People always tell me dont go looking for love, let it find you. But at the same time if i have a good time with a girl and i dont ask them out, it's my fault she got away. But if i go out of my way to ask them out that would be me looking for love. What exactly am i waiting for? Or is that advice only true for women, that they can just wait for it to happen. Cause the general consensus is that women will not ask men out. But if i am waiting for love and shouldn't go around asking people out, how does love occur if neither person can pull the trigger and elevate their friendship to the next level?