When a fat girl dates a skinny/muscled hot guy society completely bashes her. But when a skinny/hot girl dates a fat guy it's completely normal? Why?

[Erobos412]

We fat bash everyone it is universal unslighty to look at, it is unhealthy and cost society so much money and tax to keep obese fat people alive that could be invested in other stuff if people truly cared about their longer term health. And we're just humble enough to learn that it is not just calories in and out but it is all about controlling the insulin levels (by lowering carbs and sugar and fructose in particular) and eliminate toxins that are called healthy wholesome food and natural sweet like fructose. That as bad as alcohol if not even more since you can not get drunk on fructose unlike alcohol and it all contribute to a sick overwhelmed fatty liver. The alcoholic fatty liver and the non alcoholic fatty liver disease (fructose)

Fructose is a carb and a very inflammatory and dirty one at that. It is a fuel with lots of AGE that only the liver can metabolize away just like alchol. It do not raise blood sugar but it will raise your triglycerides and are 7 times more likely to harm your LDL and Turing it bad when it wasn't before. (low dense lipoprotein) float and are big and float in the blood unable to harm you while it delivers nutrient to the cells who need it. It is a firefighter and a logistic nutrient delivery vhiecle. fructose is 7 times more likely to harm it then actual glucose/sugar by making them smaller like grains of sand and you can imagine sandpapering the innards of your blood vessels. Wall that crap. That is what lead to cardiovascular problems like weekend hearth arteries valves and angio and neurophaty as the cells are Denis of nutrient. The Japanese eat very little fruit so it was significantly more managable. Fructose is just so damm cheap and sweet that it found it way to everything in westerm store market foods. It increase shelf life.

So the cells starve in a cellular level and forced to make do with what nutrient is has avalible that are sub optimal. Aka raises the risk of cancer and speed up aging. Then these people are put on cholesterol lowering medication at that I am like WTF guys just remove the damm factors that turn LDL bad they are fire fighters putting flames out in the body by providing the nutrient the body needs. It will lower it self naturally when the cells nutrient need is meet. Cholesterol levels are a demand driven processs only when harming it by food and lifestyle and habits.

If anything men are more bashed then women I believe as I do not see a mens fat acceptance movement being active on social media.

[Larson7]

You have a way with words lol "When a fat girl-" the girls who are bigger have the most hard and they're the sweetest. Good girls. It's a little skinny mini bitches in the good-looking ones that caused all the damn trouble may have loose you know what Perry will not all of them I'm not talking about you the one skinny girl who's thinking I'm the one girl who has a tight one. I can't be talking about what tighten loose vaginas on here I don't think that's something that you guys want me to talk about things go bad. I could go to prison forever. forever or I would kill myself for doing it. There should be something where as a pedophile if you act you can choose how you want to die on a guy. And why that would be the Noble thing to do. No actually wouldn't be Noble at all if you did it you did it and you already hurt the person your ass needs to spend the rest of the your life in a crappy prison can be executed only when the victim decides that it's time you go. I I just refused at this point to ever act on my I can't see attraction to young teenage girls. I just can't do it I'll have to do without. Just have to fantasize. That sucks I know but the alternative is unthinkable I'm already hated enough much less to have people now that I did that can a long prison term oh God. I'll find a young girl and pretend. I'll probably end up getting beat to death for trying to be a good person and not Acton never mind. I can't not be a good person possible are the thoughts alone are the thoughts alone I should be behind bars my tragic life no wonder they act as always say if anyone has a problem with me being free talk to me in Hawaii. That's where I should be anything in particular. I'm still a danger someone that are actually answer this time so I can go ahead and rub along I'm not being facetious it's true whoever does it is sacrificing by taking the time to do it don't let me get out of it you better make sure that security release pending for 4 years. I can't help but there's nothing like a 13 year old girl that sends Shivers through my spine that's why I have to go and that's why it's fair

[babysteph]

This is a LONG one so sit tight. Skip to the end for the summary 🌟
Preface- I’ve personally never seen this. Though I have my own opinions, I’m reduced to my body quite frequently, so I’m going to speak out of that experience. (And it’s a really nice body that I’m proud of, so I’m not complaining at all I’m just calling it for what it is lol)

When people see bodies that are fit (unless their mind is clouded by jealousy or some other such thing) they usually think of the effort and discipline that it took to sculpt those bodies. This effort and discipline is something that two people can share- something that they have in common. It adds to this beautiful, emotional, mental aspect or their relationship.

So, when thinking just about the bodies, it’s justified to say that two people who put the same effort into their health are well matched. I think we can all agree that it just makes sense. Whether it’s two fit people together, two average people together, or two fat people together.

