What’s the reasoning behind some guys never dating?

Question

Like I’m 29 and truthfully I have legitimately never had a girlfriend, it’s not something I think about often but when people talk about relationships it’s like oh yeah don’t really know what that’s like

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pigoat | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Answer 2

chris0977

Xper 6

My rebuttal: what's the reasoning behind why guys should date... here's my experience:

Dating a modern woman means, nearly always, in my experience, also dating her phone & fighting for attention, like being an "app", among everything else in her life, on demand at any instant, fighting for her attention (including social attention online.

Many women I meet aren't exactly spending free time reading War in Peace, focusing to grow themselves mentally & emotionally, over being on Snapchat & those with looks tend to believe themselves entitled because of attributes, given by genetics, that can get men's dicks hard (and attention, by result) entitles them to some form of superior right to be demanding & picky.

Show me what actually makes you special (this pisses lots of women off, in my experience, the guy making demands is a "selfish narcissistic jerk" - or something similar)... i. e. not talking, using the same apps, thinking like billions of other women.

I'm currently reading Tolstoy, learning Italian, studying philosophy, developing musical skills, none of which is to chase formal education, finances, material gain, or get attention, but simply develop abilities & my mind... what's your average day like?

chris0977

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I should have elaborated on the last 2 paragraphs as the real questions you should be asking women, as well as yourself... dating sounds like it's a Disney fantasy to you... some reward of emotional satisfaction w/o much consideration to its implications, actual value, beyond, like junk food, tasty now, but not necessarily good for you, something you fantasize about, and crave, simply because you believe it can deliver wanted emotional experiences & relieve pain/discomfort.

You don't want a relationship, because you've never had one, you can only want the idea - fantasy - of a relationship that can only ever exist in your mind, as the real world, due to being far more complicated, will not give satisfaction equal to fantasy.

Answer 3

chris0977

I should have elaborated on the last 2 paragraphs as the real questions you should be asking women, as well as yourself... dating sounds like it's a Disney fantasy to you... some reward of emotional satisfaction w/o much consideration to its implications, actual value, beyond, like junk food, tasty now, but not necessarily good for you, something you fantasize about, and crave, simply because you believe it can deliver wanted emotional experiences & relieve pain/discomfort.

You don't want a relationship, because you've never had one, you can only want the idea - fantasy - of a relationship that can only ever exist in your mind, as the real world, due to being far more complicated, will not give satisfaction equal to fantasy.

Answer 4

KimKardashiansFeet

Xper 6

Like others are saying; low self confidence, fear of rejection or perhaps lack of interest. Id also like to add that being "dense" might also be a reason why. I myself am dense and because of this I have missed out on guys who liked me back cause I never really got the message.

I will only get the message if someone is upfront about their feelings and saying "I love you" is not enough in my case..

Jamie05rhs

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How the f can "I love you" not be enough?
KimKardashiansFeet

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bruh Im stupid, ok? like if someone says "I love you" I will take it as "I love you (as a friend)"
Jamie05rhs

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Ohhhhhh. Gotchaaa
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Jamie05rhs

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Honestly, I may have done that before myself. But if it comes out of nowhere, it's hard to take it seriously without any context. (... Oh. Wait a minute... F*ck...)

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Jamie05rhs

How the f can "I love you" not be enough?

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KimKardashiansFeet

bruh Im stupid, ok? like if someone says "I love you" I will take it as "I love you (as a friend)"

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Jamie05rhs

Ohhhhhh. Gotchaaa

Answer 8

Jamie05rhs

Honestly, I may have done that before myself. But if it comes out of nowhere, it's hard to take it seriously without any context. (... Oh. Wait a minute... F*ck...)

Answer 9

anon1903 | 390 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

You can simply not want it. People countlessly ask me online why relationships do not interest me. Sometimes I care enough to lie "haven't found the right one" but really, I just don't. I guess what I'm trying to say this, its okay not to want things that other people do. Everyone aren't the same

RawIronhide

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Pardon me for sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but could it be that you just don't like all the neggitive aspects of modern dating. I mean everyone wants a close friend right?
anon1903

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Relationships are hard
Jamie05rhs

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@anon1903 Indeed they are. But is that reason enough to avoid them entirely?
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anon1903

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I've BPD tendencies so its like climbing a mountain
Jamie05rhs

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Oh. Thanks for explaining.
RawIronhide

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@anon1903 You seem nice and we'll reasoned, I think if you wish, you could figure it out with the right person. If it's something you feel you really want, keep trying. either way good luck to you both.

