I'm a 25-year-old crushing on a 10th grader at the school I work. What to do?

Question

FYI in my country Japan the age of consent is usually 13, at least in major cities. But the situation is...
I'm 25. I've been interning at an international school for a few months now. One of my roles is assisting and subbing this student's 10th grade music class.
Okay, that's a lot of info already, hopefully nobody finds me posting on here...
As a musician, I've always had a weak spot for musical talent. He's surprisingly multitalented. On top of that it doesn't help that he's cute af and sweet.
I've been singing in his newly formed band (formed by his music teacher/my former teacher) and we practice twice a week. I also bump into him in the hallways sometimes. His classrooms are a floor above where I mostly work everyday and the vending machine is on his floor, so everyday I would "go to the vending machine".
Look at me, writing like a smitten teenager.
Anyway, he probably sees me as this old lady and other than when we do music, we live in two different worlds (obviously). Actually, sometimes he speaks to me formally, sometimes he doesn't, so I'm not sure what he sees me as. But probably either as "some lady" or "some old lady". Hopefully the former...
When I'm with him in class, I feel myself turn quiet except when we discuss our music or when the other kids get distracted from work and I have to get them back on track... I almost have to force myself to talk otherwise. He makes me so nervous.
He mostly talks to his bandmates but sits near me and sits facing me with his guitar.
He's generally a good kid. Smart, nice, has leadership skills, and very musically talented, as I mentioned. He is also on the mature side. He doesn't seem like the sporty type.
Ok, I'm ready to publish this and humiliate myself.

Not sure, I've never heard of this happening

Do absolutely nothing. Just suck it up and suffer.

It's a COVID thing. Have many drinks, go to a church (not in that order), and it'll pass.

Laugh about it with a friend.

Go with it. It happens and it's not that crazy.

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GirlGuy

Updates:

28 d

Thanks for all your comments. I'm kind of surprised by your interest in this post... I wasn't expecting so many responses.

Just FYI I am not a lisenced educator, I'm an intern and I am going into Education but not as a classroom teacher.

Not that it makes much difference, but just to make that clear.

Answer 1

OlderAndWiser | 6.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

You need to buy an industrial-strength vibrator and diddle yourself silly every day before you go to work. You and this kid might find fifteen minutes of pleasure but it won't lead to anything good for your future.

Asker

29 d
I'll do that, thanks

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Asker

I'll do that, thanks

Answer 3

Anonymous

First of all, this is so well written. Makes me feel you are gonna be an amazing teacher.

Now coming back to your question, I think there is a lot at stake here. You sound like a nice women with amazing potential. There is no harm in looking, but I would strongly advise against acting in it. The reason is obvious.

Now regarding how you can get over it. What I found very useful is surround yourself with faces and characters that are your type. Like not just in real life, in what you read, in what you watch. This could help you and let your mind occupy thoughts of some other things.

Asker

1 mo
Thanks for the advice! I'm going to do that for sure.
Screenwriter

28 d
I think something must be seriously missing in your life if you're considering this young child as a sex object. It's normal that you find someone past puberty attractive, but considering acting on it is extremely troubling. Find a pro to talk to about this and get it out of your system. That should help immensely and get to the bottom of this off base attraction. Good luck.

Answer 4

Asker

Thanks for the advice! I'm going to do that for sure.

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Screenwriter

I think something must be seriously missing in your life if you're considering this young child as a sex object. It's normal that you find someone past puberty attractive, but considering acting on it is extremely troubling. Find a pro to talk to about this and get it out of your system. That should help immensely and get to the bottom of this off base attraction. Good luck.

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Paolaa988 | 118 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

I mean there's nothing wrong with liking him. I myself have a thing for younger guys and will date them as long as its legal. Haters are gonna hate but i think it's not good for your job and reputation if you spark something up. I dont think its a good idea for that given reason, not so much the age factor since it's legal there

Paolaa988

28 d
Also for people who have the incorrect definition of "pedophile"it means being attracted to NON pubescent children NOT pubescent guys and since he hit puberty he's not considered a child and given the fact he can legally consent there makes him old enough
Paolaa988

28 d
Lmao itd be funny to date an 18 year old and not someone your age so nobody can do or say shiiit about it and stfu. Sorry you dont deserve all this hate.
Paolaa988

28 d
If you need someone to talk to feel free to follow me and you can date anyone you please as long as its legal age but you shouldn't go for your student since it can turn bad but yeah dont let people label you

Answer 7

Paolaa988

Also for people who have the incorrect definition of "pedophile"it means being attracted to NON pubescent children NOT pubescent guys and since he hit puberty he's not considered a child and given the fact he can legally consent there makes him old enough

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Paolaa988

Lmao itd be funny to date an 18 year old and not someone your age so nobody can do or say shiiit about it and stfu. Sorry you dont deserve all this hate.

