in case of an overlap in periods
So why did he start acting like that after we had sex