@Avicenna Thank you! I'm just being honest :)
You’re welcome, and I admire your mature approach.
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Maybe he struggles with some sort of mental disorder that makes progressing slower and harder for him? Like ADD/ADHD for example? I think it was a mistake though that he started a relationship he couldn't handle, he should have waited to finish his studies, secure a job, and then start looking for love. Unless he could find someone that would be fine with waiting of course, maybe someone like him with ADHD or something if he does. But yeah, not everyone can have the capacity to study, work and focus on hobbies at once due to different mental capacities/abilities. However, intentions matter the most, there is a fine line between a lazy person with no goals, and someone with goals but struggles with mental issues that hinders him/her.
As someone who has ADD, it's a no for me. Most people are capable of doing everything with the proper tools. Thing is he has a bachelor of applied sciences in physics, which you can very easily get a good paying job with, but he doesn't want to continue in that field, which is fine and understandable, but I think the whole mindset of 'I can still live off my parents and no work so I can do my hobbies' was very off-putting.Especially because we were dating for a few months and already gave me pressure to hang out more than I was able to, because he had so much free time.I don't blame him for looking for love, because we all want someone to snuggle with even when it's not the best time, but it just wasn't compatible with my stance in life.
Yes, absolutely, the fact he thinks it is fine to live off his parents forever and the fact he pressured you to hang out when you were not able to.. are two red flags that he is not yet mature for a relationship. Apologies for misunderstanding your first post. The reason I sort of objected is I struggle with ADHD since birth, and it makes me feel sad sometimes when most women put all of those expectations on every man regardless of their mental state or abilities. But you were right there, this guy wasn't serious enough.
I understand. I care about someone being smart and ambitious, not what they actually do. I can take care of myself, but I want him to able too.Sorry to hear about your struggles with ADHD. My ADD is a burden for me everyday as well when I'm studying. I hope you can find tools to live your best live with your ADHD.
is drug dealing a job? i see a lot girls with them
@Sevenpointfive If you do it often enough, sure. I wouldn’t date a drug dealer though.
i'd rather be unemployed than a criminal