Gentlemen, what would you do if you take a girl out on a date and she stayed glued to her phone?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

On a 4th date, everything was going well (just like the previous dates) until he got a call from an ex girlfriend who nagged him for the rest of our dinner. I told him he could have the rest of the night dealing with her as long as he allows me to go my own way from the restaurant or he can put his phone on silent mode and concentrate on both of us. But, every time his phone vibrated, he picked it up to check the screen, reply to a message and answer a call. I later told him that I believed he still has lots of unsettled issues with "others" and asked him if I be excused for the rest of the night. So, I asked a friend to pick me up and proceeded to a club with her.

He called me over a week after that night and admitted that he can't seem to move on yet. I appreciated that and gave him my blessings. Eventually, years later, he dated another friend of mine who vocally complained that he was always "distracted" in all 3 dates they had together. My friend & I last heard that he's still unattached.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Anyone that does that shows a lack of manners and respect...
And shows that that's not someone that would have their priorities in order, big red flag there... If they can't even put their phone down to invest time getting to know you, will they really invest time in you or a relationship? The date would be over before the check came for me, the date would be over the minute the phone came out...

[Dongtai]

I’d leave and be blunt/honest about why. I wouldn’t block her. Depending on how far she goes to apologize (if at all) and get another date would determine if I’d see her again. Of she really goes out of her way I’d give it another shot.


I believe in learning and giving people room to grow. I also like to believe that most people aren’t inherently rude or bad. People are complicated. Maybe other men she’s dated tolerated it and she doesn’t feel men expect much of her. Maybe she was nervous and her friends were giving her advice.


If I took her out again and she did the same thing, I wouldn’t see her again. If she didn’t do it again, problem solved. One date isn’t enough time to know a person’s not worth your time unless they do something extreme.

[Anonymous]

I'd actually aim to learn a few things from the experience, among them:

1) What did I plan for a date that opened up the possibility of her being glued to her phone? Perhaps I need to plan a different date next time?
2) How was I doing at being engaging? Perhaps not so well if she was on the phone.
3) Is she interested in me at all? How have I screened for this? Don't spend money (i. e., pay for a dinner) on girls you're not at LEAST hooking up with.
4) Is she hot enough and interested enough that I can put up with this?

[OlderAndWiser]

I would get up as if I was going to the men's room, pay the check, and leave.

[PushOrganic]

This is why you avoid dinner dates, they are just awful. Really just the worst first to third date you could do. Dinner dates are really appropriate when you and the girl have known each other for a while, or its beyond the 3rd date.

Anything before the 3rd date is really just simp shit and lack of creativity. I really thought this was would have been common knowledge by now that more active dates where there is touch going on is a superior early dating activity

Let me say it again, dinner dates are for fucking lackluster simps. Do active dates IN THE BEGINNING. DINNER DATES ARE ONLY WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS MORE ESTABLISHED

Fuck, even taking her to the gym with you is fucking better than some stupid, overrated, pathetic wining and dinning

[Daniela1982]

It means either she was bored or just going on the date for a good meal other than the fried Spam she usually ate. It's a total slap in the face.

[fashionguy17]

Leave. I'll be 30 in 10 days. I don't have time for that BS anymore. That's the number one sign a woman isn't interested. People get mad at me for saying this, but fuck 'em... this is why I don't take women on extravagant dates for the first few dates. I keep my *first dates* simple. It's either:

-Walk in the park/sight see/talk
-Go out for drinks at the bar
-Coffee shop

I do it this way, because if the date is bad, at least I didn't lose a lot of money. Coffee is like $3 per person and so are drinks at dive bars. Walk in the park is free. If a woman can't enjoy you company in these simple places, she ain't the one for you.

[guesswhoseback]

I HATE hate hate women who do that. But let’s be real. How many guys would really walk away? I mean you put in all that effort approaching her, setting up the date and trying to make it happen. You don’t get dates often and you finally got one. I wouldn’t call a guy a “simp” for not walking away. Yes he should grow a pair and do that but after all that expectation it’s easier said than done.

Personally I would go for a pump and dump in that situation. Try to convince her to hit it at the end. If she goes for it, great. If not just delete her number afterwards.

[hellacray]

This actually has happened to me before. She was on her phone the majority of the time and she even showed me she was texting another guy... Next day she changed her relationships status to in a relationship too.

She actually suggested to split the bills when we went out for lunch, so I know she wasn't after a free meal. I don't know maybe she was playing the field? Or maybe just plain rude.

Anyways I stopped talking to her and I got pretty pissed the next day. If you agreed to the date at least show a little respect and stop staring at your phone so much.

I mean I could have been on my phone too but left that shit in my pocket. Time is valuable if I'm giving you my attention the least you can do is give me your attention.

[DizzyDesii]

Just leave. She prob wouldn't even know you're gone. Sadly thats how into their phone people are

[proNutro]

If I were a man and I was on a date with a woman who was on her phone all the time I’d just get up and say, “while it’s been fun watching you on your phone, I think I’m going to go home and entertain myself.” Go pay for your meal and leave her with her bill and go home.