Answer 10

RawIronhide

Pardon me for sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but could it be that you just don't like all the neggitive aspects of modern dating. I mean everyone wants a close friend right?

Answer 11

anon1903

Relationships are hard

Answer 12

Jamie05rhs

@anon1903 Indeed they are. But is that reason enough to avoid them entirely?

Answer 13

anon1903

I've BPD tendencies so its like climbing a mountain

Answer 14

Jamie05rhs

Oh. Thanks for explaining.

Answer 15

RawIronhide

@anon1903 You seem nice and we'll reasoned, I think if you wish, you could figure it out with the right person. If it's something you feel you really want, keep trying. either way good luck to you both.

Answer 16

OlderAndWiser | 6.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

I assume that guys who don't date are just too scared to ask a girl for a date and are afraid to experience rejection.

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Bandit74 | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Not attractive, low confidence and never asked anyone. I think I probably could get a girlfriend if I tried hard enough but it still wouldn't be satisfying to me. Part of it is that I don't really want to be with a girl where she is the first and potentially only girl I ever sleep with meanwhile I'm like her 8th or whatever. Even though I think I could get a relationship I don't think I'm desirable enough to get a fuck buddy let alone multiple which is what I would need to do in order to catch up to where the average girl is. I also think girls are pickier about looks for casual sex than for relationships which means that most of the guys she hooked up with previously would probably be on average more conventionally attractive than me ie taller, more muscular, more masculine face, probably more endowed etc. And ultimately I think even if I got a girlfriend I'd realistically just be the backup plan she settles for after none of the more attractive guys she slept with wanted to commit to her which aside from the obvious ego blow would also likely increase the odds of infidelity and/or divorce which already seems fairly common anyways.

Bandit74

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Bandit74

no idea why that turned into a hyperlink

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VanillaSalt | 159 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Quality of the man.
Men these days are lacking in many ways.

Quality of women available today.
Feminism am I right ;).
Lack of desire/interest.
What do I get out of this deal. Women will put out easy enough I don’t have to commit.
Never mind marriage is nothing but trouble for a man.
With marriage being what it is the rate of divorce is nearly 50% for first time divorces going up nearly 10% per extra divorce. When divorce happens the man will 90% of the time be stuck paying alimony. If they had kids the man will I believe the number was 85% of the time have secondary custody and will pay 50% of his income for child support.

If you have no interest be happy. Your lucky. Guys like me that want a good relationship and kids won’t have it because of all these reasons. Their mainly generalized issues and there’s some good women and men can be worthy and marriage don’t have to end in divorce but what are the odds? Such low odds that playing the games pretty much a waste of time.

Answer 20

Pasiton5

Xper 4

Comfortable with them selves some dudes like their freedom not bring tied down being alone you have to take like who you are too be alone and still enjoy your self, most people can't stand themselves especially when it comes to being alone I'm about it does get lonely at times but not too sound selfish you only have your own attitude to deal with not having to listen to someone whine constantly about the same thing their crappy job no good guy or girl and take a closer look at those who claim this is my best friend you begin to notice best friend are too make you look better it's always the best friend who is a little shorter faster skinnier unsocial just not on par with you, fake is what I'm saying. But that's society today being fake in denial can't handle the truth but guys who don't date much is too busy living their lives their way solo and when they do socialize almost always have something of interest value to talk about make women in the room look turn their heads as I walk by or engage them in conversation nicest person you ever want to meet nothing phoney real,

