Personally, if a super attractive woman were to give me a shot, then I'd give her a chance too ofc, but... It's rough dealing with so much rejection. It's just easier to assume that it wouldn't work out if they're that attractive anyway. I might miss out on something good, but the risk is just too high. So I can understand him wanting to protect himself.
Which, by the way, is part of why I think we need to get over the notion that men should be the ones to approach women exclusively. It's just harmful.
I understand, but you guys need to know that it's not the appearance of a person that defines who they are on the inside. People who know I'm empathic take advantage of my kindness, they know I struggle to say no, and they know exactly how to manipulate, control and hurt me, people who don't know that I'm empathetic assume that I have a bad personality, so they don't take the time to get to know me, instead they judge me on the basis of my appearance. I have an introverted personality.
No, I know. That's also why if an attractive woman approached me I'd give her a chance, but I think there's still a high chance that someone super attractive is going to be narcissistic.What sucks more is that I don't think I'm the only one that thinks the way that I do, or that OP does, meaning the ones that are left that -will- approach super attractive people, are likely narcissistic themselves, which is when you get those people that try to manipulate, control and hurt you :/It's just a shitty system we've got going :/ But can you really blame me for thinking the way that I do? I don't want to play this sick game, and I'm only trying to protect myself.
I understand that you're caught up in this too.
I understand. You are not the only one who thinks like that, it’s normal to think this way. At some point in my life, I remember feeling the same about attractive guys, I stayed away because I didn't think they would want me and I avoided pretty girls in school because I didn't think they would want to be my friend. It wasn't until I personally experienced the judgment and the hatred after I lost weight, that was when I learned that you should never judge a book by its cover.
:/ I'm sorry to hear that. Would you say that I'm wrong in thinking attractive people are more likely to be narcissists then?
Thank you. Honestly, I don't know, because I understand your reason, there are more people in the world who lack empathy than people with actual empathy. I have trust issues, but I also tend to trust others easily, or maybe it's considered risky behavior to get in the car with a person who has not earned my trust, and I have not earned theirs. I try to see the good in everyone even when they hurt me, but if they hurt someone I care about, I immediately stop seeing the good in them. Clearly, I'm not in a position to give any kind of advice to anyone until I seek therapy.
"I try to see the good in everyone even when they hurt me," Heh, I do too. Honestly you seem great :/ I wish I could get to know you more, but... I wouldn't even know where to start, and it'd probably be pointless if we're worlds apart anyway. 😩Do you ever get to know anyone online? If you do, how do you go about that?
I will send you a message
Thanks for MHO
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