Are racial preferrences in dating, racist?

[Zealashton]

NO.
NO ITS NOT

LIKE, I HATE EATING SNAILS
SO AM I RACIST TO SNAILS NO
YOU HATE CORN
I LOVE CORN
SAME SHIT
DONT FUCKING FOLLOW THE SJW FUCKING BULLL SHIT,

I DONT LIKE BLACK CHICKS, IM WHITE, I HAVE NO INTREST IN THEM AT ALL I can't GET A HARD ON AT ALL.
SO WHY WOULD I FUCKING DATE ONE

YOUR QESTION IS LIKE
OH THIS, OH IM NOT GAY, BUT I HAVE TO FUCK FAGOT MEN, BEACUSE IM NOT A HOMOPHOBIC, LOLS
YOUR QESTION IS STUPIED,

I HATE WEMON WITH GLASS ITS NOT ATTRACTIVE AT ALL,
BUT IF I WEN TO A COFFE SHOP AND A CHICK WITH GLASS THATS WHITE, TALKED TO ME, MABEY I WILL.
BUT IF she's BLACK, ITS VERY VERY SLIM CHANCE, AND WOULD TAKE LONGER TO MAKE IT INTO A RELATION SHIP.
BUT IF I RIGHT AWAY TALK TO A WHITE CHICK OR Asian, I WOULD QUICKLY LIKE HER FASTER,

I DO NOT LIKE PHYSICALLY DEFORMED WEMON,
2 RESONS,
ONE I JUST DONT LIKE THEM
DONT MIND BEING FRIENDS BUT NOTHING MORE
2 MY LIFE IS A SHIT LIFE, AND ALL MY LIFE I WAS SUBJECTED TO A RETARTED CLASS, AND I HATED IT, I WAS A SHAMED, I FELT LIKE MY WHOLE LIFE IS A SICK JOKE, AND THEN MY SISTER CAME TO SAME SCHOOL AS ME, AND I WAS EMBARASED, I WOULD AVOID SHOWING MY FACE IN PUBLIC, I AVOID GYM, I AVOID LEAVEING THE CLASS ROOM, I WAS EXTREAMLY DEPRESSED, EMBARED AND ASHMENED, LIKE ALL OF HUMANITY SAID , fuck you we dont give a fuck.

and have retarted kids around me, i could not date a reated pererson even if they where intelctually normal, i could not doo , it and it be horrible wrong for me to asociat with them and have a realtion ship with them , for they would sufffer far more.

for i could not truly give them what they want,
thus
i only talk to normal looking wemon, if they are 4 foot tall too 7 foot talk, and look propertionally normal looking. then fin, but down sydrom, or dawf sydrom people that do not look normal, no no i could not do that too my self or too them,

so being shallow is perfectly normal,

do not force your self to eat thing that will make you barf. its not good for you at all

i hate side kick noodles white noodles, i hate them. i gage when i eat them,
thus i stay away from it. and my body is happy and my wallet

[MCheetah]

No, as racism is is a hatred or view of inferiority towards everyone of a race of people. Having racial preferences are fine, but saying "I would never date people of [X] race" or "I would never date outside my race (usually white)" is pretty discriminatory and prejudiced. That's not racism, but it is very closed-minded.

Preferences are leaning more towards one more than the other, but still being open to other options. Hard limits, however, are discriminatory.

Personally, I don't like closed-mindedness in people most of the time, but people are free to limit themselves in that way. (I myself have a hard limit against queer people or trans people, when it comes to dating.)

[Imcmullan]

