Is dating exclusively older women a sign of mommy issues?

[ohshee]

When I was 16 almost 17 I was asked out by an older women I said yes I went out with older women until I was 27 , and I don't think I had mommy issues I went out with them because they were all women real women lol there mind worked different ,, and we could talk about anything ,, it was sexual it was enlightenment,, it was fun ,,, and all my friends were doing the drama crap I was getting laid Experiencing. Experimenting and loving it and hit 27 got married to a girl my own age and was divorced 2 years later,, now that I'm older most of the guys I hang with I work with or ride with * Dirt bikes* either them or there girlfriend or wife's are trying to hook me up with girls younger and I have to say girls 19 20 and so on are more out going and smarter than girls were back in the day I was that age , they are not afraid to do things and they know who they are and what they want so with your QUESTION I think it's really who you are and what's going on in ur life or even the older lady's life to

[Xcommunicated]

No that alone is no reason to think that.
Women like you describe tend to be more settled socially and professionally. They tend to be more confident and are coming into their best years sexually (vs immature girls). All of these are very desirable traits.

Don’t let others judge you. If you both are happy, be happy. Just because others aren’t as happy as you (or wouldn’t make the same choices as you) gives them no right to suggest you need therapy.

So dating women slightly older than you is not a reason in itself. A therapist would ask why do you think you need help? Is this the action of a deeper issue? Only you can answer that. Let haters hate, on your way out with the woman of your dreams.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Do majority of men have daughter issues then? I think you just like more mature women who know what they want. Women's brain is developing till 24-25 years. I can tell you that my thoughts and opinions were complete different 3 years ago-when i was 18. When i was 18 i had unrealistic or even toxic dating preferences and now it is more realistic for example. Man i remember how stupid my girl friends and i were when were younger lol. We are still not the smartest but way more mature.
Furthermore, older women have more adult life experience-this mean these women know more about the difficulties about the life due to their experience and have more realistic view about life since they are not financially dependent on their family and live on their own.

[Puppystarfish23]

In some cases yes but no most the time. Some guys just like a woman whos already stable and independent and knows what she wants and doesn't want in her life already. Not saying there's no young women out there who aren't like this but young women are usually still finding themselves out and wanting to do things with their life but with a older she's probably already done that and is content with her life and can give more time into a man, especially a younger man who still wants to go out for dinner and drinks and travel etc.

[OlderAndWiser]

It may simply reflect a realization that you need a more mature woman to take care of you.

[Chikky]

I love older men, and I don't have mommy issue

[rjroy3]

Not at all.

For clarification. When people say a girl has daddy issues they don't mean a girl who is into older men. That's common as hell.

A girl with daddy issues is a girl who seeks the love/affection her father never gave her, in any man who will give it. Usually from men who remind her of her father. That's a very different thing than just being into older guys.

Same goes for guys with mommy issues tho the difference i would say here is more often mommy issues manifests as being a mama's boy who can't assert boundaries with women because of it.

If you go from girl to girl who become mommy figures in your life, she's in charge and you don't have boundaries with them. Then in that case I'd say mommy issues. Because you're looking for a mom in the girls you date, rather than a girl that reminds you of your mom.

[AlienParasite]

3 years old difference is not that much. Neither I see that much 10. I mean a 10 years old rarely would be anyone's parent.

However it can exist an Oedipus complex (or Electra complex) underneath if one tries to find a partner with same attributes as one of our parents or we expect them to behave as our parent would or should, or if in our romantic relationships we enjoy engaging in a role dynamic of unequal powers adult-child more than a dynamic of equal powers adult-adult.

[SnuffleMuffins]

I don't believe dating older women is a sign of mommy issues. There are different factors to consider here especially because humans are diverse in character. So we can't assume the same things for everyone.
For example someone might have a higher mental capacity than what their age suggests. This usually leads to them finding older women attractive because they can relate and connect with them more on a mental level than with women who are not as mentally mature.
This next reason is more self explanatory. Humans are sexually reproductive (we need to mate and have sex to reproduce and keep our species alive). So it makes sense for any man, regardless of age, to find a woman attractive if she appears to be fertile/attractive. It's all about sexual mechanics.
The whole thing about "dating someone your age" is a social norm. The law of attraction doesn't work like this.

[Levin]

I would guess need to be taken care of or failure to be independent or embrace one's masculinity/male energy in some way. That dynamic is not appealing since I prefer to be dominant. In terms of mummy/daddy issues, you'd have to look back to childhood. I'd bet they're a repetition of them.