Answer 9

Paolaa988

If you need someone to talk to feel free to follow me and you can date anyone you please as long as its legal age but you shouldn't go for your student since it can turn bad but yeah dont let people label you

Answer 10

Manduh

Xper 4

This is so cute!!! I kind of want to read this as a story and see where this goes

Asker

1 mo
Haha! Well, I'll probably be posting about this a lot. 😆
Manduh

1 mo
Ooooh I better follow you then
Asker

1 mo
Thanks! I'll follow back.😊
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Manduh

1 mo
💜💜💜
Aiko_E_Lara

29 d
Now let's reverse the gender and see if you'd still call it cute.
Manduh

29 d
I'd still call it cute
Aiko_E_Lara

29 d
Easier said than done
Manduh

29 d
Not really

Answer 11

Asker

Haha! Well, I'll probably be posting about this a lot. 😆

Answer 12

Manduh

Ooooh I better follow you then

Answer 13

Asker

Thanks! I'll follow back.😊

Answer 14

Manduh

💜💜💜

Answer 15

Aiko_E_Lara

Now let's reverse the gender and see if you'd still call it cute.

Answer 16

Manduh

I'd still call it cute

Answer 17

Aiko_E_Lara

Easier said than done

Answer 18

Manduh

Not really

Answer 19

sensible27 | 581 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Uhh.. analyze try not to overestimate or underestimate things.

Also interesting how the male female audience is split
And secondly, what the reaction would've been it was 25yo guy and a girl in tenth grade. I'd say fundamentally age isn't thaat relevant but does serve as somewhat of a proxy for people and their lives

Answer 20

Anonymous

From puberty to menopause women are biologically attractive to reproductive age males. (1x - 4x) finds (1x - 4x) attractive. Basic range is 12 - 40, but some earlier and others later, it is biologically dependent. Attraction to the opposite sex is a natural part of Adulthood. You Just respond to his pheromones, but you will find someone in your age group that is appropriate to be involved with. Being concerned about age of consent is grossly inappropriate. It's understandable you're attracted, but acting on it is wrong. 9 years is too extreme and your position in the school is not proper. I recommend you seek the Jesus and he'll open relationships to you. You are still a young woman and there are more than enough singles around your age. I would recommend within 5 years of your age.

Answer 21

Anonymous

Girl you're a pedophile.
Please contact a therapist, maybe one that specializes in that area, and start working on it.
It doesn't matter what "the age of consent is". They're a child.
Please do contact a therapist so that you don't molest a kid because you were being reckless.
This is something that can scar a person for life (speaking from experience).

I'm not judging you. I know you're/born like this or it develops because of some sort of trauma.
I'm just begging you that you go work on yourself so that you'll deal with your exsistance a bit easier.

Opinion Owner

29 d
Also leave the school right now and choose another job. This is like an alcoholic working at a bar.
Please don't do this shit. We've all got stuff in our lives that we can't have.

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

Also leave the school right now and choose another job. This is like an alcoholic working at a bar.
Please don't do this shit. We've all got stuff in our lives that we can't have.

Answer 23

Nachowedgie | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

It's 13 for people under the age of 18, not for people over it, this is in pretty much every prefectures individual laws. So either way it's illegal for you and the fact that you're on here trying to make excuses for your thoughts about it screams predator to me

Answer 24

RoxyFoxx

Xper 5

DON'T act on it. It's a phase and it'll pass. But remember: a moment of pleasure may cause the sinner lifelong misery.

Asker

28 d
Very true. Thanks.

Answer 25

Asker

Very true. Thanks.

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Screenwriter | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

In your role as a teacher this is inappropriate. I don't care what the "legal age" is in Japan. He's 15 and a child.
Why don't you ask his parents if you can date him? If they give their permission, then I suppose it's legal and OK with them.
If you can't ask their permission, you have your answer.
Look for someone your own age, for heaven's sake. What's wrong with 25 year olds?

JessieBellll

29 d
Why would a 25 year old ask a parent if he can date a 15 year old?

That's so creepy.
Screenwriter

29 d
@JessieBellll AND THERE'S YOUR ANSWER!!! IT's CREEPY! You're being creepy to crush on a CHILD.
What is going ON with you? Talk to a counselor and get your head straight. This could be a disaster.
Stop.
JessieBellll

29 d
I am not the asker here. What are you talking about?

