Is it true that if 2 friends like each other, they will just naturally become a couple over time?

- That definitely can happen but that doesn't mean it always happens...
And depending on the friendship that can be the best relationship...
Or the worst... If they're not really a good friend, then they definitely won't make a good partner... And even a great friend doesn't always make for great relationship partnerIs this still revelant?
Most Helpful Girl
- It can, but if you really want it then it is better to also make a move.
It can for example happen that one of the friends meet someone else who shows direct interest, and that may seem a lot easier to go with than starting something with a friend. Some also do not want to risk the good friendship.Is this still revelant?
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- Nope they can become fuck buddies thats there is no couple or nothing love does NOT exist its all about looks money and statsIs this still revelant?
- Why don't you just ask us about your particular situation and provide some details?Is this still revelant?
- Asker1 y
Well I got the impression a girl I’ve been friends with for years started liking me recently and a couple of people also told me they think this. But then all my friends say not to say anything or make a move because they think all girls always make a move if they want it enough. But I don’t think she will because she’s shy and has low confidence. My friends think otherwise and they say I’ll 100% get rejected, will lose her as a friend and be labelled creepy.
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Your friends are telling you to take the safe route: don't ask and you won't get rejected. Odds are that most of them either don't have a girlfriend or they have had the same girlfriend since third grade and they are not really experienced dudes.
You've gotta take a chance if you wanna find romance. Yes, you may express your interest and get rejected. But the reality is that part of the experience that turns a oy into a man is learning to deal with that rejection when it happens. I'm not suggesting that you go looking for situations where you will definitely get rejected but most situations like this involve some chance of rejection and you've gotta take that chance or live the "safe" life of never asking a girl for a date.
So, imagine that you tell her that you feel affection for her that's stronger than just being a friend and that you feel physically attracted to her. Then, what if she rejects you? She'll give you some lame line like "I wouldn't want to take a chance on ruining our friendship." And then you will meekly accept that - because you really have no choice - and life will go on. No one will die as a result of rejection. No one at school will be laughing at you. None of your body parts will fall off. Life will go on. And the next time you want to ask a girl out, it will be just a little bit easier.
BUT maybe she will say yes! Do you imagine her saying "yes" and you put your arms around her and kiss her? That will NEVER happen until you do something to make it happen, and that is usually the responsibility of men, not women.
There is an alternative strategy which you could use only if you just can't try the direct route of telling her how you feel. This might work if she is a shy girl and has difficulty overcoming that initial hurdle of accepting the idea of dating. You could say to her, "I don't have a girlfriend and you don't have a boyfriend and I'd like to know what it's like so what would you think about hanging out together and doing stuff like people do on dates just to get the idea of what it's like? But nothing more than whatever you're comfortable with." And if she agrees, you schedule something to do and, at some point, you take her hand in yours and you hold hands and you say "Just practicing." And the next "date," you "practice" hugging. And maybe on the third "date," you "practice" having your first kiss. And at some point she will realize that she has actually developed feelings for you and you can drop the pretense of "practicing."
What do you think?Most women like men who are confident and assertive. She is probably not going to take the lead.
So, next tome you are hanging out, just reach over, take her hand, and hold it. Look at her and smile, but you don't need to say anything. When she gets comfortable with that, move on to the lingering hug.
Maybe she is losing interest because you are not doing anything to pursue her. She may think that she is sending you strong hints and you are just not interested. This is your chance! Go for it. At this point, what do you have to lose?
Could you remain her friend if she isn't interested and starts dating some other guy? Can you handle being "just a friend" and hearing about how wonderful the new guy is?
I understand that friendship is important but the best romantic partner is one who is also your best friend. How will you ever develop such a relationship if you don't express an interest in a friend?
Yes. And once I developed feelings for her, I knew that I could not continue to be "just" a friend to her. I went for it. Ultimately, it didn't work out. But. . . most people who are in high school will not remains friends with their current group of friends after graduation. That is the way that it has worked for generations. When you are in high school, you are convinced that you will be friends forever and nothing can come between you. But, by the end of summer after graduation, you will have contact with very few of them, unless you live in a small community and don't go away for college or work.
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74- Yes and no. It can happen and honestly the best relationships come out of best friends since they already know how to communicate to you and support you. But also no some friendships are toxic and can lead to toxic relationships if you date so its a double edged sword.React
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- Yea it can happen. Not always though. It doesn't just play out if you do nothing. Like one of you has to ask the other out. That's how I ended up dating dating one of my best friends lol.React
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- Yeah, me and my bros constantly form relationships because of that. We aren't even gay lol.React
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- Anonymous1 ydo you like her? how did you know she is started liking you? does she show signs? and what are signs she shows liking you?React
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I do. Because she started making any excuse to be in the same place I am a lot and in a group, she just wants to talk to me. She even interrupts when I’m having conversations with others. and she says my name a lot. And she highlights my positive traits a lot. And she talks about me with others.
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No she doesn’t compliment me. She says well done etc after I achieve something. She notices positive traits like the fact I’m ambitious, have a lot of hobbies etc. Do I show signs? I don’t know. I do spend a lot of time with her, arrange to meet her alone (even walking 45 minutes to see her), make prolonged eye contact with her whilst talking, I prioritise her - she asked me before why I came back early from something but I didn’t admit it was to see her and just made something up. I guess all this makes it obvious to her.
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awww, thats nice, what she look liked? and how old are you both? how did you meet?
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It might be nice but I now don’t know what to do because I fear she might be losing interest in me. Now she struggles to maintain eye contact with me, she rarely texts me first and never arranged anything herself (although she never really did). We’ve known each other for years as friends. She looks beautiful.
- It may or may not happen. Every situation is different.React
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You’d continue to be friends until someone worked up the courage to say something or make a move.
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- It can happen but it’s not guaranteed.React
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- Anonymous1 yNo ko they won't. Depends on many other factors.React
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- It depends but not alwaysReact
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- Anonymous1 yehhh maybeReact
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