Where we begin to get lost and start making judgements is when people either A) choose not to reduce a person to their body or B) choose to reduce others to their bodies (but maybe not themselves)

“A” views that there are so many factors that contribute to a person, and their physical fitness is just one of them. For people that take mental health, past experiences, values, etc into account, the body will matter less to them. These are the people that may seek partners that don’t have similar bodies to them. They’re also the people that might judge others for seeking people with bodies that are similar to theirs. They may consider them as “shallow” if they are fit or “settling” if they are less than fit.

The other side of it, the “B” view is when people reduce others to their bodies. In their mind, if you’re a man or woman who doesn’t take care of your health or physical fitness, then there isn’t anything that will make you worthy of a person who does. and while this may be true literally, it doesn’t stand up when you consider that there is so much more to a person than their body.

All this to say, there are people that reduce others to their bodies, and people who see the whole person. Because there is a mix of these people in society, everyone will be judged for doing whatever. There is judgement that comes from both sides, so it’s best to just do what makes you happy, and choose a partner that you’re comfortable with.

[Anfin]

People are bullies, I am a bigger girl myself and currently seeing this guy who is so fucking hot - but it took me a long time before I ever met him. We talked for months before I met him. He was just too good locking for me, he would never go for someone like me. But here we are, even though we aren't officially dating he is the sweetest.

I don't feel that he sees me as a "fat girl" some guys do that and Sexualize bigger bodies - which are gross. My ex told me he liked bigger girls because he didn't have to be as careful. He was toxic af tho so..

But this guy I'm seeing now sees me for me, which should be what people do regardless anyways in a perfect world. I feel accepted in a way, I don't know if that sounds stupid or not but whatever.

I think many might have it in their heads, and yes, some people will be ugly but people are stupid. I've seen this tiktok couple where she was fat and he was in very good shape, and they are so sweet and in love. Many of the comments were so nasty, but why should they care about what people think. If they're happy, let them be happy.

I've read these comments too, seems like the girls are more critical about it then men.

[MannMitAntworten]

I have NEVER seen the heavy woman get bashed for dating the muscular man. I see it a lot in my area from all the tourist that visit my mountain. Equally, Insee a lot of taller women dating shorter men, one good looking dating or even married to the average. Their success is likely because they do not give two shits what people think. Not that I ever see or hear anyone say ever say anything to these couples. The only time I hear people talk negatively about auch dynamics has been women friends or family members. Not a single one of my men friends ever said anything negative to me about who I have dated. None of my family either... some of my women friends however... well, some have had a LOT to say and as usual, I told them they can go fuck themselves. In fact, I cut two women friends over their disapproving bitching over my recent ex from my world. They could kiss my ass.


Simply put, those who ever say anything about certain relationship dynamic can go fuck themselves. Pay no attention to their bullshit.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Society's fault, that is the basis for all movies, video games, or smut novels. You never see a fat over weight person saving the day but always someone fit and muscular. That is what the world has come to expect. Just like a younger girl dating someone older that has money, is it love or is she trying to ride that old wrinkled penis to the bank? Usually women are getting bashed out of jealousy. Society has set a bar and if nothing meets what we have been brainwashed to think it is taboo or out of sorts.

[TheorionMage]

It is believed (not always 'true') that SOME women 'value' a male's personality & disposition more than appearance (until her girlfriends mercilessly tease her that she could attract... and deserve... no better)

TWICE in my life, I have lived out the 'Pygmalion' fable... more recently retold as "My Fair Lady"
but it does NO good to 'tart up' a shy but self-effacing young woman, if she is unprepared to take the reins of the reassessment her alluring demeanor to her advantage. It'd be like tossing her like 'chum' to the real world's sharks~

[Everyoneisplastic]

I'm thinking the "society" you're talking about is Instagram and females. As a guy, I've never seen this "bashing" of fat girls dating non-fat guys. However, I have seen and heard guys bashing fat guys who are dating non-fat girls. I think what's happening because of jealousy. Guys get jealous when hot girls go for ugly men and say shit like "He only has her because he's rich" or "She's just a gold digger". In the famale world, the girls are probably thinking something like "Why does he even like her? She's fat and he could do so much better". Either way, don't pay attention to that surface level bullshit. As a fit guy, I like curvy girls and skinny girls and fit girls. So long as it's not overkill in any of those body types, I don't mind and neither does the majority of guys out there. I hope this helps you worry less about their jealous bullshit.

[Avicenna]

Absolutely not. In both cases, the hot person will get bashed (primarily by female relatives and friends) for dating someone much less attractive than them, especially if that person is overweight.

I once was helping a very overweight female friend lose weight by walking with her in a hilly neighborhood which was known for its residents being high income. This means attractive, thin, fit women lived there, and you should have seen the looks these women gave us when we walked by them (I'm skinny).

[SjE78]

nope that isn't how it happens most the time anyone who is considered by society as fat/overweight is generally berated and ridiculed for being their size, shape or even just cos it's not right in the way those who follow the sheep-way of thought aka society's views...