Answer 21

cth96190 | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

If men choose to not date, here are a few reasons:
Title IX; #MeToo; false rape allegations; false domestic violence allegations; paternity fraud; being ordered to pay child support for another man's child; being sent to prison indefinitely because he cannot pay the court-imposed child support; losing everything that he owns in the Family Court if he cohabits with a female.
The cherry on top was created by a Canadian court about two months ago, which ordered a man to pay spousal support to a woman who he dated, but with whom he did not cohabit.
What that means, in Canada (expect it to spread), is that if a man dates a woman she can use a court to go after his income and his property. Even dating has become too dangerous to contemplate.
Glance at a woman as she walks past = sexual harassment complaint.
Show interest in a woman = sexual harassment complaint
Ask a woman on a date = sexual harassment complaint
Go on a date = false rape allegation
Have consensual sex = false rape allegation
She becomes pregnant = possible paternity fraud (Chad or Tyrone may have been the father) and 20 years of child-support payments, whether or not the child is his.
Cohabit with a female = false rape and domestic violence allegations
Marry a female = there is a 50 per cent probability that within eight years she will leave and use the Family Court to steal everything that the man has and use child and spousal support orders to turn him into her impoverished slave for at least the next 20 years. There is a 90 per cent probability that university 'educated' females will initiate a divorce. Conclusion: avoid university educated females.
In summary, in every aspect of the human mating game, women, as a collective, have chosen to make themselves so toxic to men that we should put biohazard and radiation warning signs on them.

Answer 22

Citizenkirk | 126 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I guess I can relate, so I did once in awhile a lot of the social interactions I had with the opposite gender resulted from us just being in the same place at the same time and not wanting to be with those around us who are originally responsible for being in the same place at the same time. Or from some situation where we both were either lonely and in need of company, or just Randy and all around horny at the time. I can contribute pairing with a girl more often to chance and circumstance than I can from an actual planned date or courting engagement.
It seems like some of the intimate experiences I've had with the opposite sex have been less about me being the most desirable person in a group and more about being the least offensive or chauvinistic one in the group. Sometimes biing the only guy not trying to touch her inappropriately ends up making me the only guy she actually wants to touch her.

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godfatherfan | 928 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I never had a girlfriend before I got married, just a handful of first dates and a few second dates. Then I was with my exwife for 25 years 4 days. The last 7 years I really have only had 1serious relationship that lasted 8 months in 2015. But due to distance, we only saw each other 1x a week on avg, it wasn't much of a relationship. I had a couple that lasted 2 months. Honestly, since I never lived on my own when I was younger, I decided back in 2016 to take "at least a year" for myself. That has turned into 4 years. I enjoy being able to do what I want, when I want. Eat what I want, when I want. Sleep as much as I want, when I want. Nobody bitching at me anymore. I also work midnight's. Most women don't even want to try and make that work, even through I have 3 nights off each week (Fri, Sat, Sun). I am finally at a point where I think I might get serious about dating again, once covid is done. we shall see.

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The_Sal2

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Some of us had so much it's not a big deal anymore. Girls today are also more unfaithful it's not worth the heartbreak. Also depends on where you live I found conservative women to be the more laid-back faithful type compared to say california women. It's mostly about the areas you're in.
Me too movement, feminist movement. People around them swaying their minds to think a certain way. Conservative women stick to old traditional values. I suggest looking for those type of girls stay away from city girls

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MCheetah | 294 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Well, like you, I've almost never dated, as well. I've been on dates, but very rarely have I gone steady (made it official) with any of them. Out of ten women, I've only had two "relationships" in my life, and I've certainly tried throughout my twenties. But I think it's a mix of this:

- Modern women being too picky and entitled
- The man not being tall enough for modern women
- The man not being attractive looking/fit
- The man lacking confidence or being too afraid
- There being a bad selection of singles in your local area
- Either party not having enough time to date in their lives
- Either party having relationship baggage they haven't moved past yet

Believe me, I know what it's like to get a case of the Lones (loneliness) at times.

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Silver158 | 224 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

It depends. If I found a decent woman that I actually like and get along with then yeah I'd relationship the shit out of her.

But so far my dating experience has been meeting girls who are just straight up horrible selfish people. Either attention seekers, cheaters (cheating on someone who isn't me usually) or just trying to take advantage of me (had 1 girl who admitted to having issues with her living situation try to convince me to let her move in after the 2nd date... seen on facebook later that she was posting memes about using guys for their money soooooo...). I mean I don't paint every woman with the same brush but so far my experience hasn't been great.

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Sonorous | 296 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Well, there are many many reasons. But a common one is gynocentrism. When it comes to dating and mating, women have the upper hand. Men usually have to play by their rules and meet their requirements in order to even be a candidate for a lasting relationship. Power dynamics man.

