Right? when a single guy says it i'm like yeah okay... if you really thought that you'd actually want me.
@AlongCameCindy Exactly!!! Girl I cannot tell you how many guys have said what a catch I am. Single guys.Okay fine, if I'm such a catch why weren't they interested in me then? 🤦♀️ I rather they just keep their mouths shut or at least offer real criticism, not just sweet words.
Lol its like why even say it? might be a different story if they actually wanted you, but the people who say this stuff never do
"might be a different story if they actually wanted you, but the people who say this stuff never do" THANK YOU. I couldn't have said it better myself 👏That's why I rather people not say stuff like that because it seems insincere.
You’re looking at it the wrong way, @Cynicaldreamer. Your problem is that You’re way too cynical. Someone may not feel compatible with you for a reason that does not reflect poorly on you. I honestly see you as lacking confidence in yourself as a partner, and I suspect guys are picking up on that. Just saying.
Lol yep with cynical in the name I agree... I’ve told women I wasn’t interested in they were a “great catch” I’ve also told wen I was interested in they were a great catch... why is it if women think men are the problem do so many of my female friends ask why their still single? Don’t you know most men are trash and you can’t tell the good from the bad...Honestly I avoid women that say I’m a few lbs heavy and if you can’t handle that swipe left or yes ima bitch and I k ow it... them are what you call character flaws and your statements tell me you don’t want to fix them... I work out while still working 12 hr shifts 6 days a week and pickup new hobbies and learn new things currently learning a new language all this and you can’t go on a diet? You can’t speak with some empathy? Ya the double standards and victim mentality of women’s really a problem.
@Avicenna Oh I KNOW I'm cynical; that's no secret, lol. And yes I'm terribly self conscious in my looks and self esteem- do you know why...Because in the past I've had guys that liked me, or my personality rather, yet refused to date me due to my looks- and yes, they said so or their actions reflected that. Or I was not considered attractive enough or "feminine" for them: just to name a few reasons I've been rejected, ghosted, or friendzoned. Of course that would make someone cynical! Do I hold that against all men? No (I want to point that out before someone comes along saying I'm anti-male, I'm blaming men for me being single, or something of that nature. I've been on this site too long to know someone would say it). My point being, I am who I am. If a guy does not accept me that way, well I guess I will be single for the rest of my life- which at the current rate I'm going, seems to be a very likely possibility. However, I rather people, guys or girls, rather not say, "You're such a catch!" Because we all know that's bull; it seems like a piteous compliment people throw out when they feel sorry for you.
So should I tell you your an ugly fat cynical bitch with more character defects than freckles but has a nice smile? Would that be preferred? No instead you bitch cause I call you fat you bitch because someone tries to be nice and not call you fat... at some point I’ll realize your problem isn’t about how others view you but how you think others view you... get off you ass get on a diet and stop being a cynical bitch...I get offended when women complain about being offended men don’t think their good looking... like are you fr right now? Your ugly wear makeup or get surgery. Your fat diet and work out... meanwhile the MOST common bullshit women notice about me is I’m not 6’... for fucking seriously?Women are just happier being a victim. We tell you what we want and you chastise us for it... we want young, beautiful, ladies that will rely on us... not this ok I’m 35 and finally wanna settle, if you can’t handle me at 300lbs you don’t deserve me at 120lbs, I am woman hear me roar! We don’t want a big money maker. We don’t want a strong successful woman to lead us by the collar... but you be what you want and see if men want you.
If you don't fall in love easily, then how would you ever make it to the point of "absolutely adoring" someone?
@Jamie05rhs to be quite honest I'm struggling with that right now as well. I feel like I will date a guy for a while, get no feelings while he does and I feel guilty about not feeling anything and get doubts. I might have developed a fear of commitment, but I'm not sure. Maybe I really haven't met the right person, because most guys I dated I didn't feel an initial spark with from the beginning.
@spuitkaas Hmm; interesting. How would you define a "spark"?
@Jamie05rhs I would say have a real connection, as in the conversation goes fluently and you feel really understood. Besides that, sexual attraction is important. This is created by some flirting. I had a few times where a guy just would not flirt back at all and then awkwardly wanted to kiss me after the date. It felt very weird and sudden. There needs to be some tension first, you can't just create that with kissing.
Hmm. I feel like that is kind of a double-edged sword, though. Because if the guy is really attracted to you (aka "chemistry") then that might make him nervous and make him fumble his words, therefore making him appear less attractive and less interesting in your eyes. Do you know what I mean?I think sometimes conversations can flow better when there are LESS sparks.
I understand what you mean, but I don't mind word stumbling. A flowing conversation comes from having similar mindsets I believe. He can be a bit awkward, but not impaired by his nervousness that he can't express and flirt for several dates. I prefer a more confident guy anyways.
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Not to mention you have more healthy routine instead of loitering around with the wrong partner.
Chicken liver is quite nice.