[Novacane]

In what world? I have never seen this, if anything I have seen this the other way around!

When a "fat" girl that's a more fit guy other women praise her like she won a prize because she managed to get a guy like that. But when it's a skinny girl that dates a "fat" guy, women will tell her things like she can do better, she must be dating him for some reason, or even assume that they are miserable and need some type of saving.

[Paolaa988]

Such one sided isn't it? I'm far from perfect but im not obese or skinny either. I'm on the chubby side but i still take care of myself. My weight gain is due to a health condition but i eat healthy and exercise. I dont think anyone should be judged for who they date though. People need to mind their own business.

[likelyOK]

I don’t think they think it’s normal when it is the man I think they both assume he has money. I just think more men who ARE in that mindset are more likely to announce bc they have bad attitudes to begin with just like on this site when you see Trolls they Are the Loudest.

[JDavid25]

A few people on social media is not society... But men usually mate with somebody that matches their physical attributes.. Usually.. I've seen men that looked better than the women they were with.. And I hardly see a normal fat guy with a nice lookin or skinny woman unless that guy is rich, or makin a good livin or famous.. Or the couples match facial wise..

[DavidDong]

Noone should be fat period, its unhealthy

To be honest I dont mind a girl having some fat, it's more natural, instincts I guess I don't know, too thin and its starved vibe

Who knows, I'll assume its beauty standards, my dad is a chub, it's a stereotype, he chooses to be that way really because he doesn't really care

Women care about their weight more because they want to look good. From standards or otherwise.

To blame beauty standards is absurd, in the end you need to be healthy and that means exercise and when you look like you've done exercise then noone looks your way in bad light.

I guess it might be contrast aswell, fat fat is ok, fat thin isn't.
I dont think its society thinks it's ok for a fat guy and thin girl to happen.

[Skankhunt]

Because we've been taught/raised to treat women as a trophy. The hotter the woman, the more status we get, the more people compliments us with our accomplishment for having such a beautiful, well-educated young woman who happens to be a doctor or a lawyer or some other profession that exudes succes.

Women need to get married as soon as possible and have kids, otherwise they get criticism from their family, friends etc, about why they still don't have a boyfriend/husband. They say "you look beautiful and you are smart, it shouldn't be so hard for you to get a boyfriend and marry him". Women are under a lot of pressure to please everybody. They practically have to be perfect in any way.

This societal expectations tells me that it doesn't matter what man (rich, poor, fat, unemployed, not high educated et) a woman gets, as long as she's getting married.

[genericname85]

it's not that fat guys aren't bashed. but they usually learn to take with humor, so they're not so vulnerable, while girls tend to live in delusion and every time they're insulted for being fat, that delusion breaks.
so in conclusion: if you're fat, just own it. everyone that's fat is bashed for being fat.

[TruthBringer]

Hahahah it's actually the complete opposite. Lovely how women like yourself play the victim when you've got the sympathy of society. Here is a more accurate illustration:

[IronmanT]

Because people are so damn stuck on what what dosnt really matter... MONEY, LOOKS, REPUTATIONS, OPINIONS OF OTHERES, that nobody believes in loving someone JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM... FUC#ING MORONS... listen to everything but what is really in the heart... GROW UP AND MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES YOU DAMN SHEEP...

[DizzyDesii]

I see the opposite. Most of the time you expect the guy to eventually get the girl into shape. When people see a girl with a bigger guy, they assume she's using him for money and prob never sexes him... but some girls lie about wanting a big teddy bear of a man

[MCheetah]

I think your question is a false dichotomy as (being an overweight person) LOTS of people are unnecessarily mean to fat people, for no reason. I don't know too many people who say it's "completely normal" for any overweight person to date a fit person. And (health aside; we all know it's not healthy), there's nothing wrong with being overweight. It doesn't make you less valuable as a person. Ideally, no one would be unhealthy, but we don't live in an ideal world.

[mélancolie]

i don't think that's exactly true lol, but i mean yea it's more normal and acceptable if it's a fat dude & a hot girl. but still tbh im sure most people behind his back would ask her why tf she's dating him

[FocusOfSuspicion]

I’ve never noticed that dichotomy. I think that people usually expect people to match with those roughly on par with them physically and when that’s not the case it’s considered either confusing or inspiring. But I’ve never noticed any bashing.

[Tdieseler]

i could have sworn that was the other way around
but from what you say, society bashes what they dont understand.

Fat girl with hot muscled guy: society can see what she sees in him, but can't see what he sees in her, so they bash her in their ignorance and undercover jealousy
Fat guy with hot sexy girl : society can see what they both see in each other or at least rationalize it. He most likely has money and wants arm candy, and she is a gold digging whore and wants a sugar daddy.