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Levin | 704 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

It's all personal.

You must know your own reasoning. It's about self awareness.

Have you been focused on your career? Are you not interested in women? Have you suffered previous issues in childhood or parental relationships that have affected your relationships going forward? Have you not pursued women? Do you have low self confidence/people skills? Could be for a multitude of reasons.

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RawIronhide | 145 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I'm 24 I think about it constantly. Maybe it's just not for you but highly doubtful. I believe you should reevaluate what you want out of life and reconsider the power you have to do something about it. You really just want to be alone like that until you're dead? I doubt it.

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Celtero | 946 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I've never dated, and I was kind of an insecure and low self-esteemed individual in my youth, but I'm just over women now. They're not that interesting, they're not that attractive, they sleep around, and I don't get the feeling they want to make a positive impact in my life.

Answer 31

lexes

Xper 1

the last relationship i was in fuct me up bad.. i was involved in a manipulative narcissistic relationship. that left me damage bad... she told me things like im never goin to meet anybody else like her and im goin to be single forever... them statements are resonated in my head... now i wonder if that is goin to be the case?

Answer 32

DeltaCharlieEcho | 113 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

A lot of guys learn that good women are insanely rare and it makes dating less desirable. Most women and men are pieces of shit, and must women use up their worth by the time they decide to settle down and have a family. Unfortunately, even with more good men than good women, women tend to make horrible decisions and choose the wrong guys and proceed to run a good thing when they do end up with a good guy.

It sucks but women don't operate the same way men do with cold calculated effort, they almost always follow the path most traveled and choose guys based on preselection bias.

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The_Outlaw | 51 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Some guys just as well as gals are happy just playing the field. More freedom, less if any drama. Most everyone wants to be with someone but if that someone, for example, is toxic, you're better off. For me personally, I'm OK with it. Just shit luck, all the time, man!

Answer 34

winterfox10 | 3.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I know that a lot of the women I've tried dating simply aren't looking for relationships. They categorically aren't interested. So I don't really date, because women just aren't interested in dating me. So rather than fighting that long battle; I'd rather just have fun in the ways I can.

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lightbulb27 | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I did the same, although few dates, but very short ones.

I was f'd up, scared of girls and cursed myself out of having a family. trauma ontop of trauma and wallah... no interest in girls or run from them.

or maybe it just isn't your thing and life plan. But start examinign why you do what you do.. probably conditioning in life.

Asker

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Well early on I was led to believe I am hideous
lightbulb27

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Me too along w other abuse. Ots not true nor relevant... just a way to control and oppress you. you'll have to heal that inner child andboost self worth and image. Hard work... else be a slave to whom programmed you... those the choices.

Answer 36

Asker

Well early on I was led to believe I am hideous

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lightbulb27

Me too along w other abuse. Ots not true nor relevant... just a way to control and oppress you. you'll have to heal that inner child andboost self worth and image. Hard work... else be a slave to whom programmed you... those the choices.

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karangill | 82 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Not every guy has the opportunity where women are throwing themselves at him.

Another reason could be he's a mama's boy and hasn't mature yet (doesn't matter how old he is)

Some guy worked hard for their career and waited until their 30's and 40's to get in a relationship but now they complain how no good women are left for them to marry (either they're divorced, have kids, not good quality or whatever)

Answer 39

Juxtapose | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I switched from women to femboys and while they are rare, they are much more amicable and don't have huge egos.

You gotta be at least a little bisexual to handle it though.

I've dated men and women and men are much easier to deal with by far. God bless these poor straight men..

Reaperbot666

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some modern studies show that on average couples who are M + M or M + T
have a high success rate then couples who are M + F, F + F or F + T.
due to modern relationship laws and drama caused by F's
Juxtapose

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That doesn't surprise me. Men's brains aren't designed for drama or coded messages like women's brains are.
Reaperbot666

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also because of the modern far left and feminism trying to change F's into M's more.

Answer 40

Reaperbot666

some modern studies show that on average couples who are M + M or M + T
have a high success rate then couples who are M + F, F + F or F + T.
due to modern relationship laws and drama caused by F's

Answer 41

Juxtapose

That doesn't surprise me. Men's brains aren't designed for drama or coded messages like women's brains are.

