I should have elaborated on the last 2 paragraphs as the real questions you should be asking women, as well as yourself... dating sounds like it's a Disney fantasy to you... some reward of emotional satisfaction w/o much consideration to its implications, actual value, beyond, like junk food, tasty now, but not necessarily good for you, something you fantasize about, and crave, simply because you believe it can deliver wanted emotional experiences & relieve pain/discomfort.You don't want a relationship, because you've never had one, you can only want the idea - fantasy - of a relationship that can only ever exist in your mind, as the real world, due to being far more complicated, will not give satisfaction equal to fantasy.
How the f can "I love you" not be enough?
bruh Im stupid, ok? like if someone says "I love you" I will take it as "I love you (as a friend)"
Honestly, I may have done that before myself. But if it comes out of nowhere, it's hard to take it seriously without any context. (... Oh. Wait a minute... F*ck...)
Pardon me for sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but could it be that you just don't like all the neggitive aspects of modern dating. I mean everyone wants a close friend right?
Relationships are hard
@anon1903 Indeed they are. But is that reason enough to avoid them entirely?
I've BPD tendencies so its like climbing a mountain
Oh. Thanks for explaining.
@anon1903 You seem nice and we'll reasoned, I think if you wish, you could figure it out with the right person. If it's something you feel you really want, keep trying. either way good luck to you both.
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no idea why that turned into a hyperlink
Well early on I was led to believe I am hideous
Me too along w other abuse. Ots not true nor relevant... just a way to control and oppress you. you'll have to heal that inner child andboost self worth and image. Hard work... else be a slave to whom programmed you... those the choices.
some modern studies show that on average couples who are M + M or M + Thave a high success rate then couples who are M + F, F + F or F + T.due to modern relationship laws and drama caused by F's
That doesn't surprise me. Men's brains aren't designed for drama or coded messages like women's brains are.
also because of the modern far left and feminism trying to change F's into M's more.
I don’t really have any standards
I meant unreasonable standards of women...
Had a girl a while ago use me just for attention
I had a girl for a only month but she ran to somebody else with a big cock 🍆 then she quickly gets engaged with him then after 6 days after meeting him then a month later they got married 😤. Some reason and it happens each time when a girl comes to me then she runs off to someone else after me then she gets a happy ending.
The LDR was serious****
My recommendation, is... Do not wait on the perfect moment, only assure there are not major problems in your life, or anything that compromise your time and energy, otherwise any relation you get into, will wreck you. You said you never had a girlfriend, what about sexual partners? (Which is not the same). If you never had sex before, better inform yourself good on the subject.
Also, question, are you overweight? Or just viewed as ugly? I ask because I knew am extremely obsess guy, age 20ish who I use to work with. He had already giving up on thinking anyone would ever love him so he bought a house with his friend instead. When I asked about this he said no one would ever marry him and he knew that so he accepted it and said he would care for friends the way he would if they were his own family.
How do I not fear rejection
By being rejected at least once. Pull your big boy boxers up and do it again
Here’s the thing I’m really self conscious I already dislike myself when a girl points out all my negative aspects it becomes too much
If it’s bothering you that much, improve yourself, or find a chick who will accept all your flaws and imperfections
No girl will accept my imperfections you have to be perfect to get a girlfriend
No you don’t. Some people help us improve
So I was once rejected by a girl and she made me feel even worse about myself she actually guilt tripped me because I liked her
Maybe she’s just really blunt. There’s nicer ways to reject someone.
Why would she feel the need to make you feel guilty to push you away?
Well what really sucked is when rejected me but still loved my attention she wouldn’t let me distance myself from her
Why wouldn’t she let me distance myself from her like she came to my house twice curled up to me laid her head on my shoulder and said she felt it was meant for me to be in her life she also had her chest all out like she just came from work came over in a sport bra with just a hoodie over it and she had it unzipped
Sounds like she wanted you f*** her. Did you make a move at that point?
You better had made a move that's a clear sign she wants the peen
Sounds like she doesn’t mind letting you know she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants.
Basically she said, you’re not good enough for me, but I’m considering sex
@On_cloud_wine EXACTLY! That's the problem!! If I'm not good enough for you, what gives you the nerve and audacity to actually believe that you are entitled to my body? I am not a woman's plaything. I am a PERSON, goshdammit.
Then lock up the "D" and tell her to go "F" herself, Jamie.
Lol. I may just do that.
@Jamie05rhs you sound like a conceited idiot
@The_Sal2 Cool your jets, there, Sparky. It was a joke.
I have maybe asked out girls ever
I think I have a good personality, but I do lack social skills.
@Jamie05rhs That's something you can work on.
@MountAverage I guess so.