
Gentlemen, what would you do if you take a girl out on a date and she stayed glued to her phone?


- On a 4th date, everything was going well (just like the previous dates) until he got a call from an ex girlfriend who nagged him for the rest of our dinner. I told him he could have the rest of the night dealing with her as long as he allows me to go my own way from the restaurant or he can put his phone on silent mode and concentrate on both of us. But, every time his phone vibrated, he picked it up to check the screen, reply to a message and answer a call. I later told him that I believed he still has lots of unsettled issues with "others" and asked him if I be excused for the rest of the night. So, I asked a friend to pick me up and proceeded to a club with her.
He called me over a week after that night and admitted that he can't seem to move on yet. I appreciated that and gave him my blessings. Eventually, years later, he dated another friend of mine who vocally complained that he was always "distracted" in all 3 dates they had together. My friend & I last heard that he's still unattached.Is this still revelant?
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- Anyone that does that shows a lack of manners and respect...
And shows that that's not someone that would have their priorities in order, big red flag there... If they can't even put their phone down to invest time getting to know you, will they really invest time in you or a relationship? The date would be over before the check came for me, the date would be over the minute the phone came out...Is this still revelant?Let me show you some place I've been before, that I think would be great for our next date
*pulls out phone*
Hey, where you going?@Unit1 but if they said that you would know what they were doing right 🤔 and they ain't even finished dinner yet, isn't it a little presumptuous to be planning the next date 🤣🤣 and you know damn well that's not what she's doing, she probably planning the next date alright, with someone else, our checking up on her man and kids at home 🤣🤣🤣
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My point is most people are too trigger happy or jumping the gun. I even heard an opinion around here (from a blue) that even if it's just to check the time/date he'd leave her on the spot.
Nothing surprises me.@Unit1 you don't think it's rude to just be on your phone throughout dinner? Or on a date period? Too many people do that these days... Can't even do anything without being on their phone... That ain't being trigger happy... That's giving them more time for their phone cuz obviously that means more to them
You don't understand.
I'm saying there are legitimate reasons for phones to be used here and there but being glued to them, that's a problem.@Unit1 then it's called "excuse me I'm so sorry, but I really have to take this call"... Or "I need to check on the kids/babysitter"... But again, that's not what usually happens... They usually checking notifications, texts, etc
Maybe. I didn't have this problem before but then again, women aren't gonna be going out with me often 😐
I don't get that problem I'm a prick I'll just eat it or something if they keep on lol
@mrgspoter right way your meal and theirs 🤣 "oh sorry, did you want that, figured you were in your phone cuz you weren't hungry, my bad"🤣
No I just act shy so I might make a scene when she trys to take it back be like ahh dam your trying to kill me women, ahh
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- I’d leave and be blunt/honest about why. I wouldn’t block her. Depending on how far she goes to apologize (if at all) and get another date would determine if I’d see her again. Of she really goes out of her way I’d give it another shot.
I believe in learning and giving people room to grow. I also like to believe that most people aren’t inherently rude or bad. People are complicated. Maybe other men she’s dated tolerated it and she doesn’t feel men expect much of her. Maybe she was nervous and her friends were giving her advice.
If I took her out again and she did the same thing, I wouldn’t see her again. If she didn’t do it again, problem solved. One date isn’t enough time to know a person’s not worth your time unless they do something extreme.Is this still revelant? - Anonymous1 yI'd actually aim to learn a few things from the experience, among them:
1) What did I plan for a date that opened up the possibility of her being glued to her phone? Perhaps I need to plan a different date next time?
2) How was I doing at being engaging? Perhaps not so well if she was on the phone.
3) Is she interested in me at all? How have I screened for this? Don't spend money (i. e., pay for a dinner) on girls you're not at LEAST hooking up with.
4) Is she hot enough and interested enough that I can put up with this?Is this still revelant?1- Irrelevant, being glued to ones phone is rude and shows lack of interest
2- Irrelevant Being engaging is a two way street, If she is there to be on her phone she should not have come at all
3- Her actions would indicate no.