[Puppystarfish23]

That's so rude and disrespectful id confront her and say "are you gonna get off your phone" or make a sarcastic comment like "interesting conversation we're having here". I might even just walk out on them and see if they noticed.


Its so unacceptable and is a big dating no, no. She obviously had no respect and care more about superficial things like her phone then real human interaction

[FictionalCharacter]

I’ve never witnessed adult women doing this, only teenagers.

Whenever I would go to the movie theaters or mall eating. It’s usually high school or college girls on their phone 📱. Also to clarify, I have spotted a adult man on his phone texting while his lady friend or girlfriend was talking to him.

But this action is not acceptable whenever the person is with someone, while the other person is craving their company and attention.

[kikino]

Slipt the check and leave because its obvious that I'm not interesting or important to her. And I'm not giving out free meals. It I want to give free meals out then I'll go to a high school, nursing home, relatives or someone in need of a meal. Not someone that responds with ok, yea, maybe, meh, etc. In a conversation at a date. I dont waste our time with that. She can stay and play with her phone.
I weed out this type.

[Kiss_Me]

Let me put it this way... I HAVE left and blocked. The whole idea of the first date (for guys and girls) is to see if you even WANT a second date. Some didn't make it a hour.

Hell, one didn't last 3 minutes. She was very haughty, and said, "I don't think this is going to work out. I'm done here."
So I just said, "OK, bye."

[TheorionMage]

Ask yourself, ... YOU are spending YOUR time and YOUR money to share HER company... WHO THE HELL... IS SHE ON HER PHONE WITH... MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU?

Whomever it is, ... let THEM come and pick her up and take her home! BYE!

[Novacane]

If that happened to me, I would stop what we are doing and I would say "Hey so obviously it seems like right now is not a good time for you, or maybe you were looking forward to this date, so how about we call it a night right here" and I would walk away, because obviously that person is not there for you.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would try to joke and break the ice to see if I can get her to stop, but if she continues, then I am asking for the check and paying for my portion and leaving. That is rude and disrespectful on her end and if she can't be courteous enough to be civil and talk like a normal human being, she is not worth it.

I would not have lost since I kept my dignity and stood my ground at that point.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

I would finish the meal as fast as possible. Split the bill. Then take her home unless she drove and drop her off, bid a goodnight. I would tell her she would have better luck with dates if she could unglue her face from her phone. I would be pissed off.

[ohshee]

Well either your boreing or she doesn't want to be there... And if she's is sitting across from me ,, i think i would send her a text ,,, and ask her whats she's doing tonight and ask her if she's bored I would tell her I'm on a date with this beautiful girl but she's stuck on her phone ,, so I thought I would shoot you a text and see what you were up to

[jspl90]

Well I usually always split the check if they are a student I might offee to pay🤔but i dont go that expensive places either.
Well if she is constantly on her phone I simply enjoy my meal maybe get a dessert and a cup of tea and once i am done try last time to talk to her if only to ask are we done and after that pay my half and leave
I go on dates to meet women and have a nice time and good food if its a lunch/dinner

[FatherJack]

I do not date , as no interest in doing so , hypothetically this is exactly why it's a bad idea to go on a meal or similar on a first date , needs to be kept very simple & inexpensive / free , so either party can eject swiftly , which is exactly what I would do in this situation , as the rudeness & lack of respect means they do not deserve a partner , besides they are already in a relationship... with their phone !!

[Phoenix98]

Well I sure as hell know who isn't getting a second date that's for sure. Honestly I'd be tempted to just get up and pretend to go to the men's room, pay the check and then just leave her there.

I know it's a lot of ask these days that your not on your phone 24/7 but I mean really if your out on a date with someone pay attention to them.

[GR00VY]

If a guy did that to me, I'm leaving immediately... It seems like you're going on the date with your phone and I'm just the third wheel of it. 🙄

[OmNomaly]

I would ask if there is an emergency going on. If so she is free to leave.

If she is just playing on her phone to play on her phone. She probably isn't interested in you. I would just grab the check and I personally would block (If it wasn't an emergency for her to be on her phone).

[JSmuve]

I'd probably pull out my phone and start swiping through girls on dating apps making sure to show her all the ones more attractive than her and telling her what I like about them. Then I'd probably just bounce after I told her I didn't wanna be a third wheel to her and her real date (her phone).

[Guy0nGaG]

It jars me how many people do this. It's not just rude during a date, it's rude in casual conversations as well. My grandmother would hit us with her cane if we're talking to her but our eyes are still on our phone.

[Blueeyes81]

Depends. I dated woman with joint custody and she would be texting or facetiming with her kid on our dates It wasn't constant and I get it, kids come first. So no big deal. However if someone was on social media or constantly on their phone that would be our last date.