Answer 42

Reaperbot666

also because of the modern far left and feminism trying to change F's into M's more.

Answer 43

TheAfrikan | 248 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

That is currently my mood and life for now. I have been out of the dating life for some big time for sure. It is not that i hate being with women or i have some kind of twisted desires. But is is more of that much time i do dedicate to me as well as in the pursuit to hit my goals. So it tends to steal up all my focus and time.
Bt all that said am still open for any understanding woman i am to come across, since am willing to live a settled life now.
and you should know that it is all normal if you still single at that age or rather never dated before. We have to live our own live in our own style.

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just_legit1998 | 52 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I keep on thinking of staying single forever, because even if we have a strong relationship, it won't last as we know it. One evidence is being a widow/widower, yeah you have kids with your partner but one of you will break each other's hearts when your time will come, and being widowed for me is 100 times even more painful than being divorced or dumped, not being negative though, it's just my thoughts.

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MissDawn7961 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I have 2 older brothers and the oldest one only dated once ! I think the reason that he does not date and is not interested in dating is because he has 3 older sisters and his youngest sister ( me ) to contend with so I think he figures he has enough women in his life as it is with out dating another woman ! thanks

Answer 46

Anonymous

Well let's face it dating is very different than it used to be. The reason for dating in years gone by was to be in search of the "prize", which was marrying a good woman. That "prize" is really no longer a reality for most. Marriage is not nearly as appealing to men as it used to be because most of the benefits to men have disappeared, while at the same time the risks of marriage to men have gone way up. And one of the primary benefits of marriage, sex, is easily available without all the risks and costs of marriage, so what's the point? I don't think it's any mystery why so many guys are not interested in dating these days.

Answer 47

Anonymous

I stopped dating. It's not worth the trouble. You'd soon realize that if you tried. Dating is simply a guy trying to impress a girl, it's one sided and unworthy of time. I'd say the reasoning some guys never get to date was due to dating apps (purely looks), ego dominance, and unreasonable standards.

Asker

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I don’t really have any standards
Opinion Owner

15 d
I meant unreasonable standards of women...

Answer 48

Asker

I don’t really have any standards

Answer 49

Opinion Owner

I meant unreasonable standards of women...

Answer 50

devilish-cutie | 905 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Because dating is fucking hard, there is no manual

Because people dont want to gwt hurt n love requires you to fully open ysf to someone and its a very sensitive and n personal matter for many

Because they think it will happen eventually
People have dreams n ideals n dont face reality of life and practical ways one must go to even in terms of love

Answer 51

DizzyDesii | 2.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Some prob enjoy not having to commit and getting to dick down a new girl daily. Others prob dont wanna deal with the drama that most girls will bring, so theyre fine being single and committing to the gym and video games more. And then there's the ones who want a girlfriend but can't get one because they dont have that sexual appeal in terms of looks

Answer 52

Anonymous

Takes a lot to put yourself our there for women who do not appreciate it. Women demand far more value in a man than they are willing to provide themselves, have an entitled mentality and seek unicorns for mates (long lists of deal breakers) and are becoming increasingly high maintenance. You'll be wealthier and happier to concentrate on yourself-use escorts for sex (its guaranteed and they are less expensive than a girlfriend or wife-and usually better looking too). There is nothing-zero-for men either in dating or in marriage.

Answer 53

Anonymous

I'm not a guy, but I feel like people now are pressured to be in a relationship. It's like if you're single, no one loves you or you're not wanted. I feel people shouldn't rush into relationships, because if you just get into one, I feel you have a higher chance of breaking up. Take as long as you want to get into a relationship. You still have years of living left. You'll know you want to be with someone when you're ready.

Answer 54

humanearth | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

My daughter is 25 and has no interest in dating. As a matter a fact they are quite a few family members that are happy staying single. Like a 90 year old aunt, two 60 something uncle's and a sister in-law. So it must run in the family

Answer 55

jabariw18

Xper 4

I'm 29 as well and I've only ever had one real relationship. My reason is just nobody ever wants to date me and honestly I don't have the slightest idea why.

