BREAKING NEWS. If you are single then that means you're too attractive to be approached. How does that make you feel?

[douride2]

I see you has all the conceit in your family. Definitely sounds like a bunch of hooey to me.

[Babygirl_S]

Sounds good 😌

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh that's bull... if that's the case, I must be super attractive then! LOL

Even if someone is that attractive, people are going to talk to you. Yes, being too attractive can cause some people to be intimidated of you, however, the right person (s) will still approach and make an effort to ask you out.

No, those are just excuses that make people like us feel slightly better- with strong emphasis on "slightly." Meanwhile, as someone that's been single for over a decade, I can admit I'm not that attractive; I am not everyone's cup of tea and that's fine. I accept that.

If you're single, it just means you haven't found a person that appreciates you yet: simple as that.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s partly true. People are scared to approach people who are attractive AND who don’t come across as especially nice. If you’re really attractive, but you’re also really nice and go out of your way to make sure people feel welcome, then they’ll become obsessed. And it can become a problem. I’ve had this problem myself. If you have resting b**** face, and you’re attractive though, people will find you really intimidating.


There’s also the baby face factor. If you’re attractive without a baby face, yeah, that will probably be true. Unless you go out of your way to ensure otherwise. If you’re attractive with a baby face, however, people will be ridiculously nice to you all the time, to the point where it can get annoying because you know they’re not this nice to everyone else, and they will baby you and coddle you and basically go out of their way to spoil you in every way possible.


That’s the problem I have. Because along with the baby face comes the assumption that you’re an idiot, and completely helpless. But at the same time, people like pretty people, especially when pretty people are nice and talk to them (contrasting the stereotype that most pretty people are rather aloof). So combine the two, and they get ridiculously protective. Even when they don’t need to be.

[Anonymous]

I think that there COULD be truth to it, depending on the person. It’s not some universal truth that applies to everyone. If you get divorced, you’re unlikeable long term.

But if nobody is approaching you or seems to like you, I think it could possibly go the other way where most people are just either are too afraid to approach or they’re missing your appeal. It’s like how loud and outgoing people get a lot of attention even when a lot of them are dumb, or not that good looking sometimes.

If you’re good looking but quiet and “serious” than I think most people just don’t feel comfortable with interrupting your flow you know? It’s different social dynamics, actually wanting to respect someone’s space instead of just wanting to throw yourself into a good time. Then you second guess yourself because “why would I be good enough? Why even try?”

I think there CAN be situations where people are just not on the same wavelength at all and people can be “too good” for the people around them. But its likely not always the case for you, if at all. If it goes into details and examples, great, but otherwise blanket articles like this are pretty irresponsible, because of how often they give people the wrong impression of themselves.

[Knighted2170]

It's actually true and backed up by science.

An article published by neuroscientist Dr. Gordon in Psychology Today in 2014 gave a synopsis of 11 reasons attractive people are not approached and lonely.

Another study done was published in the journal of Association Of Psychology Science in 2011 by Dr. Wago. Parts of this study were used by Dr. Gordon. Wago's study looked at how perceived beautiful people were judged.

Yet another study by Dr.'s Halberstadt and Rhodes in 2000 published their research in Phycological Science journal that looked at attractiveness and it's correlation in relationships.

These are just a small example of the hundreds of studies done that have been done. I only went back as far as 1989 doing my own research to wrap my head around the concept. But, I can't argue that this is a real thing attractive people deal with on many different levels.

However, it's not breaking news. It's been around a long time. It's just breaking to the next generation.

[MCheetah]

I know for a fact I am not attractive looking. (@DizzyDesii has seen what I look like before,) so I know this ain't true. Or, are you gonna tell me THIS is too attractive to be approached?

[Finchie40]

Makes me feel like that’s a bunch of bullshit cuz attractiveness means shit when you don’t have confidence , lacking confidence about yourself is why people are single. Just because we see someone as being beautiful it doesn’t mean others will think the same way. And shit we all have seen ugly people with attractive partners , so bottom line it comes down to confidence

[SphynxUK]

Story of my younger life.
It affected me, as I felt I must have something wrong with me as I never got approached or chatted up.


I can now see the real reason, and while I’m still not comfortable with it, I can accept it.

[Lionman95]

I highly doubt that it can be true in some cases but it´s not true for everyone because for instance in Germany where I come from nearly 45% are single households. So they are single because they are too attractive to be approached?
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[Don-__-Don]

I'd feel more like an outcast than I already sometimes do.

The fact that being that attractive would make you unapproachable sounds like a problem.

[red324]

Well that's one positive way to think about it. Lol I'm so hot they are just scared, but I know this isn't true. I see the Facebook posts from the girls on Facebook. They don't hold back letting a hot guy know he's hot. Desperate or not.

[Texaskid1]

How true.

There are so many lonely ladies. How can I commit to just one?

The Texaskid1 is here ladies!!! YEEEHAAAAAWWWW

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm only average looking. I think most people don't approach me because either 1. I'm shy and they know or 2. since I'm short.

[itsbrielle98]

Sucks. Cuz basically you have to go out of your comfort zone and make the first move or you’re single forever

[Dayman343]

I've never really considered myself to be hot looking in ladies eyes. I've had my fair share of encounters and relationships with them but I recall one girl telling me that I was too good-looking and could never trust me.

[meepthethird]

Hysterical/ condescending laughter would be my response

[nxxxxxxxxxxxa]

Well... this explains Mr. then!

but I guess this also explains me too.

[ChefPapiChulo]

either really ugly or really attractive. Only average looking people date, thats why everyone is average looking. If only good looking people dated, most people would be attractive.

[captain_voidwalker]

And here i was think it was because a life time of working hard to achieve financial success left me a hideous grotesque of a human bieng. Turns out I'm just to hot :)

[jestergent]

Being attractive has value when you have options your interested in.

[pigoat]

Whatever helps you sleep at night

Reverse psychology