Ladies do you WANT TO BE APPROACHED? Do you detest it?

Question

What are the factors in actually looking at the guy or engaging him in conversation?

Answer 1

zeitgeist057 | 82 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

As some of the more honest ladies have already said, it’s pretty simple: Women want to be approached by men they are attracted to. They don’t want to be approached by women/men that they are not attracted to. So the answer depends on who is approaching. Whether or not she’s attracted depends on the particular lady in question, and the particular man approaching. For the most part, on a cold approach with no previous interaction, I would estimate failure rate to be around 95%. If the girl knows you and has a favorable opinion of you, that Probably lowers to you about a 40% failure rate. If she knows you and has a unfavorable opinion of you, that’s going to raise it to 100%, but she might give you her number anyway and you’ll find out that it was a failure later.

WalterBlack

1 mo
Very accurate!

Answer 2

WalterBlack

Very accurate!

Answer 3

Anonymous

Hence the great reset, most men will die because beyond the breeding requirements they serve no purpose

At present with MeToo, men are already not approaching women

Asker

1 mo
Haha

Answer 4

weasley8 | 262 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I like being approached in a nice, gentle way. Specifically in a way that allows me to turn someone down if I don’t like them in that way, without worrying for my safety. That would be nice.

If you want to be extra nice, talk to me for a while before actually dropping the question. Do it in a way that makes it clear that you’re getting there (like dropping a few extra compliments, or just being extra flirty in general), but just talk for a few minutes before asking. Maybe give me a few details about yourself just so I know you’re not a serial killer. It gives me time to decide whether or not I want to go out with someone, and I’m far more likely to say yes if I have that time to decide.

Asker

1 mo
Do you say you have a boyfriend if you're not interested?
Is it just a gentler way of rejection?
weasley8

1 mo
I prefer not to lie. But I will if I worry that the person won’t take rejection well, and could potentially get aggressive.
Asker

1 mo
Some men do take it too far.
Those aren't men they're boys.

Answer 5

Asker

Do you say you have a boyfriend if you're not interested?
Is it just a gentler way of rejection?

Answer 6

weasley8

I prefer not to lie. But I will if I worry that the person won’t take rejection well, and could potentially get aggressive.

Answer 7

Asker

Some men do take it too far.
Those aren't men they're boys.

Answer 8

JennyFoxworth

Xper 4

One like for the picture. 😂

Don't be rude/jerk, other than that I think I don't mind being approached or starting a conversation. Like I literally saw SOME (not all) men approached women and be like "I'm the hottest shit in town you better beg me for attention" 😂 some real life Gaston 🙄.

How about a normal Hi and My Name is abc. If I feel uncomfortable I would just tell them, I don't like how this conversation, have a good day/night, you'll have more luck with that girl across the bar. Other than that a conversation doesn't cost a lot.

Asker

1 mo
Do you get pissed and frustrated if the guy doesn't pick up on your signals and leaves never to see him again?
JennyFoxworth

1 mo
If I'm super interested I would just tell the guy straight up. If he's not interested I'll just move on, I won't even be able to remember any random faces like a guy who rejected me on the next day, why would I hold a grudge about it? :))
Asker

1 mo
I would imagine it'll make the girl very frustrated and she'll think she's ugly or something. Some guys just don't have that happen very often they're not used to it socits hard for them to pick up on them. That's why some guys like girls who are direct.
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JennyFoxworth

1 mo
Oh i imagine if the girl was holding grudge it would means she thinks she's beautiful like that and got rejected? You boys are blind or sth. :))
There are many times I don't even get signals from boys, I went out and eat with them as friends (in my opinion) and then later someone told me those were dates :))

Answer 9

Asker

Do you get pissed and frustrated if the guy doesn't pick up on your signals and leaves never to see him again?

Answer 10

JennyFoxworth

If I'm super interested I would just tell the guy straight up. If he's not interested I'll just move on, I won't even be able to remember any random faces like a guy who rejected me on the next day, why would I hold a grudge about it? :))

Answer 11

Asker

I would imagine it'll make the girl very frustrated and she'll think she's ugly or something. Some guys just don't have that happen very often they're not used to it socits hard for them to pick up on them. That's why some guys like girls who are direct.

Answer 12

JennyFoxworth

Oh i imagine if the girl was holding grudge it would means she thinks she's beautiful like that and got rejected? You boys are blind or sth. :))
There are many times I don't even get signals from boys, I went out and eat with them as friends (in my opinion) and then later someone told me those were dates :))

Answer 13

Anonymous

Let me put it this way.

If you were approached by a woman would you rather be approached with lines that quite simply implies sexual interest (as is the typical approach style of men) or indicates that she would like to know you first (the oddity of men's approach style).

Once guys understand that unless a skank, easy, promiscuous, etc. women don't like been viewed as mere sexual objects then maybe they'll actually get somewhere with a woman worth keeping and not the "town bike" that'd give anyone a "ride".