Answer 56

Elsa143 | 105 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Even some girls also don't prefer to date.
Key reason : Sheer waste of time and a burden.
It's better to invest your time on being a couch potato than waste it on a meaningless dating.
Some want a future and that's why they don't date because they know that the opposite gender is only interested for sex and short term love. Some simply love their personal space, freedom and career more so they don't wanna ruin it. I am both of the above person.

Answer 57

buckyboy

Xper 5

Dude, its the same for me. I never had a girlfriend till now and I am 21. Its not that i am not interested. Its just that i wanna procastinate and enjoy the privileges of being single.
All my friends are dating and they are doubting about my orientation. 🤣
I guess there are many guys like me in this world. Much love to you brother ❤

Answer 58

Anonymous

BC some guys have lost the genetic lottery of looks.

They embrace themselves. Therefore avoid relationships and dating and find other sources of happiness. Because according to them relationship are not meant for them. So they study philosophy create their own world of happiness. And live their rest of their remaining life.

Answer 59

Anonymous

We been hurt some many times. Not worth the trouble anymore. Girls on dating sites don't want any relationships Because they only want attention nothing serious 😒. Almost a lot of girls they only want what they're looking for besides not looking for a relationship. They want ego boosts, money, attention and so on but NO RELATIONSHIPS. 😒 It's all about the looks and SIZE DO MATTER and all the fucking sluts will fucking deny it because they're all fucking manipulators 😠😠😠😠.

Asker

15 d
Had a girl a while ago use me just for attention
Opinion Owner

15 d
I had a girl for a only month but she ran to somebody else with a big cock 🍆 then she quickly gets engaged with him then after 6 days after meeting him then a month later they got married 😤. Some reason and it happens each time when a girl comes to me then she runs off to someone else after me then she gets a happy ending.

Answer 60

Asker

Had a girl a while ago use me just for attention

Answer 61

Opinion Owner

I had a girl for a only month but she ran to somebody else with a big cock 🍆 then she quickly gets engaged with him then after 6 days after meeting him then a month later they got married 😤. Some reason and it happens each time when a girl comes to me then she runs off to someone else after me then she gets a happy ending.

Answer 62

EssenceOfLight | 63 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Different people have different needs. I know some good looking guys who are always solo and ugly mofos who have always a girlfriend.
Personally I find that lot of people focus too much on relationship as an obligatory thing. Every time it fails it's a huge drama becasue something that is forced never makes fun.

Answer 63

whatiflifewasmore

Xper 2

I know this question is directed to men but I just wanted to add that there are women that also never date. I feel some people are doing other things with life and not focusing so much in the dating scene.

Answer 64

DiegoO | 753 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I am 30 and I only had a LDR. My situation is compromising. Less than before, since I finish college, however, I am still unemployed, there is certain tension in the air, and I don't gonna involve any potential girlfriend in it.

DiegoO

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The LDR was serious****
DiegoO

13 d
My recommendation, is... Do not wait on the perfect moment, only assure there are not major problems in your life, or anything that compromise your time and energy, otherwise any relation you get into, will wreck you.

You said you never had a girlfriend, what about sexual partners? (Which is not the same). If you never had sex before, better inform yourself good on the subject.

Answer 65

DiegoO

The LDR was serious****

Answer 66

DiegoO

My recommendation, is... Do not wait on the perfect moment, only assure there are not major problems in your life, or anything that compromise your time and energy, otherwise any relation you get into, will wreck you.

You said you never had a girlfriend, what about sexual partners? (Which is not the same). If you never had sex before, better inform yourself good on the subject.

Answer 67

guywithissues900

Xper 5

Too much drama, too much emotions, too much commitment.

Young guys don’t commit easily. We want to sleep with as many girls as possible and date as many as we want. We don’t wanna deal with limitations like a relationship.

That is what true freedom is.

Answer 68

thehorriblesheikh

Xper 5

You are exactly like me. I see intimacy and love as something I want to share with every friend I make, not with one person. For that reason, I avoid relationships and commitment.