I am saying its ridiculous you proposed it as an option
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Screenwriter

29 d
@JessieBellll I DID NOT pose it as an option. I said that to show how ridiculous an idea it was. What parent wants a 25 year old asking to date their 25 year old. They'd call the police.
Screenwriter

29 d
15 year old... excuse me..

Answer 27

JessieBellll

Why would a 25 year old ask a parent if he can date a 15 year old?

That's so creepy.

Answer 28

Screenwriter

@JessieBellll AND THERE'S YOUR ANSWER!!! IT's CREEPY! You're being creepy to crush on a CHILD.
What is going ON with you? Talk to a counselor and get your head straight. This could be a disaster.
Stop.

Answer 29

JessieBellll

I am not the asker here. What are you talking about?

I am saying its ridiculous you proposed it as an option

Answer 30

Screenwriter

@JessieBellll I DID NOT pose it as an option. I said that to show how ridiculous an idea it was. What parent wants a 25 year old asking to date their 25 year old. They'd call the police.

Answer 31

Screenwriter

15 year old... excuse me..

Answer 32

Hangry22 | 701 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He's a teen. So he probably has student teacher fantasy

Asker

1 mo
interesting...
Hangry22

1 mo
Doesn't mean you should act upon it. Maintain the sanctity of teaching lady
Asker

1 mo
of course... i don't want to ruin my career...😖

Answer 33

Asker

interesting...

Answer 34

Hangry22

Doesn't mean you should act upon it. Maintain the sanctity of teaching lady

Answer 35

Asker

of course... i don't want to ruin my career...😖

Answer 36

Anonymous

What would you do if you met an attractive woman who was already married? You accept her as off-limits and look elsewhere. It is human nature to be attracted to girls that age but you just have to rise above the urge and ignore her. Think of what's best for her, should a girl who's not even old enough to sign her own checks have some teacher pursuing them? Yoh can make whatever excuses you want, but this girl is simply off-limits too bad good bye that's that.

Opinion Owner

29 d
Sorry, I thought I was replying to a guy who had asked the same question earlier. But my reasoning still stands.

Answer 37

Opinion Owner

Sorry, I thought I was replying to a guy who had asked the same question earlier. But my reasoning still stands.

Answer 38

WesBrewer | 700 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

you shouldn't date a 10th grader or even try to, it won't end well for you especially if you care about your job, if your superiors find out you'll most likely be fired, so just get some nice wine and drink, and go to church lol

Answer 39

IAMNathanael | 59 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

This is an odd situation isn't it? I live in the usa where most states the age of consent is eighteen. So naturally I'd say go with that but if you're native to Japan then I guess you'll do what you know. I'm probably no help.

Asker

1 mo
I mean... the age is not a problem. It's the fact that I intern at the school and he is a student...
IAMNathanael

1 mo
Oh true. In any case I'd keep it strictly professional.
Psychosocial

29 d
No, the age of consent in most states is 16.
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IAMNathanael

29 d
Oh true? Well, that's news to me

Answer 40

Asker

I mean... the age is not a problem. It's the fact that I intern at the school and he is a student...

Answer 41

IAMNathanael

Oh true. In any case I'd keep it strictly professional.

Answer 42

Psychosocial

No, the age of consent in most states is 16.

Answer 43

IAMNathanael

Oh true? Well, that's news to me

Answer 44

HedwigInABox | 81 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Oh wow it's really sad that no one want's to hold female predators accountable. You should't be a teacher. This isn't cute and you are disgusting.

Answer 45

mistixs | 522 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

You keep it to yourself and date somebody your own age.

Answer 46

JessieBellll | 77 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

This happens often with teachers and students. More often than you think.

But if you act on it you are a PERVERT. Hell, it's illegal if you are a teacher, he could be 17 and you will still go to jail.

So decide if you want to be a pervert or a pedophile, or an responsible adult and keep your career. t's really on you. No excuses here.

Answer 47

Anonymous

Besides being wrong to begin with, choosing to act on this desire could cause you a world of legal, personal and professional havoc, and it's not worth it. Find someone your own age. The end.

Answer 48

Gabboo

Xper 3

I don't care what the age of consent is in another country, you're trying to excuse pedophilia and you need fucking help

Answer 49

Marco10 | 67 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Go find yourself someone your age and don’t be stupid. I don’t care about the legality of your situation in Japan. This isn’t right.

