This is a deal breaker for me?

Question

boyfriend is like following over a thousand people on insta

like I'm sure some of them are half naked chicks. this isn't what I wanted. it's been like this since we started dating. I haven't went through his followers cause that's weird.

Answer 1

Everyoneisplastic

Xper 5

Okay, listen. I am strongly in favor with thinking that you should be the only woman he wants, but he might just be following these women on instagram for fitness reasons, or commentary reasons, etc. I follow a particular girl o instagram, not because of she's hot, but because she's very anti-pc and she actually followed me fist, which I find funny because she has a shit ton of followers, but I have only a handfull, ayway, that's beside the point. Just ask him about it, be honest and direct, but don't be confrontational about it. Say something like: "Hey, not that I'm mad, but why do you follow so-and-so?" Or "I kinda feel jealous that you follow this girl. I just wanna know why you follow her". Spying on his behaviour and drawing conclusions is very un-healthy in a relationship, he should be able to trust you and you should be able to trust him. I hope this helps. Best of luck.
P. S. If he tries to avoid answering you and begins to try to redirect the conversation or change topics it's because he doesn't want to get caught desiring other girls than you and you should probably break up. Matthew 5:28 - But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

React

Answer 2

NamerOfStars | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

And making it a dealbreaker isn't? If you want to be the only woman he lusts after, you're limited to dating liars and monks.

React

2 People

Asker

1 y
Its about respecting your partner, not lusting after other women. Two completely different things.
Sleep_Bandit

1 y
Is it a deal breaker if he watches porn? I think it's really similar so if you don't have a problem with that then I wouldn't worry about his IG. If you do care about guys watching porn, date a blind guy
Asker

1 y
@Sleep_Bandit porn is different unless he overdoes it.
Show All Show Less
ronaldsnugs

1 y
Not true at all. It’s disrespectful to have that crap on your social media if 1. You’re in a relationship 2. You’re partner is not okay with it. This goes both ways. Porn is not the same. Porn is porn. Everyone or at least most watch it.
So about Social media, Don’t let people try to convince you that it’s normal and what everyone does, it’s not. Talk it out or find another guy because there are tons of men out there dying for a girlfriend and would be a lot more respectful to her.

Answer 3

Asker

Its about respecting your partner, not lusting after other women. Two completely different things.

Answer 4

Sleep_Bandit

Is it a deal breaker if he watches porn? I think it's really similar so if you don't have a problem with that then I wouldn't worry about his IG. If you do care about guys watching porn, date a blind guy

Answer 5

Asker

@Sleep_Bandit porn is different unless he overdoes it.

Answer 6

ronaldsnugs

Not true at all. It’s disrespectful to have that crap on your social media if 1. You’re in a relationship 2. You’re partner is not okay with it. This goes both ways. Porn is not the same. Porn is porn. Everyone or at least most watch it.
So about Social media, Don’t let people try to convince you that it’s normal and what everyone does, it’s not. Talk it out or find another guy because there are tons of men out there dying for a girlfriend and would be a lot more respectful to her.