So are you more likely to say yes to a friend?
Yeah like 100x more likely
Interesting. Do you think this is true? www.themodernman.com/.../...-ask-out-a-friend.html
I don’t know. I don’t believe in having sex before marriage and I’ve been in 1 short relationship in my life. The focus on sexual attraction is intimidating. I don’t know how I’d handle it if someone showed blatant sexual interest. And I think that’s because I’m not sure, given my determination not to have sex outside of marriage, where the line is and what I should or should not allow approaching that line. I’m not super confident in my appearance. I just lost 25 lbs and now have a healthy BMI again, so I know I look better than I have in a long time, but I’m insecure by nature, not circumstance, so sexual innuendo will probably make me self conscious and want to retreat.
I think these types of coaches actually advise against showing blatant sexual interest. They say that women naturally find attractive things like good humour and being able to make her laugh, being strong, confident etc.
Do you think that’s true?
Yeah, but the whole look her up and down to show sexual appreciation thing.
I’m willing to change but no one can tell me what I’m doing wrong.
Fair. All I can tell you is its something you're saying or doing. Or not.Approach girls. All kinds.
Well how do I narrow it down,
I just get friend zoned if I ask them out.
Then the women you are talking to was not attracted to you
None of them are. I get rejected 100% of the time. Does this mean I should just accept that I’m not attractive enough to get a girlfriend or even a date?
No daring is always hard the same way there are many women you would reject as you are not attracted to them no?
No, I literally would say yes to anyone.
I can’t afford to be picky.
And I mean I literally get rejected 100% of the time. I’ve never been on a date in my life.
Then that shows your desperate and probably plays a factor into why women are not attracted to you nobody wants a partner that would date anybody
Well I've been told that before and didn’t put any effort in. And nothing happened.
Then if i be picky, of course I still get rejected. And if I focus less on dating and on other things, still nothing happens. I literally can’t win.
Well then u know reasons why date is not working for you also
I don’t. I don’t know what to do.
And It’s not fair. Most people can get at least 1 date in a few years. I don’t even get that opportunity.
But you have just explained a major issue women won't date guys with no self worth as a standard nobody is asking you to be picky but if they can sense you dont value yourself why would they want to date you
I do value myself. I only expanded my pool as a narrow pool wasn’t getting me any dates.
Yet from what u have said here already it dont seem you do value yourself u have already said you would date any girl that said yes even if u was jot attracted to them
I didn’t say “even if I wasn’t attracted to them”. I’m simply saying I was willing to compromise to match reality.
Yet you said u would say yes to anyone which shows you dont value yourself highly
I meant I would expand my pool since my narrow pool wasn’t getting any dates. What would you do then if you couldn’t get any dates?
Honestly I would continue to look thats just it again dating is never easy but yes some find it harder then others I got my first date at 22
Why so late? What caused the success? What did you change about yourself?
I started to act more confidant and stopped caring what others thought about me I use to complain women didn't like me yet I was not aware of when women did like me because I was too afraid to approach them
This is exactly how I became and it still didn’t work for me. And it’s frustrating.
Well ofc it will be frustrating but again finding someone you are attracted to that they are equally attracted to you and in the right head space for a relationship is not easy
And never comes for some people. You got your first date at 22. I’m nearly 30 and still waiting. Hence there must be things you can do which makes it more likely for it to happen.
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