Paolaa988

28 d
She doesn't have to. What you gonna do about it? Absolutely nothing since its legal
Marco10

28 d
Nobody stepped on your tail. Go hide in your cave.
Screenwriter

28 d
@Paolaa988 Someone made the statement that it's only legal for people 18 and younger. I think this is supposed to cover dating teens. It doesn't apply to anyone 19 or older.
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Paolaa988

28 d
@Screenwriter yeah i know but whats wrong if she dates an 18 year old compared to a 15 year old? Given the fact 18 is legal mostly everywhere or in some states in the U. S is actually 16 or 17. I dont get all the reason for all the hate. Older men muchhh older prey on 18 year olds ALL the time and date them and she's only 25 not like she is 35 cmon... I just dont see the issue. Its not a good idea to get involved with this 15 year old boy but im saying if she likes younger guys she should date a 18 year old so she won't get in major trouble with her job or his parents saying something. I also like young guys but i won't go below 18 but if they can legally consent without parents and are above nobody should be talking or hating. Thats all im trying to say. Plus the definition of a pedophile is liking children before puberty and he is a teenager but he hit puberty already.
Screenwriter

28 d
@Paolaa988 I don't think this is so simple. If I were a teacher of teen-agers, I wouldn't be dating someone who could be or was at my school or ANY high school... It looks bad and it is a poor reflection on the older adult. The maturity gap is simply too big from 15 to 25. I know the teacher says he's mature. But let's see what I didn't do at 15. I didn't drive a car. I didn't pay any bills. I didn't have credit cards. I got a small allowance. I didn't know how to cook. I was a virgin. I didn't wash my own clothes. I didn't clean toilets. I didn't have my own medical insurance. I hadn't graduated from high school, much less college, so I didn't know much about the world. I didn't know how to live as an adult, period. Eventually, all these things will come to light. They leave a lot to be desired.
Besides music, what does this grown woman have in common with this child. Let's face it: 15 compared with 25 is a child to an adult.

Answer 50

Paolaa988

She doesn't have to. What you gonna do about it? Absolutely nothing since its legal

Answer 51

Marco10

Nobody stepped on your tail. Go hide in your cave.

Answer 52

Screenwriter

@Paolaa988 Someone made the statement that it's only legal for people 18 and younger. I think this is supposed to cover dating teens. It doesn't apply to anyone 19 or older.

Answer 53

Paolaa988

@Screenwriter yeah i know but whats wrong if she dates an 18 year old compared to a 15 year old? Given the fact 18 is legal mostly everywhere or in some states in the U. S is actually 16 or 17. I dont get all the reason for all the hate. Older men muchhh older prey on 18 year olds ALL the time and date them and she's only 25 not like she is 35 cmon... I just dont see the issue. Its not a good idea to get involved with this 15 year old boy but im saying if she likes younger guys she should date a 18 year old so she won't get in major trouble with her job or his parents saying something. I also like young guys but i won't go below 18 but if they can legally consent without parents and are above nobody should be talking or hating. Thats all im trying to say. Plus the definition of a pedophile is liking children before puberty and he is a teenager but he hit puberty already.

Answer 54

Screenwriter

@Paolaa988 I don't think this is so simple. If I were a teacher of teen-agers, I wouldn't be dating someone who could be or was at my school or ANY high school... It looks bad and it is a poor reflection on the older adult. The maturity gap is simply too big from 15 to 25. I know the teacher says he's mature. But let's see what I didn't do at 15. I didn't drive a car. I didn't pay any bills. I didn't have credit cards. I got a small allowance. I didn't know how to cook. I was a virgin. I didn't wash my own clothes. I didn't clean toilets. I didn't have my own medical insurance. I hadn't graduated from high school, much less college, so I didn't know much about the world. I didn't know how to live as an adult, period. Eventually, all these things will come to light. They leave a lot to be desired.
Besides music, what does this grown woman have in common with this child. Let's face it: 15 compared with 25 is a child to an adult.

Answer 55

SparklyRoses

Xper 3

You should get over it by staying away from him and meeting other people your age

Answer 56

loveslongnails | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Go home, masturbate, and find someone in your age "range" to play with.

loveslongnails

28 d
A chick voted this down? WTF is wrong with you?

Answer 57

loveslongnails

A chick voted this down? WTF is wrong with you?

Answer 58

Anonymous

Suck it up and act like and adult, If you were a bloke I'd be tempted to call you a certain name beginning with a capital P.

You are in a position of responsibility start acting like it, or give up the job and move.

JessieBellll

29 d
I called her the name already
Opinion Owner

29 d
@JessieBellll No doubt if I had called her it I'd have been called a misogynist and other colourful language by another of the women on the site.

Answer 59

JessieBellll

I called her the name already

Answer 60

Opinion Owner

@JessieBellll No doubt if I had called her it I'd have been called a misogynist and other colourful language by another of the women on the site.

