I think you'd have no shortage of guys willing to take you out on a date if you expressed interest.
What about due to mental health issues?
Again would depend on what those issues were, where they were now in life with those issues, etc...
Let’s say this person has the following: DepressionAnxietyOCDADD
But is it under control? And what behavioral issues do they have because of it? I guess I would be torn some people can't help certain issues they have if it's a medical/health issues... But they can make it worse if they don't take care of themselves, follow doctor's orders, take meds as prescribed... And I did spend 13 years dealing with someone that was sick and at least a year of that being a caregiver to him as well as maintaining my job and mother duties... And sometimes, so busy taking care of everyone else, everything else, didn't always make sure to take care of myself... So to start a relationship with those issues in place? I can't say what I'd do without knowing the person, the level of feelings, and other factors 🤷🏼♀️
I agree. As always, you’re a voice of wisdom. In this case, She was taking meds, but it turned out she also had Borderline Personality Disorder, and that definitely wasn’t under control (nor did the anxiety and depression seem to be under control).
Oh yeah that could be an issue
And it definitely was.
Well, hopefully your next relationship will be the keeper for life 🌹
Thanks-, That’s my hope
My hope for you as well! 🙏🏼
Thanks for mh
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Well, it includes any situation where there was never sex.
@Avicenna Yeah I would still give it a try. The success of the relationship will depend on how much effort we stick into making it work. I would also expect them to make mistakes, but not the obvious deal breaker ones like cheating or dressing like a slut in public.
I think it would be too difficult for her to integrate you into her life if she’d been single that long.
@Avicenna It really depends on the person and the circumstances. My mom never had a relationship or any form of intimacy with a man before my dad came into the picture. And it all worked out. If we happen to be on the same line, then I'm willing to give it a try. I'd rather be with such a woman than a serial dater
Well, I guess I’m considered a serial dater myself these days, and I’m glad to hear that others‘ experience isn’t as negative as mine was (admittedly a sample size of just one in this case).
I think the serial dater is more the extreme case than the standard one, though.
I've dated 1 serial dater in the past. Night and day difference compared to the non-serial dater girls I've dated. As much as people dislike this fact, it remains a fact: being a male serial dater is not the same as being a female serial dater. It also depends on what you mean by "serial dating". Which in my view means hopping from person to person with (very) short intervals in between. I don't mind getting with girls for short time pleasure if I know they happen to be serial daters anyway. If it comes to long term relationships, I'll seek a girl who hasn't been hopping from dick to dick. And I myself have no issues getting with girls. My current girlfriend I have met 3 months after I broke up with the last. Not that I feel any remorse since she started contacting her old orbiters literally the moment I broke up with her. And within these 3 months, I've had one night stands. While the relationship prior to my last, I've been single for almost 2 years. So yeah, perhaps I'm also 'serial dater' now. But guess what, I'm a man and it's in my biology to do so. And on top of that, I work on my relationships despite being able to get with new girls without problems. So I don't just throw the relationship in the bin as soon as things get rough. I can't say the same for many female serial daters out there. Hence why I choose to either avoid serial daters entirely or keep it at sleeping with them
Also, don't forget that studies have shown that the less (sexual) partners women have, the better their chances are of not ending up in depression and of having higher quality relationships (overall happiness & less likely to divorce). This plays a key role in why I don't mind giving someone who hasn't dated in almost a decade a try
I see a big difference between a decade a a year or two. That’s distinction with a difference to me.
Well, in the situation that I encountered, mental illness and general cluelessness turned out to be the main reasons.
She’s better be the most incredible person because she’s have a lot of adjustments to make.
@Avicenna What do you mean?
She’s preferred her life around doing what she wants without the compromises inherent in a relationship. She’ll Have to get used to that.
Who says that's what she preferred? She may have just not found anyone yet.
In two decades? What does the guy have to be?
Elefino! Ask HER! LOL. (This is a question I wonder about all the time.)
[But by the way, the 2 decades was referring to me.]
Then you’ll see what I mean
No. I don't see what you mean. Any adjustments to be made will be quite easy. Because I'm going into it 100% willingly.
I have definitely NOT preferred being single. Lol
OK, I hope its that easy for you
It is, dude. :)