No, it isn't racist.. most people date based on what they feel comfortable with... I've dated all over the globe in terms of race... you can't help who you have things in common with. Some white people won't date a black person bc often times there are HUGE cultural differences and you can't relate to one another. Ex: i dated a white guy...(a few in my past) but I remember one of them didn't understand why I had to wear a scarf on my head at night when I went to sleep... I also remember feeling uncomfortable doing so around him bc I felt like it made me less attractive. Then I was over my brothers house early in the morning and his wife who is black was wearing a scarf on her head n it seemed like nothing to him and her.. why? Bc he knew thats what women of color or women with kinky hair have to do. There was no discomfort bc they were both raised with similar up bringings.. now that I'm older, it doesn't matter to me. I've explained to my non ethnic exes that this is what you have to do when you have my type of hair. My now spouse is white.. and knows this is whats I do at night. My point is, it isn't racist if you are attracted to a certain type of person. My mom is afro-latina, my dad is African and irish.. and let me tell you, I've always been made to feel like, I'm not Latina enough, and black enough when dating both of those races... I've been actually more comfortable with dating white men and women lol. But I grew up in an all white neighborhood. Lived my younger years in Ireland then in America in a very white suburb. Its ok for someone to have a preference! Doesn't make me racist to my own people bc I have primarily been with white men or women. We date people we have things in common with or what we are attracted too. Some men want a big butt and hips.. where are u gonna find that? In Latinas and black women. Some want someone tiny with a smaller ass, where will u most likely find that? In white women. Whats the big deal? Let's just leave the race shit in 2020.

[Cynicaldreamer]

No! It's exactly that, a preference. Everyone has a type they find ideal when looking for a partner.

It IS racist if you treat someone poorly due to their race, or wrongly stereotype a person because of their race.

I will say restricting what races you choose to date might make it harder to find a partner. I always tell people that have racial dating preferences not to complain to me if they cannot find a partner, because their ideal partner might be of a different ethnicity.

[OlderAndWiser]

Define "racist."

[CrazyAwesome]

Probably. Whether that person realizes it or not.

Usually when people have a preference dealing with race it has to do with harmful stereotypes. If it has to do with skin tones it most likely has to do with either fetishizing or again, harmful stereotypes. ex: "Asian women are submissive", "Black guys are tough" or "Biracial babies are cute"

It is something completely different though if you would like to date someone within your own race for cultural reasons or because you two face the same oppression.

[GrimmGothBabe]

No, just because your genitals don't tingle at someone of a different ethnicity doesn't mean your racist. The definition of racism is literally




prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

the belief that different races possess distinct characte
ristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish
them as inferior or superior to one another.

This has nothing to do with sexual attraction.

[Everyoneisplastic]

It's not. The definition of racism is to view other races as inferior. Just because someone doesn't think other races aren't attractive, that doesn't mean said person thinks other races are less intelligent, inherently less good, inherently less valuable. Are gays sexist? Are straights homophobic? No? Then, not being attracted to a certain race or ethnicity isn't racist. Personally, I find all races and ethnicities attractive. HOWEVER, It is racist to say that it's somehow "wrong" to be attracted to or marry or date etc. a person of another race/ethnic background or that somehow God doesn't approve of it. Hope this answers your question thoroughly enough.

[WalterBlack]

Would you call a gay man sexist because he doesn't want to date women? Hopefully not. Multiple factors influence sexual orientation, many of which can not be consciously controlled. I think that attraction (or lack of attraction) to people of a particular race is not completely within a person's conscious control. I'm talking about the chemistry of attraction. A lack of chemistry is not racist.

On the other hand, some people do consciously decide not to date people of a particular reason based on prejudice and bigotry. In this case, there is an element of racism.

[MAC1983]

Not necessarily - if there are people with different races, should you put them aside just for that? No, of course.

However, that has nothing to do with choosing this or that. Humans have always chose certain characteristics above others, why should dating technology be any different?

I don't think you're racist if you want your next relationship to be of a different racial or ethnic background from yours.

You are racist if you view them as lesser than you because of their race or ethnicity.

[Soremain]

That's actually interesting question. It seems that it's not, but then where does the line go? What if someone prefers to have only white friends? A guy invites all his white classmates to his birthday party but not the one black kid, doesn't that seem racist as fuck? But wait what if he only prefers white friends, no one should be able to tell you who you should be friends with, just like who you should be attracted to. What if an employer prefers only white workers?

So if racial preferences in dating are not racist, them many things we call racist are not racist either, but just preferences.

[JDavid25]

No, not necessarily.. It depends on why you have the preferences.. If you find another group ugly then I would say that that's racist cause obviously you think that that groups features are inferior.. But if you happen to like certain features more and one group happens to have them then I would say that simply its what you like.. Or for a multitude of other reasons like the fact that you happen to grow up or be expose to mostly a certain type of group and are more comfortable with them.. More complex reasons.

