How important is it for your SO to be intelligent?

[Not_Average]

It’s important to me. My life involves a lot of logic based critical thinking. I’d like to be able to talk about my day with my significant other without having to dumb it down. Also... Having higher IQ sort of isolates you from the pack in a lot of ways, and I wouldn’t want to feel an inability within my relationship to relate and connect.

I like to discuss societal issues, economics, and technological innovation in great depth. Get me started on crypto currencies and bitcoin... I’ll talk all day. Someone of lower intelligence wouldn’t have much to offer in a conversation like that. I’d become frustrated through time.

I don’t want to give off a superiority complex, because I don’t see people of lower intelligence being of lower value by any means. I just couldn’t date someone like that as they would serve to be incompatible. I’ve tried to date women who were average and slightly below average. They were great people, and I enjoyed my time, but it was never sustainable.

A better question for me would be if I’d date someone who’s much more intelligent than me lol. I’ve thought about this many times and still don’t have a straight answer.

[lokeshdh00]

My vote was based on for overall sake instead of just for being on the relationship. Being smart or intelligent doesn't mean you have to have a high IQ. You need to know the reality of things, including people around you. At this age, everything influences your decisions. All information you receive is opinions. And that's the fact for every single country.

Life is all about solving problems, financial, personal, economical, physical, mental, and almost problem about every single thing you know. And you have to have the impeccable knowledge not opinions to solve these problems. And these are the problems which takes your happiness away when you unable to solve them and these are the things give you relief and happiness if you solve them.
So, Being Intelligent is taking right decisions based on proper knowledge about that thing.
See, it's totally different from what was generalized, IQ- A number that counts intelligence. One if the most ridiculous thing make by mankind !

[Cherokeehp]

I don’t really find intelligence to be an attractive trait. When I meet other intelligent people we usually start competing and debating, and often times I find intelligent men to be incredibly condescending. Growing up I spent most of my time being very serious, taking IQ tests, studying, going to gifted programs, being on debate teams, National spellings bees, having mentors, advanced classes, summer classes, and all that stuff cause I was like a child prodigy. I hated all that stuff and I hated all the other “gifted children” and so as an adult I prefer to be more relaxed and goofy. A lot of people, especially men, see my laid back goofy behavior and assume that I’m dumb or something and try to talk down to me. I typically prefer to date men with average intelligence. They’re not as snobbish and they’re more chill in my opinion. Truly intelligent people are usually assholes, cause it’s hard not to look down on people when you constantly feel like you’re the smartest person in the room.

[Femmefatale97]

In my opinion, it goes beyond intelligence. It’s having a sharp mind, being open minded and, most importantly, to resonate within the same frequency. The person would respond to me the way I do to them - we will simply reflect each other’s minds, so different yet functioning so alike. It’s difficult to put in words, nearly impossible to explain. It’s a vibe and a profound feeling. Their mind caresses yours in a way that is rarely possible. Without words even, you learn from each other and stimulate each other to be better, more conscious in a way.

[Chikky]

If you can hold a conversation, can understand me and what I meant, plan on cooperating with me I'm good. Don't need any book smart but life smart

[OlderAndWiser]

Over the past 15-20 years, most of my relationships have been with girls that had an IQ (by my estimate) of at least 120-125.

[Kaazsz]

Normally I would say yes it's very important. But being intelligent isn't everything, contrary to popular belief.

I'd like a smart girl sure. But if she's like... a communist and supports murdering people because they have money... well you can see why sometimes being smart doesn't mean a lot. Intelligent people are susceptible to bad ideas just as much as non intelligent people are. It's just intelligent people are more dangerous with said ideas.

So like yea, I'd love to have an intelligent wife. But she would also have to be open minded and able to go past her intelligence into the realm of "wisdom" I suppose. Intelligence is nice and all but there's so much more to life.

I often find myself having crushes on smart girls and dumb girls. Maybe I would be better off with a girl who isn't that smart. Maybe she would actually be better? I don't know. I don't know how to go about choosing someone to be honest.

I suppose my ideal girl would be able to talk about anything. And be able to consider any idea, explore any topic. Not all intelligent people are capable of that. Biases and ego turn an intelligent person into a dummy.

[Squirts93]

My ex had 0 culture and intellect. She was bad with technology, pretended she knew about psychology but didn't, and was just overall a dunce from all the weed she smoked.

It was kinda fun at first, blowing her mind with cool internet tricks, fixing her tech and showing off some other stuff...

But she got soooo insecure, after while she thought i was just with her because i "just wanted someone to argue with."

Id be fine with a dumb girl who at least appreciated cool new things shown to her as long as she wasn't insecure and just owned her personality.

[pajamasam]

I telligrnce is vague. Im not look for Einstein. I just want someone who I can take to the museum and either

A- can hold her own in conversations about science, math, history, literature, etc. To some degree

Or

B- can maintain enough curiosity to be open to learning things they didn't know.