Opinion Owner

1 mo
@zeitgeist057 ... ROFL. Are you not getting the point? Women don't want to be approached solely with sexual interest. If you've no interest in getting to know someone who isn't some easy fucks & sucks anyone slut don't bother approaching
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@zeitgeist057 I rather doubt you can attract anyone of worth with that mentality. Take it from a woman who doesn't wear makeup, doesn't dress revealing, etc. and yet still attracts attention from some VERY, VERY successful men.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@zeitgeist057 The town bicycles don't account for much, dear. I am sure for men, like yourself, who have very low self esteem & respect they're fantastic. For everyone else they're passed over for a reason. But keep deluding yourself.
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Opinion Owner

1 mo
@zeitgeist057 The town bicycles don't account for much, dear. I am sure for men, like yourself, who have very low self esteem & respect they're fantastic. For everyone else they're passed over for a reason. But keep deluding yourself.

As for very, very successful men that would be multiple property owners, multiple business owners, etc. Can you afford a McLaren (a vehicle with a basic 230,000 price tag) without a lease or a loan by any chance?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@zeitgeist057 Actually no sweetie. I am just making a point that you have no sense of value. If you actually think a cheap pickup line would work on a woman of value all you've been hitting on & wrongly assigning value to is "ladies" who'd fuck a homeless person for a ten spot.

Answer 14

Opinion Owner

@zeitgeist057 ... ROFL. Are you not getting the point? Women don't want to be approached solely with sexual interest. If you've no interest in getting to know someone who isn't some easy fucks & sucks anyone slut don't bother approaching

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

@zeitgeist057 I rather doubt you can attract anyone of worth with that mentality. Take it from a woman who doesn't wear makeup, doesn't dress revealing, etc. and yet still attracts attention from some VERY, VERY successful men.

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

@zeitgeist057 The town bicycles don't account for much, dear. I am sure for men, like yourself, who have very low self esteem & respect they're fantastic. For everyone else they're passed over for a reason. But keep deluding yourself.

Answer 17

Opinion Owner

@zeitgeist057 The town bicycles don't account for much, dear. I am sure for men, like yourself, who have very low self esteem & respect they're fantastic. For everyone else they're passed over for a reason. But keep deluding yourself.

As for very, very successful men that would be multiple property owners, multiple business owners, etc. Can you afford a McLaren (a vehicle with a basic 230,000 price tag) without a lease or a loan by any chance?

Answer 18

Opinion Owner

@zeitgeist057 Actually no sweetie. I am just making a point that you have no sense of value. If you actually think a cheap pickup line would work on a woman of value all you've been hitting on & wrongly assigning value to is "ladies" who'd fuck a homeless person for a ten spot.

Answer 19

nandinikhaneja | 54 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Well, if a guy comes up to me or show interests towards me, I would seriously be very flattered. I hope the guy doesn't act too creepy because I have talk to variety of guys, but I haven't met any creep guys yet except on Instagram where few people acted really desperate. So, beside that, I just love guys who are well mannered and have a good sense of humour. I don't like being too materialistic, even if we decide to meet each other on a date, I would like to pay for my bills equally!

Asker

1 mo
Define "creepy" like what do some things men do that turn you away?

Answer 20

Asker

Define "creepy" like what do some things men do that turn you away?

Answer 21

Grlwhppydoggi

Xper 1

If a guy approaches me in a friendly non aggressive manner, I might be interested. It all depends if I feel an attraction towards him also. And if I am attached I’m pretty sure he will be able to tell. I smile a lot, so when I see someone I’m interested I’m usually sending positive vibes in his direction. I sometimes can’t tell if a guys interested, I think “is he checking me out?” If he’s not as confident as someone who will come talk to me, I sometimes have a little trouble figuring out what he’s about. I tend to prefer shy quiet guys vs someone who seems to be interested in every attractive woman he encounters. I just wish shy guy would smile at me, then I’d know more ir less if he’s into me. After the initial I see you, you see me and I like what I see step, shy guy would ideally man up and come talk to me.

Answer 22

Mishthefish | 145 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

It depends , I have been approached by guys that got rude when I didn’t want to give them my phone number. If you’re going to approach a girl remember that it’s her choice whether she wants to give her number out or not. At the end of the day I don’t mind being approached by guys , along as they are kind and fun to chat with.

Answer 23

nelly83 | 162 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I would say that you definitely need to approach women in a similar league as yours , otherwise you will have a high chance of getting rejected. I have never found most of the guys who approached me to be attractive. So I have all rejected them. You need to understand that we don’t know anything about you other than your looks. If we don’t see any physical attraction then we won’t be dating you

Asker

1 mo
Why did you reject them then?
You just said in the same league.
This is why some women never find a good man because they think too highly of themselves and only get attractive cheaters and abusers
nelly83

1 mo
@Asker most people do not approach others of the same league. It is unlikely a plain looking guy is going to approach another plain girl who he won’t even glance twice at. He’s gonna approach someone better looking than he is

Answer 24

Asker

Why did you reject them then?
You just said in the same league.
This is why some women never find a good man because they think too highly of themselves and only get attractive cheaters and abusers

Answer 25

nelly83

@Asker most people do not approach others of the same league. It is unlikely a plain looking guy is going to approach another plain girl who he won’t even glance twice at. He’s gonna approach someone better looking than he is

Answer 26

anexi

Xper 4

I'm a home body, so I don't really go out much, except with friends. Nobody has ever approached me in those instances. So I'm gonna answer this as best I can.

