Are men supposed to pay everything during date?

Question

he's 10 years older than mei, t he has means better income than I. is that means I don't need to worry about money during date?

Updates:

15 d

sorry for grammatical errors, I didn't read what I wrote.

by the way, I don't have money for date. and I want to spend time with him instead staying at home because we aren't married yet. my family is conservative so it's not good to bring a guy to my house.

Answer 1

Anonymous

Today women should always pay their share on a date, especially the first date. We don't live in the 50s anymore.

If a woman doesn't not offer to pay half on a first date with me she will not get a second one.

If she is bothered by the fact I expect her to pay her share and decides not to go out with me again, she has done me a favor by showing her true colors early in our relationship so I don't have to spend any more time to discover her true character.

Asker

15 d
I think you're a poor guy
Opinion Owner

14 d
Actually, quite the opposite. lol

But this issue is not about money; it's about the character (or lack thereof), entitlement and hypocrisy of many women today. This issue is a great tool for culling out the women who good men should not devote any of their time and resources to.
Asker

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what if she likes you and she doesn't have money? are you expecting her to use her parent's money?
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Opinion Owner

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Why don't you have money? You don't have a job?
Asker

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I'm a student
Opinion Owner

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What's your point?

I have two college degrees and I worked the entire time I was in school earning them. That's the only way I would have been able to date while in school, because there are exactly zero women in the world who would ask broke men on a date and pay for it. And yet that's exactly what you are asking for.

What is it about women like you that gives you such a sense of entitlement and double gender standard in dating? Can you explain that to me, please?
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@paris13 help!, this guy is insane, he don't care about girl's feeling. I think he should be single and asexual forever. sad. he seems like so unmanly. real man would not let their woman living in a hard way. and real man would understand why she's not having money.
Opinion Owner

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You poor, helpless, useless, incapable little girl.
Asker

13 d
it seems like you're a type of guy , go fight by yourself , I'm afraid, I'm leaving. pussy guy
Opinion Owner

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You are a low value woman, not because you have no money but because of your mindset. No quality man is going to tolerate a woman like you. Improve yourself.
Asker

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well there are many good guys willing to spend their money for their girlfriend. and they're proud of it. even some women here said we don't need to pay
Opinion Owner

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And your point is?

Answer 2

Asker

I think you're a poor guy

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

Actually, quite the opposite. lol

But this issue is not about money; it's about the character (or lack thereof), entitlement and hypocrisy of many women today. This issue is a great tool for culling out the women who good men should not devote any of their time and resources to.

Answer 4

Asker

what if she likes you and she doesn't have money? are you expecting her to use her parent's money?

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Why don't you have money? You don't have a job?

Answer 6

Asker

I'm a student

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

What's your point?

I have two college degrees and I worked the entire time I was in school earning them. That's the only way I would have been able to date while in school, because there are exactly zero women in the world who would ask broke men on a date and pay for it. And yet that's exactly what you are asking for.

What is it about women like you that gives you such a sense of entitlement and double gender standard in dating? Can you explain that to me, please?

Answer 8

Asker

@paris13 help!, this guy is insane, he don't care about girl's feeling. I think he should be single and asexual forever. sad. he seems like so unmanly. real man would not let their woman living in a hard way. and real man would understand why she's not having money.

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

You poor, helpless, useless, incapable little girl.

Answer 10

Asker

it seems like you're a type of guy , go fight by yourself , I'm afraid, I'm leaving. pussy guy

Answer 11

Opinion Owner

You are a low value woman, not because you have no money but because of your mindset. No quality man is going to tolerate a woman like you. Improve yourself.

Answer 12

Asker

well there are many good guys willing to spend their money for their girlfriend. and they're proud of it. even some women here said we don't need to pay

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

And your point is?

Answer 14

MrCommodore | 324 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Nowadays if its a first date, many split the bill.

If dating a while, I would normally always pay for everything if out on a date night, like at a top class restaurant. That was something my ex preferred and I didn't mind.