Answer 69

ronaldsnugs

Xper 4

It sounds like you have something mentally going on that might need to be talked out with a DR.
Not caring to connect deeper, not wanting love, not wanting closeness and intimacy , etc... are all things that are just not normal for humans. Reptiles yes. Amphibians yes. Humans... no. So at your age and still not being interested, something is off.

ronaldsnugs

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Also, question, are you overweight? Or just viewed as ugly? I ask because I knew am extremely obsess guy, age 20ish who I use to work with. He had already giving up on thinking anyone would ever love him so he bought a house with his friend instead. When I asked about this he said no one would ever marry him and he knew that so he accepted it and said he would care for friends the way he would if they were his own family.

Answer 70

ronaldsnugs

Also, question, are you overweight? Or just viewed as ugly? I ask because I knew am extremely obsess guy, age 20ish who I use to work with. He had already giving up on thinking anyone would ever love him so he bought a house with his friend instead. When I asked about this he said no one would ever marry him and he knew that so he accepted it and said he would care for friends the way he would if they were his own family.

Answer 71

Billie_ | 184 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

you're being yourself. its not mandatory to have relationships. you're doing just fine.

Answer 72

On_cloud_wine | 109 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

You have to get yourself out there. Approach women. Don’t fear rejection

Asker

15 d
How do I not fear rejection
On_cloud_wine

15 d
By being rejected at least once. Pull your big boy boxers up and do it again
Asker

15 d
Here’s the thing I’m really self conscious I already dislike myself when a girl points out all my negative aspects it becomes too much
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On_cloud_wine

15 d
If it’s bothering you that much, improve yourself, or find a chick who will accept all your flaws and imperfections
Asker

15 d
No girl will accept my imperfections you have to be perfect to get a girlfriend
On_cloud_wine

15 d
No you don’t. Some people help us improve
Asker

15 d
So I was once rejected by a girl and she made me feel even worse about myself she actually guilt tripped me because I liked her
On_cloud_wine

15 d
Maybe she’s just really blunt. There’s nicer ways to reject someone.
On_cloud_wine

15 d
Why would she feel the need to make you feel guilty to push you away?
Asker

15 d
Well what really sucked is when rejected me but still loved my attention she wouldn’t let me distance myself from her
On_cloud_wine

15 d
Friend zone
Asker

15 d
Why wouldn’t she let me distance myself from her like she came to my house twice curled up to me laid her head on my shoulder and said she felt it was meant for me to be in her life she also had her chest all out like she just came from work came over in a sport bra with just a hoodie over it and she had it unzipped
EclecticEmapath1111

15 d
Sounds like she wanted you f*** her. Did you make a move at that point?
The_Sal2

14 d
You better had made a move that's a clear sign she wants the peen
On_cloud_wine

14 d
Sounds like she doesn’t mind letting you know she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants.
On_cloud_wine

14 d
Basically she said, you’re not good enough for me, but I’m considering sex
Jamie05rhs

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@On_cloud_wine EXACTLY! That's the problem!! If I'm not good enough for you, what gives you the nerve and audacity to actually believe that you are entitled to my body? I am not a woman's plaything. I am a PERSON, goshdammit.
The_Sal2

14 d
@Jamie05rhs lol
EclecticEmapath1111

14 d
Then lock up the "D" and tell her to go "F" herself, Jamie.
Jamie05rhs

11 d
Lol. I may just do that.
The_Sal2

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@Jamie05rhs you sound like a conceited idiot
Jamie05rhs

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@The_Sal2 Cool your jets, there, Sparky. It was a joke.

Answer 73

Asker

How do I not fear rejection

Answer 74

On_cloud_wine

By being rejected at least once. Pull your big boy boxers up and do it again

Answer 75

Asker

Here’s the thing I’m really self conscious I already dislike myself when a girl points out all my negative aspects it becomes too much

Answer 76

On_cloud_wine

If it’s bothering you that much, improve yourself, or find a chick who will accept all your flaws and imperfections

Answer 77

Asker

No girl will accept my imperfections you have to be perfect to get a girlfriend

Answer 78

On_cloud_wine

No you don’t. Some people help us improve

Answer 79

Asker

So I was once rejected by a girl and she made me feel even worse about myself she actually guilt tripped me because I liked her

Answer 80

On_cloud_wine

Maybe she’s just really blunt. There’s nicer ways to reject someone.

Answer 81

On_cloud_wine

Why would she feel the need to make you feel guilty to push you away?