[Knighted2170]

No.

You just might looking for a more settled person than those in your age group.
Same reason some women prefer older men, they are more settled.
I don't mean boring when I say settled. It's more more like they have stability in their life.

The reverse is also true with a preference for more spontaneity in a younger person.

Could there be issues, yes. But it's not as common as people think.

[silvermoon84]

Not really. My aunt is fifteen years older than my uncle and he doesn’t have mommy issues. He just happened to fall for an older woman and he married who he fell in love with (and they’re married almost forty years).

[glock33sig357]

No! Although some men do date older women for level of care and attention they can only get with an older woman there's a strong sexual attraction that intrigues us and the ability to learn more about sex from an older women is always a pleasurable bonus.

[meeso13]

No when I was 17 I had a 34-year-old girlfriend went out for like 6 months she was my hair stylist I went out with a different range of from 20 to 28 to in my late teens and has nothing to do with mommy issues also an older woman knows if she likes and what she wants and knows how to do it in the bedroom believe me nothing to do with mommy issues at all

[WhiteGlaze]

Huh, its weird thinking that but maybe, sure why not. I kinda get how those parental inconsistencies change people's perspective kn sexuality and attraction. Its an odd variable but it happens. I've never liked my mom or dad a whole lot trully and actually think older women may be the way I go now so I don't know hard to say, probably never know for sure

[Massageman]

No. Usually it's just that someone discovered that more experienced women , well, have more experience! They are secure in their lives, they know what they can offer, they know what they have, and know what they want out of life. That experience extends into the sexual arena as well. They know what arouses them and are more likely to know what arouses their partner, as well.
Note to the cubs: Be patient. You will be rewarded- it is time well-spent.

[jaywhoo19]

Um iv had it both ways from day one e Aswell I dont have mommy issues shit iv been on my own since I was 13 and may so called mother betrayed me many times picked up my first charge cause I bought her a cd player so dude just do you don't wory bout age as long as she 18 and yous click let it rip love hard retard she could be the one

[Anonymous]

I've met a lot of couples where the Woman was two years older than the man. May parents were like that. I'd stay within 3 years. On one hand a slightly older woman will have greater maturity, but on the other she's less likely to be Virgin and sex will slow down sooner. I'm not opposed to slightly older woman, but My higher priority is virginity, which favors youth.

[Avicenna]

Not in your case. First of all, they aren’t that much older than you. You’re just attracted to women with dominant personalities.

[Walt832]

I actually prefer older with couple years but not way far. Why? Matureness. Younger ages completely lost lol trying to find their road.

I prefer a female who has direction knows what she wants in her life.

[Zealashton]

its better if men date older woman.
for 1 simple reason

we have shorter life spans, thus its better to day above then below, for older wemon are not childish and know what they want, and can guid a man too success with their statigic minds. we men are a gun, they just pull the trigger.

[peeinme]

No, not at all, we have friends who are married to an older woman and have had a wonderful marriage. My late father in law was married for over 50 years to a woman who he went to school with and got married when he was 18 and she was 23. They had over 50 years of wonderful marriage

[RingOfFire]

Nahhhh... when I was a teenager I had flings with women in their 30s. No mommy issues, it was just fun to be with an experienced woman instead of the inexperienced girls my age.

Now that I'm older, I want a younger woman.

Go figure.

[ik9999]

Partially. It could also involve someone from your earlier background. However, she is only 2 years more, it's the most common age gap. I mean that no one would think you like older women because of her.

[Unit1]

I have mommy issues but I don't make it known.
It can be a sign but it doesn't have to be.
Now I don't want to be babysitted or whatever. However i have this void, where a mother's love is supposed to be.

[Anonymous]

Why is this site full of ageist and sexist questions?
So when girls date a guy 15-20 years older, it's normal, but when women date a guy even 3 years younger, it's weird?
My dad is 4 years younger than my mom and they've been together for 28 years.. Age is just a number. What matters is having things in common with your partner

[DellBell]

My boyfriend is older than me and I don't have daddy or mammy issues. I just went out with guys my age and found them to be a bit Immature for me as I was a bit more settled than they were so I dated someone older that is more mature

[aarnasen]

No it isn't a sign of mommy issues, just like exclusively dating older men is not a sign of daddy issues.