However if at a diner/cafe etc for lunch or coffee while out shopping etc, then my ex and I would usually take turns at paying. To be honest it was a very relaxed agreement, both of us were in great jobs, so like cash wasn't an issue

Answer 15

Paris13 | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Discuss this first. I never had That problem. Men always paid For First Date for Us. xx

Asker

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how to discuss?
Paris13

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Discuss this date of the Money deal. Bring it up and be Honest that You don't have this kind of Money, honey. xx
Asker

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oh. I'm shy 😳
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Asker

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I don't know how to start...
Paris13

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Well, Hopefully He Will Pull out his Wallet Then, Someone would Need to. I am Concerned more with your Shyness on this Date. xx
Asker

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is it bad being shy? :(
Paris13

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Well, He Will Want o hear Something come out of your mouth. xx
Asker

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what should I talk about during the date? and should I be silent when eating?
Paris13

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Talk about his interests and family. He will most Likely During dinner be Telling you how Lovely you are Next to the light. lolxx
Asker

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okay. :)
Paris13

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hahhaa You will be Okay. xx
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❤️❤️❤️
Paris13

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Thank You, Dear. xx
Asker

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you're welcome ❤️
Asker

13 d
help!, this guy is insane, he don't care about girl's feeling. I think he should be single and asexual forever. sad. he seems like so unmanly. real man would not let their woman living in a hard way. and real man would understand why she's not having money.

Answer 16

Asker

how to discuss?

Answer 17

Paris13

Discuss this date of the Money deal. Bring it up and be Honest that You don't have this kind of Money, honey. xx

Answer 18

Asker

oh. I'm shy 😳

Answer 19

Asker

I don't know how to start...

Answer 20

Paris13

Well, Hopefully He Will Pull out his Wallet Then, Someone would Need to. I am Concerned more with your Shyness on this Date. xx

Answer 21

Asker

is it bad being shy? :(

Answer 22

Paris13

Well, He Will Want o hear Something come out of your mouth. xx

Answer 23

Asker

what should I talk about during the date? and should I be silent when eating?

Answer 24

Paris13

Talk about his interests and family. He will most Likely During dinner be Telling you how Lovely you are Next to the light. lolxx

Answer 25

Asker

okay. :)

Answer 26

Paris13

hahhaa You will be Okay. xx

Answer 27

Asker

❤️❤️❤️

Answer 28

Paris13

Thank You, Dear. xx

Answer 29

Asker

you're welcome ❤️

Answer 30

Asker

help!, this guy is insane, he don't care about girl's feeling. I think he should be single and asexual forever. sad. he seems like so unmanly. real man would not let their woman living in a hard way. and real man would understand why she's not having money.

Answer 31

EmmaMary | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Only if you wish to be a gold digging parasite all your life.

Asker

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is that means I'm a gold digger?
EmmaMary

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If you're proposing never to pay for anything, then yes it does.
Asker

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but I don't have money..
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EmmaMary

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Then you shouldn't consider dating until you do.
Asker

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but I really like him :(
Asker

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I don't want other woman steal him
EmmaMary

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Then carry on using him until he runs out of money, then move on to the next one. smh
Asker

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but I won't ask him to buy things that I want.. I just want to go out, watch movies, walking in park, and dinner, lunch together. that would make me become a gold digger?
EmmaMary

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Thank you for the MHGirl.

Answer 32

Asker

is that means I'm a gold digger?

Answer 33

EmmaMary

If you're proposing never to pay for anything, then yes it does.

Answer 34

Asker

but I don't have money..

Answer 35

EmmaMary

Then you shouldn't consider dating until you do.

Answer 36

Asker

but I really like him :(

Answer 37

Asker

I don't want other woman steal him

Answer 38

EmmaMary

Then carry on using him until he runs out of money, then move on to the next one. smh

Answer 39

Asker

but I won't ask him to buy things that I want.. I just want to go out, watch movies, walking in park, and dinner, lunch together. that would make me become a gold digger?

Answer 40

EmmaMary

Thank you for the MHGirl.

Answer 41

virgin20 | 89 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Love when girls cry out saying they would be equal to a man but then say that we pay for their dates and buy them shit.
You want to be equal, you split or pay for dates alternatively

Asker

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I don't have money
virgin20

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Then don't expect to go on dates. Be smart, have a guy round as a date. Don't go out and expect him to pay for everything
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so you want to be equal
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virgin20

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It should be equal
Asker

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but he earn money and I don't have money

Answer 42

Asker

I don't have money

Answer 43

virgin20

Then don't expect to go on dates. Be smart, have a guy round as a date. Don't go out and expect him to pay for everything

Answer 44

Asker

so you want to be equal

Answer 45

virgin20

It should be equal

Answer 46

Asker

but he earn money and I don't have money

Answer 47

Anonymous

Traditionally, yes. Though it is considered to be sexist. Both by belittling the woman who is perceived as too weak and dull to provide for herself and to the man who is simply expected to give up his hard-earned money just because he has a penis.

Asker

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but I don't have money to pay for date..

Answer 48

Asker

but I don't have money to pay for date..

Are men supposed to pay everything during date?

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