Im dorky and I like a good history documentary or a trip to a museum. Its a big turn off if im in my dorky state of mind and she just completely shuts off from the conversation completely.

Its probably got more to do with respecting a partners interests than being "intelligent"

If a girlfriend wanted me to watch some really girly musical I have little interest in, I would at least be open minded and try to stay engaged, because she likes it and I would want to do it together.

Same for me. You don't have to be a professional presidential historian, im just asking you to tolerate me when im in the mood for a long history documentary.

[Anonymous]

ideally her being at least high school level if not college level is a huge help.
it is fine for a female to work on her career path and/or go to college. to better herself and learn new things. so she can one day hopefully get a good job or career path.
but truthfully the majority of males in western culture don't expect and/or want a female who is only focused on her job/career. since the majority of males western culture are typically the main provider in a relationship.
the majority of males in western culture just want a female with a decent intelligent and income. who can help with the bills and be self-sufficient most of the time. so she is not always asking the guy for money to buy things.
while she doesn't have to overly worry about marriage and/or children early on. she may want to consider looking for a long term sooner rather then later. that she can see herself with so they can both build a bond together over time.

[cherryblossomXD]

I kind of want my man to be more intelligent than me. I like when he can teach me new things and can explain stuff to me. Its hot. But ideally I guess I want someone who knows stuff that I dont and I know stuff he doesn't. So we can learn and grow with one another.

[Thedudeitis]

Intelligence is somewhat important enough to ensure that you don't feel disappointed in the person you're with also limited enough that the person doesn't overpower you each time cheating you or betraying your trust with their intelligent and witty techniques.

[flamiE]

Pretty important, I like to be able to learn from my man and know he could find a solution to any problem and would consider everything while doing it. I also enjoy a lot of deep conversations, there’s definitely something sexy about me with knowledge.

[RawIronhide]

Personally it's very important to be intelligent but I don't care if others don't think I am, in fact I greatly dislike being called smart. It's kinda ostracizing and not entirely accurate. I really enjoy deep conversation and I can keep up in a debate or philosophical thought, it's more of a passion for me.

[FictionalCharacter]

Be careful what you wish for, cause before I’ve wished for a intelligent man. That whenever I cross their path, they mostly want their ego stroked and look down on you. Your stupidity boosts their ego/intelligence and they really don’t see that person as relationship and move to someone else.

So what did the effect have on a stupid person crushing on a intelligent person?: lecture, criticism, and looked down on.

[jshm2]

You must be 15 years old or something. Only if your SO is in a coma will he not be "intelligent".

Though I have heard of people marrying on their deathbed and even for strange reasons. But any person up and about will possess intelligence.

[Kaneki05]

100% but that been said intelligence is subjective. What i may consider to be so may not be someone's else's. For example i consider believing in some magical god with no evidence and evidence that straight up disproves it would be an idiot to me. But to some religious person they could be smart. And i could be the idiot.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Intelligence is sexy, but it's only one of several traits that are important in a SO. For example, Hitler was very intelligent, but was severely lacking in empathy, morality, and so on. Intelligence is attractive when its applied through appropriate avenues of self-expression and personal growth and contribution. Where intelligence is misused, it can be as ugly as the rationalisations of a serial killer.

[Agape93]

Very important. I don’t want to feel like I have to tutor someone in order to talk with them on more than a base level. Plus, I value learning and improving ones knowledge. If a partner can teach me something, that’s a big bonus.

[NamerOfStars]

I am a nerd. What kind of nerd? Yes. I could probably still have fun with a woman who wasn't that bright, but I doubt we'd have enough in common to make a serious relationship work. On the other hand, she'd have a VERY easy method to get out of arguments; "Okay, look, obviously we disagree on this. But before we keep fighting about it, I want you to read this book on Medieval candles."

... I probably shouldn't be admitting that.

[Skankhunt]

It depens what you mean. If you mean that she has to be high educated (master's degree, Ph. D. degree), then no, that's not improtant to me. Not everyone can go to college due to different circumstances, but that doesn't mean you're stupid.

I want to be able to have a deep conversations with her, that's what I find improtant. If she can do that, that's amazing, because I want to have a deep connection with her.

[Nottoxic]

Yes it's incredibly important to me. I started talking to this girl that I used to be close with and the way she speaks and acts comes across as very unintelligent. I really couldn't remember what I saw in her before now (although she is a very lovely person).

I enjoy 'deep' conversations a lot, and I feel like that takes at least, a baseline of intelligence, creativity and imagination. People without that just don't appeal in general as friends, or as a partner.

[andreasderjuengere]

Intelligence paired with a 'bad character' is worth nothing.
I do have a certain minimum expectation on her 'intelligence' ...
which is not some academic 'number', but rather the ability to -emm- do the right things, and make the right decisions.

[ohshee]

Its so very important to me its a very beautiful thing when you can talk about anything and take it deep there is something so very hot and sexy about it it also tells you a lot about a person on how they see what it might be talking about