[dcblah58]

I think preferences are a minor form of racism that people are O. k. with (hence why people don't think preferrences is not racism). in my opinion racism/preferrences is OK as long as there is no direct/deliberate harm caused.
We're human, we have differences. In a perfect world, there would be no preferences (because we are all perfect), but the world isn't perfect.

[JackSmy]

You like who you like, and NOBODY has any right to tell you anything different!! In your personal relationships, YOU choose, the people you like, and maybe for who they are, and how you relate, and feel. They cannot legislate, that you MUST date, and consider some other race, or religion, in dating, and loving! The government does not have that control!!

[talloak]

Not by definition. Just as religious preferences are not inherently religious prejudices. There is no end to the extremes one can take this kind of logic. People should not feel pressure to date those they are not attracted to, in order to prove something to someone else.

[thatgirlinlove]

Are u taking too much of the liberal tonic?

I am free to be with anyone I like or do i have to be with communities who were once oppressed to prove i am not a racist.. This violates the very freedom I as an individual has.

I would certainly not like to be with blacks because I don't want to live in nigeria and send people scam emails.

[Ripper_E]

No. It just means you are drawn more towards one than the other. It's fine as you aren't simply discriminating against any particular race just because they are that race. It's also not okay if it's prejudice, and you are judging based on stereotypes or word of mouth rather than just going by what you feel.

[pigoat]

My psychologist say like what you like

But when i tell them my preferences they like "well what's wrong with the other race they have pros too"

Like they trying to convince that I'm wrong?

Just take my answer and role with it

My family makes jokes about preferences

But it leads to nothing

[JackofSpades]

Personally I don't find black women particularly physically attractive, (don't know why) so that's naturally going to skew my preferences more toward whites and Asians.

If you meet a woman you think is beautiful and you hit it off with her, then yeah, shooting her down "because" of her race is pretty racist.

But having physical and cultural preferences? I don't think it's racist at all.

[Saturnxox]

No I don't think so.
Racist to me is thinking that you are better than an other race or treating them as less.

But you can of course feel more attracted to a race or less attracted to a race.
I personally don't really have a preference.
If he has a nice smile and nice facial features I don't really care what kind of skin tone or hair texture goes with it.

[OddBeMe]

I’d say no. You have no choice in who you’re attracted to. Racist people choose not to fix their innate tribal thinking, as non-racists do everyday. We all walk down the street and have a racist thought. A non racist slaps himself and tries to be better.,

[bob_anon714]

Nope, they're your personal preference. You're not gonna force me to date s white chick just cuz I'm a rascist otherwise.

If you don't like mustard on your pancakes, can I call you an anti-mustite? (Or anti-musTARD LOL)

[michael1469]

Technically yes. But i wouldn't say it has a negative impact on the lesser perferred races.

I prefer latinas myself, but as of today, i have dated, latinas, whites, and African American, i have yet to date an Asian woman, not that i wouldn't if one was available that i become interested in, of which i was tired 2x.

An equal opportunity race lover. Hello ladies... lol

[LinkxPeach]

Nope, not really. You just preferring to date someone of a different race because you have a problem with dating someone of your own race. For example, a Black guy dates a White girl over a Black girl because Black girls act masculine, has a masculine look, and she’s fat. Why do people care if other people do interracial dating?

[Me080Mo]

No, it’s not. You can be with whoever you want for your happiness and your satisfaction not to make people wonder if you’re racist or not.

Example : I date white guys but doesn’t mean I hate Asians or black. In fact some of them are very attractive and hot but It’s simply my preference in dating.

[wankiam]

depends what that preference is based on. it can be as innocent as prefering blondes or small boobs etc but if its based on racial prfiling or stereotypes then thats a different story

[cam32]

No I don’t see how someone preferring a certain race is racist when it comes to dating everyone is attracted to different types of people everyone should treat each other with kindness no matter the color of their skin or their origins but what your attracted to is something you really can’t just change

[SCDivinitySoul]

No, and I don't see how it could be racist, just cause you are not attracted to someone of an another color, doesn't mean you hate them for their skin. You simply just find more attraction towards to what ever is your preference.