4- No girl is hot enough to suffer that kind of disrespect. I stand by what i said, i would leave her with her half of the check and block her. If i were an asshole, i would leave her with the whole check, but im not an asshole.- Opinion Owner1 y
Hey, if she's hot and wants to hook up I have no problem with her being on the phone. Would I have an exclusive relationship with her? Probably not. But if she's hot and wants to get down--game on.
Also a good reason to at least make out before planning a dinner date. At least then you know she's interested enough to get it on. These questions are good if you want to improve your game, apart from the last one, to which the answer is always "no".
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12118- I would get up as if I was going to the men's room, pay the check, and leave.React
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You would pay? Why? Isn't it better, if your being disrespected and she's wasting your time to serve justice and leave her with the whole tab?
@PushOrganic If it is a first date, I have a favorite restaurant for first dates. If she doesn't pay her share of the tab, there are potential consequences for me with a criminal complaint for defrauding an innkeeper, and with the restaurant not letting me return. They know who I am because I have made a reservation. For me, paying the tab is not a big deal.
- This is why you avoid dinner dates, they are just awful. Really just the worst first to third date you could do. Dinner dates are really appropriate when you and the girl have known each other for a while, or its beyond the 3rd date.
Anything before the 3rd date is really just simp shit and lack of creativity. I really thought this was would have been common knowledge by now that more active dates where there is touch going on is a superior early dating activity
Let me say it again, dinner dates are for fucking lackluster simps. Do active dates IN THE BEGINNING. DINNER DATES ARE ONLY WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS MORE ESTABLISHED
Fuck, even taking her to the gym with you is fucking better than some stupid, overrated, pathetic wining and dinningReactLike
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Well you sir are wrong I have done very well with dinner dates but I always split the check though
- It means either she was bored or just going on the date for a good meal other than the fried Spam she usually ate. It's a total slap in the face.React
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- Leave. I'll be 30 in 10 days. I don't have time for that BS anymore. That's the number one sign a woman isn't interested. People get mad at me for saying this, but fuck 'em... this is why I don't take women on extravagant dates for the first few dates. I keep my *first dates* simple. It's either:
-Walk in the park/sight see/talk
-Go out for drinks at the bar
-Coffee shop
I do it this way, because if the date is bad, at least I didn't lose a lot of money. Coffee is like $3 per person and so are drinks at dive bars. Walk in the park is free. If a woman can't enjoy you company in these simple places, she ain't the one for you.ReactLike
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- I HATE hate hate women who do that. But let’s be real. How many guys would really walk away? I mean you put in all that effort approaching her, setting up the date and trying to make it happen. You don’t get dates often and you finally got one. I wouldn’t call a guy a “simp” for not walking away. Yes he should grow a pair and do that but after all that expectation it’s easier said than done.
Personally I would go for a pump and dump in that situation. Try to convince her to hit it at the end. If she goes for it, great. If not just delete her number afterwards.ReactLike
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- If I were a man and I was on a date with a woman who was on her phone all the time I’d just get up and say, “while it’s been fun watching you on your phone, I think I’m going to go home and entertain myself.” Go pay for your meal and leave her with her bill and go home.React
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- This actually has happened to me before. She was on her phone the majority of the time and she even showed me she was texting another guy... Next day she changed her relationships status to in a relationship too.
She actually suggested to split the bills when we went out for lunch, so I know she wasn't after a free meal. I don't know maybe she was playing the field? Or maybe just plain rude.
Anyways I stopped talking to her and I got pretty pissed the next day. If you agreed to the date at least show a little respect and stop staring at your phone so much.
I mean I could have been on my phone too but left that shit in my pocket. Time is valuable if I'm giving you my attention the least you can do is give me your attention.ReactLike
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- Just leave. She prob wouldn't even know you're gone. Sadly thats how into their phone people areReact
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On the bright side you could get away without her noticing before the check is due. Wink, wink.