[likelyOK]

26 is not the much older than you the 32 is 9 years older but one is not enough to be a momma issue

[DizzyDesii]

If theyre like 10+ years older than yea probably... at least with the people i know, it was def mommy/daddy/rape related issues for them

[Anonymous]

No it's just a preference. Sometimes people dont care about age and in the end its just a number. I think guys go more for older women because we are more mature and loving. At least some of us lol but i like younger guys because in my mind, I never really grew up.

[Myk13]

I always dated older. Anywhere from 2-14 years older than my self. Until my 2nd wife, that was 10 years younger, I have remained dating younger than myself. Anywhere from 8 - 14 years younger.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe but not in this case. A couple years older is nbd.

[Larson7]

Im starting to see a damed if you date older , damed way way more if you date tyounger type of situation here

[Kiss_Me]

Dating older women is a sign you are tired of the games so popular among the little girl crowd.

[Skankhunt]

Could be, but most likely you like older women. I like older women, because they are more mauture, I don't say I don't like younger girls, but older women can be very attractive.

[Liam_Hayden]

It depends. I mostly date 5-15 years older, but my mom was almost 45 when I was born so 5-15 years older is approximately the age of my mom's friend's kids.

[Dargil]

Not necessarily. There can be other psychologically healthy reasons.

[postempestas]

I don't think so... I like older men but not bc of my dad. Ya we don't really talk much but I don't need it as long as I got mom. So I don't think my taste is based on my relationahip with my dad, I don't suffer at all.

[Guardian45]

I've dated girls younger with the exception of one. My Ex was 5 years younger, my oldest girlfriend was five years older, and the other women I've dated were 10 to 15 years younger.

[rustymopp]

No, I don't think so, I previously had a partner who was 28 years older than me, we lived together for 18 years, no mummy issues here

[knight2468]

I have dated older women in late 30 and I am a Dom. I don’t think this is a mommy issue but sometimes older women seems hard to get which make them more desirable

[TacosRAwesome]

If the gap is fairly big, probably yes. 5 years older is normal though.

[Wise4myage]

I think that's possible, but other signs would exist.

[Snakeyes7]

Its possible but I think the biggest sign is the men looking to their female partners to be their mother figures.

[jamesgoldman]

Not necessarily... my reason for dating older stem from a thirst for knowledge and the desire of life experience and realism which is generally available from older women

[fallengrxce]

The only time I dated, she was about 5 years older than me. I remember that I was mostly attracted to older women then. Ever since, I've tried socializing with younger women and it has been a mess. If I find an older woman who is emotionally mature and socially dominant, while being sexually submissive, I would ask her out in a heartbeat.

Yes, I have mommy issues. I absolutely despise my mother.

[Curious074]

No this is a myth. People date older because the person seems to have a lot more in commonn with the older person (within reason) also some older people are mature and secure emotionally with in themselves

[EssenceOfLight]

Guys with mommy issue date younger girls either. I don't think it's some kind of indicator.

[Twalli]

I think it depends on how much older or how motherly they act.

[Gedaria]

No , it's what they like. Some like older women , I prefer younger women..

[TheLawAroundHere]

Not really. Youth is wasted on the young. A womans sexual peak is between the ages of 38-47. A mans peak is... what? 19? 20, at the latest?

Nature is cruel like that.

[Joe1956]

2 years older is way different than 20 ys older... my wife is 2 years older than me... i preferred her because gilrs my age seemed to be ditz

[more_than_a_guy]

I feel you bro, it's not always mommy issues. Older women don't play games like young ones, and I don't like being played by.

[The_unknown_memer]

Nope I prefer older women but I don't have any mommy issues

[buckyboy]

Even I feel aroused by the thought of having a girlfriend who is older and taller than me lol.
I know its weird.

[RyRy41490]

I date older woman, regarding the fact I know I do have Mommy issues. I'm used to be scared to admit I do.

[Anonymous]

The age differences aren't that big so... I'd say no. If you were dating only women in their 40's or more maybe.

[msc545]

No, it is not. "Mommy issues" are a lot more complicated than that.

[wingattebaby16]

i don't think it is any different than me dating older men... my man is 19years older than me.

[Gripper1970]

No, it means that you want a woman that knows what she wants.

[specialdusty]

It means she is god if she's older than me. i don't want to be good. im not. she is

[Itsroxxie]

I've said it, you seem to have a weird relationship with your mom. You act more like a scorned lover than her son.

[Pallavi37]

It's totally fine even I have dated guys like 24-25 years age