Why do some guys get on every damn dating site but then don't say shit?

[Tjsmoove]

because they haven't developed their confidence to talk to attractive women like yourself for guys who lack confidence an attractive woman like yourself can be very intimidatin ya gotta understand that from our side

[OlderAndWiser]

Many people don't understand online dating. They seem to think that you create a profile and then wait for a line of potential suitors to begin forming at your front door.

[Everyoneisplastic]

Some of them are probably "social expirement" accounts where guys will make fake accounts to test and see what girls like (especially if he looks like a model). Some are probably guys who get a lot of matches and don't have time to respond to you solely (especially if he's a 8+). And others are guys who are just plain nervous (especially if he's a 6-7.5). You likely have no idea as to the effect that social, societal, and peer pressure has on us guys with the expectation that we should be the ones to talk first, to propose, etc. Couple that with the fact that it's nerve racking as hell when you're afraid of driving a girl off with the first word. When we see a girl, we tend to put her on a pedestal and think "She's so pretty and perfect and if I say the wrong thing then I'll never see anyone like her again". We don't think "If I mess up, it's okay. There are other girls out there that would be lucky to have me" like a lot of women think. Women have a better chance of attracting all types of guys, guys don't have a chance on attracting all types of girls unless said guy is super good looking. Just speaking the truth. Hope this helps. P. S. Steer away from model looking guys on Tinder and Plenty of Fish, those sites are breeding grounds for "social expirement" profiles.

[Knighted2170]

Most dating sites are like games to people. Like this site is to some.
"Let's see how many likes I can get."
"Let's see how many votes I can get."

To others, they don't know or have the tools to know how to catch the attention of a match and start a conversation. Let alone how to move from a site to actually meeting. So, they never try and hope she takes the reigns and starts it off.

To be fair though, it's also the same for guys. I tried every site I could and wrote them all off. I would match, start a good conversation, and then they just stopped talking or flaked on a meet up.

Not to mention those that wanted to immediately jump to text and ask for money so they can "keep talking." Ugh.

Dating sites to me are just a new form of instagram and twitter. "Let's see how popular I can get so I can brag to my friends how many 'potential' dates I can have."

It sucks for those who truly want a real relationship.

[InferiorElegy]

Because for some guys making an effort just leads to disappointment.

I was on many dating sites for about 9 years spent stupid amounts of money to upgrade and keep my account upgraded throughout that entire time, put lots of effort into my profile, even had female friends edit it to seem more appealing and after hiring a dating coach, she looked at my profile and changed it up. I spent a lot of time and effort to send out messages, each specific to the girls profile. I uploaded selfies and pictures that a professional photographer took. I messaged every girl I could and despite all my efforts, not one real female ever messaged me, sent me a reply. If I could go back in time and save myself from ever wasting my time and money on all those sites or just on trying to date in general, I would in a heartbeat and I will never go back to a dating site ever again. I've given up on dating as it's not in my destiny to date.

[SjE78]

maybe cos those guys have only had experiences in meeting the scammers, and it has had an effect on their confidence, i tend to block or avoid anyone who has less than 3 pics, send porn links, or are very pushy and focus on my income... as that usually results in them begging for money etc... which again has a knock on the confidence

[lukeedmonton]

Maybe you had nothing interesting to say?
Did you ask about his KD ratio in CoD?
Or about what underwear is the best.

Men are refined creatures of culture and are usually to deep in physiological thought to reply to everyone in a timely fashion.

[winterfox10]

Sometimes the guy is just there for an ego boost. Other times the guy just doesn't know what to say. Making the first move is difficult. Especially when women don't generally put a lot of information on their dating profiles. Like I'm being expected to have some killer game to get your attention when all you've given me to work with is a couple of selfies. The worst is when a woman only posts group photos, and they all have the same people in them.

[DiegoO]

Dating sites are crap, an online relationships with someone who you never met in person, is like playing with a cubix box. F*ck*ng complicated. When you think all is good you realize there is something that's not matching, so you try to figure it out, but then there is real life, and next thing you know, it sucks your time and life away, and you stay in suspense, with several toughts, trying to find a logic that would answer the question marks spinning in your head.

[msc545]

Most of us just paid to be on dating sites so we can look at women but when they talk to us we just make it a practice to ignore them because we like wasting money. Seriously, has it occurred to you that the guys that don't respond to you may not be able to respond to because they haven't paid for a membership?

[Reaperbot666]

if people are on multiple dating sites or apps. they are most likely looking for hookups more then a relationship. some people make limited effort because they never get a response.

[Jjpayne]

I've tried reaching out to do icebreakers but no girls ever respond to me... Pretty frustrating...

[KingDio]

That's the same with some females too... think it's just a common trend though with my match I have at least said hi... but tends to go unanswered

[Ivory_Princess]

Ghost profiles probably. Dating sites never take them down. Their subscription has either run out or they set up an account to have a look first but never paid. Either way they can still look, get notifications but can't send msgs

[shushhhhh]

They've lost hope due to ask the failed talking stages and lack of matches

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Hot people (guys and girls) get flooded with matches
Some of the hot matches are fakes but they give people hope so that stay on the site longer than they would otherwise.

[DavidFox]

Because ~70% of users on dating sites are not looking to date.

[Anonymous]

Why do women? Seems like most people do. Women don't make any either in my experience (even when I do).

[Anonymous]

We do talk!! But you stop talking us when we start talking to someone like YOU. That why we do that!!

[Snakeyes7]

I don't know i could ask a lot of girls the same question. I just delete the match if I didn't think it was working

[Anonymous]

because they're dumb fucks who think the keyboard and people will reject them like they do in real life. they're pathetic filled with social anxiety and need psychological counseling to overcome whatever emotional shit they're going through

[Skankhunt]

Because if we do, we know girls won't respond to our messages.

[nawtee_me]

They are just looking for a hookup or they are scammers using other peoples pics...

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz they probably work for the date site to pull in business

[bklynbadboy1]

Cause they probably got a girl and are there just to see pics

[Cowboy6666]

instead of them, make me your buddy :)
I am good listener and good guy :)

[Anonymous]

99% of messages to women are not answered, That's why they don't make the effort. Females are far to damn picky

[roastbeef]

Because of most dating sites are "fake females" bots

[noah2536]

It's because half of us are nervous and the other half of us are just dicks

[dragoblack]

That's a unisex thing. I deal with that from women all the time. Or they try to redirect me to their social media going "i don't talk on here, go here 'insert snapchat/Instagram handle' "

[Slim57]

Because when we do you girls still dont say shit lol if you're interested enough you say something

[douride2]

Yes & then they wonder why they can't get a date.

[LEADFOOTboi]

maybe they just dont like you...

[Anonymous]

Do you make the effort though?

[JosyJosy]

Did you message them?

[Anonymous]

Which ones? Add me. We can talk

[In_Trance]

fake profiles