So in all 3 cases you made your interest known early on. Do you think that’s the only way it works?
In the third case we really were just friends at first. The romantic interest only developed later. It was less than a year later, but it was later. Initially we were friends with no thought of anything more.
I don't think romantic attraction always starts immediately. It can develop over time. Generally though I think that once you get to know someone well, the type of relationship it will be is pretty much set. By about a year, if you have been spending enough time together to really know each other, I think the romantic interest will have developed if it's ever going to - at least if you are adults. People that are friends as kids can develop romantic attraction as they become adults even after many years as friends. With adults though, I think the romantic attraction will happen by the time you know each other pretty well if it's ever going to happen. You might not be able to act on it if one or both people are in a relationship, but I think it will be there by the time you know each other well.
What was the chance? You became single?
No, I was single to start with when we became friends. He asked me out drunk and assumed I said no and tried to get over me... then the topic came up and I pointed out I hadn't turned him down...
We were both pretty close friends, although this started as we both had sucky relationships that had left us pretty broken, so we bonded on that to start with as most of our friends were in relationships around us
Then because close friends as we had loads in common and enjoyed hanging out...
Are your political views similar just out of curiosity?
On the whole they are similar
Do you think that’s necessary for a relationship?
I think it would definitely be more difficult if we have dramatically diffrent views, it would make long term much more difficult in terms of partnership, family etc
How long did it take?
About a year
Wow. Long game. How come?
I kinda kept rejecting him throughout :/ He was sweet for waiting through! Unfortunately when we did get into a relationships things became so different and we were suddenly not compatible at all.
Do you think friends to relationship only works when the guy makes his feelings clear early on then?
Not necessarily, I think him and I just weren't compatible as a couple that's all. I am sure loads of other people have better luck.
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