Partner needs my help but don’t know how to help?

Question

I’m dating this guy and recently found out he’s an alcoholic. And that he’s relapsed and part of the relapse I feel is my fault as I tend to not be vocal about telling him he shouldn’t drink I need help on figuring out a way to write a letter to him asking him to get help and to let him know I’m scared for him and the road he’s on.

Answer 1

Jakelatter2020

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RUN, not walk, RUN away from this one. I'm an alcoholic in recovery. If he just relapsed, you can do him the biggest favor by ending it and saying you'll be happy to try again when he achieves his goals of sobriety. As long as that's at least 18 months from now. Seriously, if u stay to help you will just get in over your head and end up making his recovery harder. It's no joke and it's something he has to figure out alone while attending AA. You can try a different method, but AA works 100% when u give I 100%

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He’s gone to rehab and has slipped with the loss of his job due to the pandemic, before this he was doing amazing
Asker

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And I can run because I love him and think I might be pregnant.
Jakelatter2020

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So you're dead set on screwing up 3 lives then. Why? Cuz ur too weak to let literally, the weakest kind of person, an addict in relapse, go because it's the right thing for both of you, and too poor (?) to use a condom (I don't know what else ur excuse could be). Just go to Walgreens, get some needles and start your own habit, cuz your life is about to get sad, like sick to your stomach, omg what have I done, sad. But I know kids won't listen to old balls, even though we're the fucking source
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Jakelatter2020

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And alcoholics are fine people, once they've been sober and working a program for at least a year. It's a sickness of selfishness and needs to be taught how to live again by fellow alcoholics who have beaten their disease. But until then your putting a fire next to the gas can. Relationships are stressful, Kids are ultra stressful, stress makes alcoholic drink when it overwhelms them

Answer 2

Asker

He’s gone to rehab and has slipped with the loss of his job due to the pandemic, before this he was doing amazing

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Asker

And I can run because I love him and think I might be pregnant.

Answer 4

Jakelatter2020

So you're dead set on screwing up 3 lives then. Why? Cuz ur too weak to let literally, the weakest kind of person, an addict in relapse, go because it's the right thing for both of you, and too poor (?) to use a condom (I don't know what else ur excuse could be). Just go to Walgreens, get some needles and start your own habit, cuz your life is about to get sad, like sick to your stomach, omg what have I done, sad. But I know kids won't listen to old balls, even though we're the fucking source

Answer 5

Jakelatter2020

And alcoholics are fine people, once they've been sober and working a program for at least a year. It's a sickness of selfishness and needs to be taught how to live again by fellow alcoholics who have beaten their disease. But until then your putting a fire next to the gas can. Relationships are stressful, Kids are ultra stressful, stress makes alcoholic drink when it overwhelms them