If two people ask you to choose between them, how do you choose?

[Keyboardkat]

You mean like if I love two women and each one says about the other, "It's her or me"? That's a tough one, since whichever one you choose, you might have thoughts at times that you should have picked the other one! The first time you two get in an argument, you're gonna think, "Dang, why didn't I choose the other one?"
One possible way of choosing is, if you were sick or went through some bad times, did one of them seem to really care for you and to be there for you, more than the other one? But maybe that didn't happen, so then we're left with... what?
Whichever you choose, you're going to make someone really happy, and you're going to really hurt the other one, and she's presumably nice, also. I just can't come up with an answer!
A story: The great composer and pianist Franz Liszt (1811-1886) used to leave an urn at the front of the stage for people to drop in requests for what they wanted him to play. He once reached in and instead of a musical request, there was a life question: "Is it better to marry or to remain single?" (You know, celebrities are supposed to have superior wisdom to all the rest of us).
He thought a minute and said, "Whichever course one chooses, one is sure to regret it." It's not a helpful answer here, but I though it was an amusing story.

[Knighted2170]

If I hadn't chosen either one by that point, it's likely I wasn't going to choose to begin with.

It's no secret that I date multiple people at the same time. They know it, their cool with it. They also know I'm looking for specific traits.

So, playing along with the question, I would choose the one who displayed the most, or a stronger sense of, the traits I'm looking for.

Having those traits means we have the best chance at a deeper and more meaningful relationship than someone who has fewer.

Just to be clear, the traits are not looks. They are characteristics I look for.

[DizzyDesii]

I should be a love triangle expertise at this point 🤣 but tbh almost all my choices were the wrong choice. I always chose who wanted what i wanted in that moment. I thought they would be longterm but nope almost all were just into “the now.” So i say choose someone whos into what you want NOW AND THEN. They need to have same or similar beliefs/goals/interests. A lot of the short term had the beliefs/interests and SHORT TERM goals but not LONG TERM goals. So thats where i failed

[proNutro]

You don’t. You leave both. If you cannot decide who you want then I believe you don’t truly want any of them. If you wanted one of them then you’d already know your answer deep down.


Just save them both the trouble and tell them both to move on. I don’t even know why a woman would even ask you to choose between them because if it was me and a man didn’t know who he wanted, I’d gladly tell him to pick the other girl because I’m out haha.

[OlderAndWiser]

Anyone who tries to force or coerce me into choosing. . . they lose.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

Good question. I half don't want to and I half don't need to choose.


I'll take me a walk to go and clear my head if I was in this kind of situation. I can walk to take some time and actually think about what I should do. But if they are begging, I'm not choosing.

[MCheetah]

"We will have a series of competitions to determine the winner. The one left standing with the most amount of points, wins. If any competitor chooses to bow out of the competition before a winner has been determined, they forgo all future opportunities to compete in said competition. Are the competitors ready? Get on your starting positions and race to your first objective. Ready? (fires shot) ... Begin!"

[filjongrif]

Hmmmm maybe answer with as vague an answer as the question.. or will I !!! ... Absolutely a question there has to be context. . In ideal world you would never be asked to choose , but there's an infinite amount of reasons that could cause somebody to put you in that position

[v851234]

If this is regarding your mum and your girlfirend/wife, to put it simply.. the person making you choose should be told it's your choice and if they love you, they will respect what you do.

Now if one or the other is picking a fight with the other then I guess you need to make a choice

[Am_and_Pm]

U say u chose one but actually choosing both.

Trick is, dont let other one know.

Y is it important, because someone who is meant to be isn't going to ask u to choose one or the other. The girl, or guy, will just know. They will know that no other person in this life time can ever be replaced and that person will be truly missed if they ever left ur life.

So, yeah, I chose to get a lick of both before I drop em two bitchies...😋😋😂😁

[OmNomaly]

Go on more dates, but only go with one of them at a time.
Meaning, don't string them both along. Date one of them for so many months try it out. Let the other one know that you want one on one to figure out who would be a better fit for you. Do NOT let them talk you into sex and shit if they both want you. That's a trap. Wait until you figure out which one you'd like to be with.
If you can't figure out which one you want, I personally wouldn't pick either.

[Screenwriter]

I'm wondering how you GOT into this situation in the first place. And why are they ASKING you to choose? As many others have said, this seems the perfect time to walk away. You don't want to be fought over, or to leave one person or the other bitter if you care for both. Cut your losses and everyone's heartbreak.

[Price511]

I often see this in pop culture, and I always think

"Either me,"

"Or me,"

"Who would you choose?" They'd say in union.

"... why don't we all just like... Fuck each other?"

*Crickets*

"Yeah sure, why not?"

"I'm down."

In all honesty though I'd choose the one I love the most if necessary but I wouldn't mind going down the polygamy route, if they're both down for that idea

[Guardian45]

Twice in my life, I had a female BFF and a girlfriend who hated each other, and forced me to choose between a platonic relationship and a sexual relationship. In both cases I picked the girlfriend. I still wonder to this day, if I made the The Best choice!

[lightbulb27]

I used to be in that spot and I died a thousdand deaths inside because I wanted to make both happy. don't work. I'm talking childhood... trauma.

I have no idea. what kinda messes do you get yourself into?

[GunnzzNRoses]

If they are the same looks wise, the better personality. If they are the same personality wise, the better looker. If a mixture (no clear winner), I'll go with the one I vibe better with. If exact equals, flip a coin.

[AlienParasite]

Depends on the specific context. However I'm prone to favor the part that pressures me less into making a choice.

Also I'm not only thinking about a romantic context. I'm thinking about friendships too.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

When anyone forces me with an ultimatum, I feel that they crossed a line and destroyed any respect that existed between us. Give me an ultimatum, and be prepared to lose my respect/friendship/love immediately. I will walk.

[DJB72]

Option 3 - neither of them. If two women were both prepared to put me in that position I'd interpret it as the wanting to score points against each other, not want to be with me!

[ColHathi]

You choose the one you want to be with, or you choose neither of them. The other one will be hurt, so don't just pick one to see how it goes. I've done that, and it came right back to kick me in the ass. Shit scarred me for life.

[Agape93]

If I was in that, they’re both gone. My partners know I’m not monogamous, nor do I expect them to be. I will not have myself nor my choices be blackmailed.

[Myk13]

That’s a tough one. My feelings regarding ultimatums might help. The way I see it. If you give me an ultimatum. Forcing me to choose between you and what ever else. What it tells me, is that you have already accepted the fact that we could no longer be in a relationship. So I will choose the what ever else every time.
Adios ✌🏼

[TheorionMage]

Applied universally 'generically'... the architect Frank Lloyd Wright said it best: " Form follows Function"

[MecheD]

You chose the one who mentally stimulates you. The one who you chose shallowly will be gone shortly. Unless you’re want that.