[UrBrotherCain]

nah, I would like to be in a relationship with somone that looks like me in some degree, plus being of similar backgrounds eliminates a lot of alienation in the future.
I am not, however, opposed to dating outside my race, its not a deal breaker.

[Jakelatter2020]

No, not if you're just not attracted by some peoples, which u can't help. But don't EVER admit that to anyone, just say u love all races equally, and it's minority x that doesn't find you attractive...

[Thatasianlove16]

No BUT I hate when people say they will date a specific race but then would never have kids or marry that person because of their said race. That’s manipulative and racist

[hammeronfire]

No because you can’t control what you are or are not attracted to. It’s like being gay. You don’t have any control over it so don’t worry about it and just like what you like and be comfortable with it

[Anonymous]

No its ok to have preferences but I feel like there should be some wiggle room there. There are so many different people in this world it seems silly to limit yourself to one race.

[josephinelcajon]

Not a simple answer. It can and yet it doesn't have to. I like red heads like me but not racism.

[IAMNathanael]

I'd say not. Thinking you're above someone because of their race is racist.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Yeah, I'd say having racial preferences is racist but not in an offensive way.

[WowwGirl]

No not if it's just a preference some could not like dark hair or light skin doesn't mean they are racist means they like a certain type or are attracted to one.

[lookingforsomereal]

It isn't. you're attracted to what you're attracted to. Its not the same as hiring for a job, bc you dont need to be in a interracial relationship in order to feed yourself. You can't get mad at people just because of who their attracted to or not.

[hellacray]

I think having a preference is fine. It's when you start being exclusive or even ranking races. That's when it starts to be racist.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

No. It has nothing to do with losing respect in that person and discrimination but that's just simply in dating. It's not impossible to treat them as a person but not wanting to date tho.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Are racial preferences in job applications racist? yes.

[Anonymous]

It's sad to see, how deeply eurocentric beauty standards are ingrained in people of color (because of Hollywood movies and globalization) that don't even question them. Sheep

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on why you have those preferences. If they come from a place of thinking your race is superior and a place of prejudice against other races, of course it’s racist.

Thankfully, most people aren’t like that 💓

[ColHathi]

Yes, and I probably could give you some examples, but I can't be bothered. :p

[zagor]

No, no different than preference by personality or hair color.

[Twalli]

No. Although you shouldn't m as he your preferences a rule.

[anon1903]

Depends on your reason. "I wanna date a black man because they're hot" is equally racist as "I only date white guys, sorry"

[Bald-n-Boastful]

How is it racist? Racism is about preference for friends or aqquitances not sexual or romantic partners.

[BCA6010]

Sure. Why not? Everything under the sun is apparently racist now anyway.

Let me give you a counter-question: is it sexist to not be bisexual?

[StephenCF]

No, and anyone who thinks the slightest bit otherwise has a degenerated brain. Is it sexist to have a preference in the sex you date?

[yelly]

No! Having preferences for your partner is not racist. It's the same as prefering old or young, males or females, tall or short
All is just okay

[fr3aksh0w]

i believe it is. preferring a certain race is one thing, but not not dating someone due to race alone is inherently racist.

[PaleolithicGuy]

No, I have a thing for black women and I like boning them.

[Anonymous]

I really enjoy African American women as friends, but find myself not sexually attracted to them, unfortunately. Does that make me a racist?

[tartaarsaus]

It depends. Depends on why you have a given preference

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Stop nitpicking racism out of everything. This starts to get annoying. Stop seeing racism where there is none.

[jasco]

Never understood how, i don't like Asian people. That's just taste and so what if u don't like someone, it is what it is

[humordoesbehumorous]

I personally think its a choice. If you prefer one race over the other, I don't think it makes you racist, it's just preference.

[Massageman]

No - they are just preferences.

[MountAverage]

Not necessarily, but usually they are.

[cherryblossomXD]

No. You like what you like.

[Skankhunt]

No. It's a preference.

[Gedaria]

No. it's a preference...

[007kingifrit]

technically it is, but that's fine