[bigmarty36]

My wife does this she complains we don't date or spend time together or talk so I take her to restaurant for dinner get all dressed nice food bottle of wine and she spends half the night glued to phone. Phones are everywhere it's society now people cross roads not looking at traffic glued to phones I saw 2 people nearly killed by a train standing on edge of platform glued to phone

[V4mp315]

Because that's rude and not really appropriate specially because she's probably not gonna pay the bill, and if I was a man I would def not like to pay just for her to be on the phone!.

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[SpeshalK19977]

Depends why she on it

Sometimes a awkward silence and not knowing what to say, can only be avoided by looking st phone rather than staring blankly at them, it’s jus a awkwardness avoidance thing I think, I wouldn’t blame her, I tend to do it to avoid awkward silences too

[Phoenix_the_singer]

While I admit that being glued to the phone during a date isn't very polite, I believe in second chances. Maybe it was the setting, the activity, or maybe whatever was on her phone was especially important. I play Devil's advocate on both ends of the stick.

[godfatherfan]

This did happen to me once. So my answer is in the middle of your two. I stayed for almost an hour. Then I just said "if you are interested in a real date without a phone, give me a call", then I left.

[nodnol32]

I'll leave if i we haven't ordered. Otherwise I'll have to sit there. I'll pay for my share only. Im still being nice here, i can even take advantage of her not paying attention to anything and leave just before the bill arrives.

[VanillaSalt]

I can’t vote because I wouldn’t do either... I would tell her she here for a date with me and if she don’t put her phone away she won’t be much longer... then walk out.

[andreasderjuengere]

I think, I would have seen that coming - and so there would not have been a date in the first place.
Just in case it happens... I'd (reasonably polite, but firm) interrupt and suggest to end the farce right there, right then.

[GingerGuy]

That's a good response lol. I haven't had anyone do this to me thankfully but haven't been on many dates either. I've had friends do it to me though! I think that's even worse lol

[hellionthesagereborn]

I would pay for my half of the dinner and leave (If she is unwilling to give me her time I'm unwilling to give her my money).

[VanityFair748]

You're doing it well! Finally someone, who doesn't normalise being on the phone 24/7. I would do the same

[lokeshdh000]

Tell her, when can come again next time, you seem busy right now. And say sorry. He will leave his phone right the moment

[Anpu23]

I would stick it out. Manners reflect upon you not them. Get the check and make sure she has a way home. And tell her that I think we're not a good match and wish her luck.

[Belgie]

Depends on the food. If it's very good I'll ask to be seated at another table. Separate bills obviously.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'd tell her she's being rude and to kindly save her phone time for after our date. If she won't stop, then I'll leave. I may not be a player, but I have my self respect.

[GunnzzNRoses]

I would say I had to use the gentlemen's room and leave her with the bill. Teach her a thing or two about manners

[bolverk]

Drop and walk away, If she hasn't the manners to focus on the person she's supposed to be out on a date with I'd begone before we got to ordering dinner, if she is embarrassed about being left at the table the that's her problem.

[Yaaten]

Well, I would never see that girl again. I would also leave early and let her pay for whatever was ordered.

[Anonymous]

I'd enjoy my meal, and look her dead in the eyes when I tell the server to split the check. If she protested, I'd tell her to get whoever she was paying attention to on her phone to pay it. And they can give her a ride home, too.

[BeMuse]

Eat my steak and then say I’ll be right back I need to use the bathroom, and walk out through the kitchen and drive away….

[MecheD]

I wouldn’t pay my half at all I’d leave before food was ordered because more than likely she would’ve been doing the same prior to being there.

[Unit1]

I would silently vanish and wouldn't even say goodbye.
I make sure, that *my part* of the bill is paid but only if it's done so in a stealthily manner. The waitress should not tell the girl.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

No body should be doing this whether they are on a date or eating with the family. Exceptions can be made but it seems like it is accepted and expected behavior especially in the younger crowd.

[jgokgotit]

I would "go to the bathroom" and leave her the bill

[StephenCF]

I’d walk out, leaving her to pay for the date with Apple Pay if she loves her phone that much 🤳🏻💶

[Anonymous]

I would try to talk to her, and if she stayed on her phone, I would excuse myself to the restroom, then order a bunch of things, and just leave her with the tab!
Bitch!

[IAMNathanael]

I think that means I'm not important. Very rude, no chance for further dates.

[mayur1598]

Try to finish the date as quick as possible and never ask that girl out ever...

[Arivor]

I would get on my phone and hook up with another girl to be with as soon as I got rid of this piece of work.

[evangeline777]

Leave her, sneak out and leave th'e bill for her.
That's very rude.

[spartan55]

I would know that would be curtains for that bimbo.

[Sailor2001]

I would leave and block. It's simply rude not to pay attention to your date.
There's enough time to be on the phone before or after the date anyways.

[DocT1977]

If a girl did that, she wouldn't get another call from me. That would be the last date.

[Unstoppable20]

I wouldn't stick around. It's a waste of time. The whole purpose of a date is to spend time together and get to know onr another. Anyone man or women deserves to have the attention or the person they are on a date with.