Why can't I find decent men that won't be second option?

[Jjpayne]

I think you just have to keep looking until you find a good option. Sometimes you need to make exceptions in some places. Not every guy is perfect but let's say a guy has a job but is not rich, does not mean he still can't be a great catch. Sometimes the not rich guys are more down to earth. But I'd simply look for a guy that sounds polite, nice, and kind. And remember it's just a date, it's not a commitment. To me, I'd rather you make exceptions in other areas just to see other guys. All you can do is keep trying. Sometimes that's all you can do

[GingerGuy]

It's hard these days, for us guys as well. You sound like you might need some time to yourself maybe for a while? But when ready, keep trying. And make sure to communicate what you want and are looking for and ask anyone you might date. It's never "too soon" to have that talk. If you "scare him away", he's not a guy you want anyway.

[GrimmGothBabe]

Dating apps are a terrible place to meet decent guys you gotta find some the good old fashioned way getbout there and meet face to face or maybe focus on personality more than how attractive they are or take a break your still young it can take years to find a good match.

[paullingren]

Forgive me but I'd answer this question with a question:
Are you super crystal clear on what you're looking for in a guy?
What does he like to do? What are his goals? How does he treat women? What are his values? Do you fit together well in a relationship? And... is your ideal guy real/attainable?

[FlutteringFeelings]

That’s most men. When you come across a man who isn’t giving you the respect you deserve then you flick them off like a dead fly. Sobbing about why you’re second option isn’t going to change the situation. A man is going to be a man who is living his life while picking and choosing the next quest. Can’t take everything personal that a man does because you’ll just fall in their trap because they sense insecurities and you wanted their validation to feel whole.

[PurSeduction]

In my opinion:


Guys using dating apps are mostly looking for a quick "fuck".


Some of them are totally awkward creepy...
Others are giving at least some effort to get to there goal.
Then there are those who are acctually honest and trying to find a partner.
Last but not least there are those who enjoy the game of fooling around, pretending to be what they are not just to adapt who ever female they confront.


What is a second option for you?

[Wedimir]

There is such an expression: worthy men (women) were dismantled as puppies. Moreover, the more you increase your level of development, culture, and so on, the fewer those who can suit you. The answer is no. It's really hard! And meeting a cool partner is an extraordinary piece of luck these days

[DocT1977]

I would probably take a time out for a little while. Then I would recommend a friends first only approach. This shouldn't include "benefits". Just friends. Then once friendship has been established, you can see what you're really dealing with. It's kind of like the failsafe option for eliminating potential cheaters and players.

[Zealashton]

why are their no good wemon at all, ik it is beucse of such addittude,
and these scum people

femininsts
sjws
pc
blm
scum
are all scum begs.

[loveslongnails]

Keep looking, for one thing. It's not easy, but stay with older men who truly want a relationship and not just to fuck around. Yes, some will deceive you or try to, so be wary and don't put up with it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Some Men put their standards too high is why they can't find a Woman?

[Avicenna]

Id try meeting people with similar interests