Do guys normally ask girls to be their girlfriend after sex?

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I’ve been seeing this guy for 2 months and he still hasn’t said he wants to be with me exclusively

We act like a couple, he picks me up from my house everytime we go on dates, go for dinner, movies and bowling, make out.

The only thing we haven’t done is have sex. I’m thinking, does the feelings and exclusivity come after we’ve been intimate?

Do people nowadays like to test the goods before coming off the single market?

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Anonymous

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Don’t disrespect yourself like this, girls think they need to put out because of all these stupid pressures and its not true, shitty men

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  But doesn’t sex release oxytocin which makes you closer to one another?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Yeah but here’s the kicker: they effect is far more powerful on women than on men. So you as a woman are supposed to withhold sex until u get true commitment from the man, like engagement or marriage, otherwise you will always be the one who is more attached chemically. Well at least the first few times, after a few guys have used you you lose your ability to create that strong bond
  
  So sorry you’ve been fed these lies and made bad decisions, hopefully you can learn sooner rather than later and avoid being used again. Men do not respect women who give sex easy but they will never admit it cause they wanna fuck you. It’s a conflict of interest u cannot expect honesty from a man in this situation it is up to you to be strong
OddBeMe | 2.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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If we're fucking, I'd think we're already girlfriend.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  But then wouldn’t that just be friends with benefits?

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DemonInside
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Maybe I got some sort of traumatic shit cause the first time I was with a girl (first girlfriend), she was a germaphobe and didn't like me going down on her. Then during intercourse within just a few minutes, she said it hurt her and I stopped.

So since then I never got that close to a girl until I slept with her. After I did and I liked it, then I unleash my feelings and thoughts on her (well, maybe not all at once, don't wanna scare her away, but I started), and that's when I considered us a real item.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  So you agree that sex should come before exclusivity?
- DemonInside
  
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  Maybe only because of my fucked up first experience. Just because of my bias, I no longer see the point to dating around for months only to discover a starship germaphobic type who feels pain just a few minutes into intercourse while thinking any touching, or licking, of the parts that might stimulate her is gross.
- DemonInside
  
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  * starfish
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- DemonInside
  
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  I'm totally down for waiting for all the way to marriage if she's going to turn out to be a dream lover in bed who likes everything I do, the way I touch her, probe her body, whatnot. But my first experience with my first serious girlfriend (and we waited months before the first time) fucked up that whole dream. So I no longer consider any relationship serious until I've slept with the girl.
- DemonInside
  
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  On this part though, it might sound like I'm some hound-dog all focused on sex. I'm not. The thing about that first girlfriend is that she managed to feel lonely and detached in the bedroom like we weren't connected. It wasn't about not being able to cum after I got my dick inside her. It was about feeling like my style of communication wasn't right for her. I felt lonely. And I never wanted to feel lonely with a girlfriend, in or out of the bedroom, but especially not in because how I am not supposed to feel lonely there if she's my only option and I'm never supposed to cheat on her? So I really didn't want to feel lonely, especially there, if I was gonna go through all the pain of getting and keeping a girlfriend, of being serious. And that first girlfriend made me feel really lonely, especially there. I found some subsequent ones after that didn't make me feel that way. And now I don't trust any relationship to last anymore until I've tested it, including in the bedroom.
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Okay
- DemonInside
  
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  * managed to make me feel lonely
RingOfFire | 434 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I think there are only two ways of becoming exclusive (really only one).

The first way is to have a conversation and you both agree it is exclusive.

The second way is to have sex... after which is should be assumed it is exclusive. However it's only an assumption. And some people might not make that assumption.

So the only way to really assure that you both agree to be exclusive is to have a conversation about it and agree that it is. Without that agreement, you can never be sure what the other person expects.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  I don’t like putting pressure on a guy
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  He should ask me to be his girlfriend without me prompting him
- RingOfFire
  
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  No problem as long as you are okay if he is not exclusive. If you are not okay with it, you have to have the conversation with him otherwise you can't hold him to it. You can't expect him to agree with something unless you have talked about it and he agrees.
ChocoBrownieMonster
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some guys will try before they buy, others will respectfully wait until they think she's right emotionally. Sex is a bargaining tool for girls tbh, they know it and they use it as a weapon to lure him in. Once a guy gets feelings for a girl he will want exclusivity so he doesn't feel cheated, insecure, and heartbroken. I think this guy is on the fence with you and possibly you haven't shown him what he'll miss. Most girls can only offer sex and nothing else.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  What do you mean “on the fence with me” and how can I show him what he will miss?
- ChocoBrownieMonster
  