Answer 82

Asker

Well what really sucked is when rejected me but still loved my attention she wouldn’t let me distance myself from her

Answer 83

On_cloud_wine

Friend zone

Answer 84

Asker

Why wouldn’t she let me distance myself from her like she came to my house twice curled up to me laid her head on my shoulder and said she felt it was meant for me to be in her life she also had her chest all out like she just came from work came over in a sport bra with just a hoodie over it and she had it unzipped

Answer 85

EclecticEmapath1111

Sounds like she wanted you f*** her. Did you make a move at that point?

Answer 86

The_Sal2

You better had made a move that's a clear sign she wants the peen

Answer 87

On_cloud_wine

Sounds like she doesn’t mind letting you know she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants.

Answer 88

On_cloud_wine

Basically she said, you’re not good enough for me, but I’m considering sex

Answer 89

Jamie05rhs

@On_cloud_wine EXACTLY! That's the problem!! If I'm not good enough for you, what gives you the nerve and audacity to actually believe that you are entitled to my body? I am not a woman's plaything. I am a PERSON, goshdammit.

Answer 90

The_Sal2

@Jamie05rhs lol

Answer 91

EclecticEmapath1111

Then lock up the "D" and tell her to go "F" herself, Jamie.

Answer 92

Jamie05rhs

Lol. I may just do that.

Answer 93

The_Sal2

@Jamie05rhs you sound like a conceited idiot

Answer 94

Jamie05rhs

@The_Sal2 Cool your jets, there, Sparky. It was a joke.

Answer 95

NamerOfStars | 448 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Well, why don't you tell us? You're the one not doing it.

Answer 96

9Livezzz | 57 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

To much of a risk factor now. You are facing much higher risks of major losses when you date. I think of it like this now. Relationships don't work out more than 60% of the time and that's low balling it. If you were about to go skydiving and your parachute had more than a 60% chance of not opening, would you jump?

Answer 97

newfreshstart

Xper 5

i'm 25 i have never dated i'm not really interested in dating

plus i would speak my mind while dating not like man who are pussy's and let their girlfriends control them

Answer 98

IDKANYMOREIMCONFUSED

Xper 1

my opinion is that we have been broken so much we never accept love or that we just aren't interested in having a relationship or the fact that girls are confusing and when u get something wrong in a relationship because of that it hurts or that were scared to fall in love or we just plain out never thought of it

Answer 99

Dongtai | 596 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Lack of consistent effort and self-improvement. I truly believe any guy can be successful in dating. It may be harder and easier to some guys. But I don’t believe that it’s impossible for any guy to not get a date with a woman he genuinely desires.

Answer 100

EclecticEmapath1111

Xper 5

I don't really know but, desire is pretty important. If you want to then, give it a try. If you DGAF then you don't date.

Answer 101

Daniel3035 | 772 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Honestly, I'm told 27 and up is where it happens for guys girls in their early 20's just go for older guys.

Answer 102

Fromdusktilldawn | 579 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I'm not self confident enough for a girlfriend and I have got turned down too much so I stopped putting in effort

Answer 103

Bruhbois

Xper 4

Asexuality, lack of desirable traits (physical AND personality), fear spread by movements like MGTOW, sometimes careers also get in the way of even trying to find someone.

Answer 104

Dchrls78104 | 3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Like you, I have never had a girlfriend. I have never dated or kissed anyone. In my case, it is because I have never found the right girl ( every girl I've ever looked at having been unavailable or else unsuitable) and I don't like what is on offer.

Answer 105

art84 | 381 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I have social anxiety and fear rejection plus don't see myself as interesting enough to date.

Answer 106

Liam_Hayden | 3.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

For most it is because they do not ask enough girls.

Asker

15 d
I have maybe asked out girls ever

Answer 107

Asker

I have maybe asked out girls ever

Answer 108

msc545 | 881 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

This is kind of unusual and I think you might be the only person that can answer this question for yourself. Why is it that you don't date?

Answer 109

MountAverage | 285 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Usually because they can't attract women. Either because of their personality, their lack of social skills, their physical appearance, or any combination of those.

Jamie05rhs

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I think I have a good personality, but I do lack social skills.
MountAverage

14 d
@Jamie05rhs That's something you can work on.
Jamie05rhs

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@MountAverage I guess so.