I'd be okay with being approached, but if it's clear that all the guy wants is sex then I'd reject. If they strike up a conversation and make me laugh, their chances would improve. If I know them, odds are a lot higher that I'd be receptive to them.

Answer 27

Cherokeehp | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Seeing as I’m in a relationship I automatically reject any guy who approaches me. When I was single I’d instantly reject any dude that I found to be physically unattractive, rude, creepy, or overly-sexual.

Answer 28

Hazelstar99 | 139 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

If it is for work stuff or a friendly chat then I'm fine with it. Else, it is a NO

Answer 29

Girl22_

Xper 4

I would want to approached but in a respectful manner

Asker

1 mo
How would you like to be approached
Girl22_

1 mo
Depends where we are and if I noticed you.. if I noticed you and for example we are a coffee shop just come up to me and just say hi
Asker

1 mo
Do you give a signal like glance at him then look away when he notices you looking at him?
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Girl22_

1 mo
Yeah
Asker

1 mo
Do you get a little close like for example:
if you're a on a bus and the bus is pretty much empty docyou sit on a seat close to him to give him a signal like "hey dude you should talk to me!"?
Girl22_

1 mo
Bruh just shoot your shot in a respectful manner.. be like hey and however she responds to that you will know to approach or not
Asker

1 mo
Honestly these questions are for any guys reading this post. A guy would see this post and be like "damn that girl wanted me to talk to her, I know next time when to go in"

Answer 30

Asker

How would you like to be approached

Answer 31

Girl22_

Depends where we are and if I noticed you.. if I noticed you and for example we are a coffee shop just come up to me and just say hi

Answer 32

Asker

Do you give a signal like glance at him then look away when he notices you looking at him?

Answer 33

Girl22_

Yeah

Answer 34

Asker

Do you get a little close like for example:
if you're a on a bus and the bus is pretty much empty docyou sit on a seat close to him to give him a signal like "hey dude you should talk to me!"?

Answer 35

Girl22_

Bruh just shoot your shot in a respectful manner.. be like hey and however she responds to that you will know to approach or not

Answer 36

Asker

Honestly these questions are for any guys reading this post. A guy would see this post and be like "damn that girl wanted me to talk to her, I know next time when to go in"

Answer 37

Torari | 338 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Depends how hot you are. Nobody is gonna mind being approached by someone hot and charismatic. Or by their future SO.

Its just the awkward rejections people dislike.

Answer 38

TacosRAwesome | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Don't mind being approached but I'm rarely in the mood to deal with more people after work.

Answer 39

Anonymous

Its funny to hear the comments from the ugly one who has such a specific checklist that no guy would ever pass through anyway. After looking at her picture it is hard to believe that any guy would approach such a shrew.

Answer 40

Anonymous

I never get approached. Would feel really nice if I do get approached for once : (

Asker

1 mo
I'm sure you do
Asker

1 mo
Every girl gets approached. It's men that never do

Answer 41

Asker

I'm sure you do

Answer 42

Asker

Every girl gets approached. It's men that never do

Answer 43

Addicted2u

Xper 4

I only want to be approached by guys I find attractive. Facts!

Asker

1 mo
Whay do you do or think if you don't find them attractive
Addicted2u

1 mo
I tell them no thanks
Asker

1 mo
Would you give out your number to him if it was a short convo or does he have to swoon you over?
Some ladies think its cringe when a dude spits game , they think he does it to every girk
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Addicted2u

1 mo
Again, depends on how attractive I find him. I personally never fell for any pick up lines or game because I knew I was saving myself for a bigger commitment. But I’m sure those kinds of tricks work on some women.

Answer 44

Asker

Whay do you do or think if you don't find them attractive

Answer 45

Addicted2u

I tell them no thanks

Answer 46

Asker

Would you give out your number to him if it was a short convo or does he have to swoon you over?
Some ladies think its cringe when a dude spits game , they think he does it to every girk

Answer 47

Addicted2u

Again, depends on how attractive I find him. I personally never fell for any pick up lines or game because I knew I was saving myself for a bigger commitment. But I’m sure those kinds of tricks work on some women.

Answer 48

sheikalana | 802 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

No, I don't want to be approached.

Answer 49

tae_ie

Xper 5

I would be flattered but 95% I would reject them.

Answer 50

Agape93 | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Now a days, no, I don’t want to be approached

Answer 51

WalterBlack | 432 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

The picture is spot on.

Answer 52

Anonymous

I've never been approached in my life..

Asker

1 mo
Lies
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Truth. Not in person, on dating apps I have, but that's it.

Answer 53

Opinion Owner

Truth. Not in person, on dating apps I have, but that's it.

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