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  is your life wonderful? can you invite him to places others can't? are you adventurous? when i was 20-30 i was going on regular expeditions, formal events, travelling with my friends, club events and nights out to music places i liked whilst at university, i also developed groups of friends that made me popular. If youve got to know him already he's probably already made a judgement
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Made a judgement that I’m not girlfriend material?
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- ChocoBrownieMonster
  
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  i dont know, i suggest you ask him privately but make sure your tone of voice is calm, soft, nice. Dont be aggressive and dont be standing up. Sit down together. I've had a girl invite me to her bedroom and ask me in an aggressive tone if i like her lol i was made to feel awkward.
DrunkenMonkey1423
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Maybe your overthinking it and your idea of having to announce exclusivity might sound crazy. All I know is it sounds like your dating and only players and sluts would feel the need to announce it. No offense, I sleep around a lot but even me myself have never felt the need to announce something like that.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  So I’m meant to just put up with being friends with him yet kissing and going on dates. What’s wrong with wanting a girlfriend title? At least I know where I stand
- DrunkenMonkey1423
  
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  That's not an issue. What I'm saying is instead of asking if y'all are to be exclusive why don't you ask if y'all are boyfriend and girlfriend?
alance99 | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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A geniune wouldn't propose the gurl after having sex, you are living person not some clother or car who he will decide after trying my geniune advice to you would be to dont have sex until he proposes, i know its difficult for you since you dont know what exactly you would call like dating or friendship since he isn't making the move.

You are a pretty person from inside as well as outside so dont do anything like this 🙂😊

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scuff1986 | 423 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I dunno, I would say everyones different in that respect, but if he does do that is that how you really wanna base your relationship? Or would that just turn it into a friends with benefits idea?

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Ugh I give up on dating
- scuff1986
  
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  I think you need to give up on him as it just seems like he just wants a female friend
MrCommodore | 599 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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It depends, most people have sex quite quickly, bu 2nd or 3rd date, and by that stage I would have a good idea if a girl is girlfriend material.

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  We’ve been on 5 dates but no sex yet
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  He has said he wants to though
- MrCommodore
  
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  You look great, I dont know why he isn't eager to move to the next stage
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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  He said once hotels are open again (after national lockdown) we can have a weekend away so obvs we know what is gonna happen
- MrCommodore
  
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  Oh yeah, love time 😉🤣.
  He lives far from you? Most guys in their 20's would not be so restrained, they would be very keen to be having sex ASAP. I thought he is maybe a virgin, religious or maybe even gay.
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  He lives 10 mins away from me and I doubt he’s a virgin cause he’s been in a serious relationship before so obviously they fucked
- MrCommodore
  
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  Is that you in profile picture?
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Yes 👍🏽
- MrCommodore
  
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  Okay, I am confused by him now. Follow me
TheorionMage | 440 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

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Nearly 'always'... but YOU set the terms and use protection.

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bklynbadboy1 | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Thats depends on the guy. But I advise you to stop I feel like he's using you at this point. He wants to be treated like you man without being your man

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Tbh 2 months isn't that long. Probably wants to get to know me first.
- bklynbadboy1
  
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  Listen I agree but he still want all the perks of being your boyfriend without actually being your boyfriend that is never good cause if you give him everything that he want and he's not your boyfriend what's going to make him be your boyfriend if he's already getting everything you want without having to give you a title
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  I’ll give him till December
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- bklynbadboy1
  
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  Just be careful cause your cool peoples I don't want to see you get hurt
Anonymous

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Yes--absolutely. I wouldn't even consider having an exclusivity conversation with a girl unless we were regularly having sex or at the VERY least getting naked and getting each other off on a regular basis.

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jasco | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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No some times i take my friends out to, just to have someone to talk to, my bff and me have been friends for a long time and we have fun, plus we don't like each other like that anyway

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Younghungguy17 | 72 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I would ask him sounds like your basically dating maybe he assumes you are

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Because he takes me out on dates?
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Thing is, I thought dating was meeting their family and friends too
Bidensucks2020 | 74 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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What is he stone cold asked you to marry him?

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  Huh?
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  We’re not boyfriend and girlfriend
- Bidensucks2020
  
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  A guy could marry a stranger
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- ChocoBrownieMonster
  
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  ask him to take you to vegas ;)
- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  What will happen in Vegas?
- ChocoBrownieMonster
  
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  whatever happens in vegas stays in vegas
Valnac | 136 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Every guy is different!

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mrgspoter
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Never said it only young lol

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  What?
- mrgspoter
  
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  Only said it younger lol
Nayyr
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Guys normally come to their senses

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- Dreamgirl97xo
  
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  After sex?
- Nayyr
  
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  No idea I've never had sex
jordynkong
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Nah, more like a fling is better a arrangement

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Have you asked him?

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Dave31989
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nope

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chriscdi
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I don't know

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