@RoastedToast lmao well she shouldve been payin for her portion of the meal anyways because i’d only pay for my half
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agreed but if it is not, i will reach out to the server split the check, pay my part, and leave.
- That's so rude and disrespectful id confront her and say "are you gonna get off your phone" or make a sarcastic comment like "interesting conversation we're having here". I might even just walk out on them and see if they noticed.
Its so unacceptable and is a big dating no, no. She obviously had no respect and care more about superficial things like her phone then real human interactionReactLike
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- I’ve never witnessed adult women doing this, only teenagers.
Whenever I would go to the movie theaters or mall eating. It’s usually high school or college girls on their phone 📱. Also to clarify, I have spotted a adult man on his phone texting while his lady friend or girlfriend was talking to him.
But this action is not acceptable whenever the person is with someone, while the other person is craving their company and attention.ReactLike
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@Sparda20xx yeah she wanted attention.
If her body language looks uncomfortable or TOO comfortable that’s a bad sign. If she likes you she will be careful about what she says and how cavalier she acts.
- Slipt the check and leave because its obvious that I'm not interesting or important to her. And I'm not giving out free meals. It I want to give free meals out then I'll go to a high school, nursing home, relatives or someone in need of a meal. Not someone that responds with ok, yea, maybe, meh, etc. In a conversation at a date. I dont waste our time with that. She can stay and play with her phone.
I weed out this type.ReactLike
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- Let me put it this way... I HAVE left and blocked. The whole idea of the first date (for guys and girls) is to see if you even WANT a second date. Some didn't make it a hour.
Hell, one didn't last 3 minutes. She was very haughty, and said, "I don't think this is going to work out. I'm done here."
So I just said, "OK, bye."ReactLike
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- I do not date , as no interest in doing so , hypothetically this is exactly why it's a bad idea to go on a meal or similar on a first date , needs to be kept very simple & inexpensive / free , so either party can eject swiftly , which is exactly what I would do in this situation , as the rudeness & lack of respect means they do not deserve a partner , besides they are already in a relationship... with their phone !!React
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- Ask yourself, ... YOU are spending YOUR time and YOUR money to share HER company... WHO THE HELL... IS SHE ON HER PHONE WITH...
MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU?
Whomever it is, ... let THEM come and pick her up and take her home! BYE!ReactLike
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- Well either your boreing or she doesn't want to be there... And if she's is sitting across from me ,, i think i would send her a text ,,, and ask her whats she's doing tonight and ask her if she's bored I would tell her I'm on a date with this beautiful girl but she's stuck on her phone ,, so I thought I would shoot you a text and see what you were up toReact
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- If that happened to me, I would stop what we are doing and I would say "Hey so obviously it seems like right now is not a good time for you, or maybe you were looking forward to this date, so how about we call it a night right here" and I would walk away, because obviously that person is not there for you.React
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- I would try to joke and break the ice to see if I can get her to stop, but if she continues, then I am asking for the check and paying for my portion and leaving. That is rude and disrespectful on her end and if she can't be courteous enough to be civil and talk like a normal human being, she is not worth it.
I would not have lost since I kept my dignity and stood my ground at that point.ReactLike
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- I would finish the meal as fast as possible. Split the bill. Then take her home unless she drove and drop her off, bid a goodnight. I would tell her she would have better luck with dates if she could unglue her face from her phone. I would be pissed off.React
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- I would ask if there is an emergency going on. If so she is free to leave.
If she is just playing on her phone to play on her phone. She probably isn't interested in you. I would just grab the check and I personally would block (If it wasn't an emergency for her to be on her phone).ReactLike
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- Well I usually always split the check if they are a student I might offee to pay🤔but i dont go that expensive places either.
Well if she is constantly on her phone I simply enjoy my meal maybe get a dessert and a cup of tea and once i am done try last time to talk to her if only to ask are we done and after that pay my half and leave
I go on dates to meet women and have a nice time and good food if its a lunch/dinnerReactLike
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