Answer 61

AFellowWeeb | 163 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

keep in mind for japanese men, 25 is already a age u should be married, they prefer younger

Answer 62

Thatasianlove16 | 152 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

You should probably relocate or just never be a teacher again

Thatasianlove16

1 mo
Sorry I didn’t read the rest of it , because in the US that predator like but I don’t know and that Situation honestly I wouldn’t do anything

Answer 63

Thatasianlove16

Sorry I didn’t read the rest of it , because in the US that predator like but I don’t know and that Situation honestly I wouldn’t do anything

Answer 64

Dinosaursandanime65 | 502 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Ch CH CHC CH CH CH CH CHEW WE BOYA. You, felagi fighter are a degenerate. My friend wound be proud. I think. He hasn’t been catching up so some of his degenerate self is lost to the winds. You 25, they 10th grade? Doesn’t sound so bad

Answer 65

Anonymous

this is absolutely degenerate and disgusting and it’s why I hate most of the people on GaG.

Answer 66

Anonymous

Marry me, I am way better looking, smarter, more spiritual and pretty much everything you could wish for.

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RebeccaBecca95

Xper 3

Wait until he’s 18 or 20s.

Paolaa988

28 d
Right but people would probably still be hating even if he was 18 because their assholes.
JessieBellll

28 d
@Paolaa988 15 is not a child? They are under 18 of course they are children even if they can consent. Everyone knows 15 year olds are children and not developed enough to make their own decisions in regards to sex with someone much older than them.

Whether you like it or not, the adult woman here has much more experience and maturity to take advantage of the 15 year old. A 25 year old is too mentally developed for a 15 year.

Of course the 15 year old would and can enjoy it, but it's using and taking advantage of them from the adults side.

There is a huge difference between 15 and 18, get real.
Paolaa988

28 d
Before you put words into my mouth. I NEVER said 15 wasn't a child okay but what does consent really help or do if that person can't still decide for themselves? Why dont they just raise it then so everyone can stop getting the confusion? Dont you think if it was all that bad they would've raised it everywhere though by now? I also told her she shouldn't spark anything for the sake of her job, reputation, and getting in trouble. BUT she can date an 18 year old because by 18 you don't need parents permission and that person can do literally anything and is no longer a child but i just get the sense by how fake most people are especially here, that she would still get the hate but NOOO everyday or almost everyday i see older men or guys on here asking creepy ass questions or preying on young girls but people need to stop with this assumption she just wants sex or is taking advantage. She wanted advice for a crush OK a crush! We know it's commonly not a good idea but you can't always help who you fall for and she's not a bad person for it but this boy hit puberty and yes he's still young but she isn't a pedophile because a pedophile means attraction to children. This boy is still a child but a young teen who hit puberty already which he is still young but he's not a 8 or 9 year old. Given the fact, i was saying if she likes younger guys she should date an 18 year old if she pleases and there's nothing wrong with that. Consent is all about sex by the way lol so really anyone can date consenting as long as there's NO sex involved but if there's sex then she gets in trouble but that's why its best she goes for an 18 year old so nobody can say anything.
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JessieBellll

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@Paolaa988 you clearly said its OK as long as he is legal, and you said at 15 he is no longer a child.

"since he hit puberty he's not considered a child and given the fact he can legally consent there makes him old enough"

You never mentioned anything about being 18, so stop lying now.

You sound like those guys you talk about who ask questions about young girls. You are being hypocritical by hating on them and then croticizing us for hating here.
JessieBellll

28 d
*criticising us
Paolaa988

28 d
Just like you made all kinds of assumptions of what i thought... whatever im done with you goodbye. Yeah he can consent to DATE her literally as long as they don't have sex. I read websites with information SAYING that! But right away everyone assumes it's sex which i get that but not everyone is a bad person here or just wants to have sex in a relationship. Consent means he can date her but needs to consent for anything more with his parents and there problem solved but everyone is so quick to assume and it's sad you guys have no empathy when someone is facing a situation and they automatically get thrown under the bus. I can't... You just think what you think but you're being no help but judging her.
JessieBellll

28 d
@Paolaa988 why would a 25 year old date a 15 year old?

You are so creepy.

Again, you are judging guys who prey on girls but asking us not to judge here, so you are being a hypocrite.
RebeccaBecca95

28 d
@paolaa988 here they been teachers going jail for being with person underage.
RebeccaBecca95

28 d
Plus orange isn’t my color.

Answer 68

Paolaa988

Right but people would probably still be hating even if he was 18 because their assholes.

Answer 69

JessieBellll

@Paolaa988 15 is not a child? They are under 18 of course they are children even if they can consent. Everyone knows 15 year olds are children and not developed enough to make their own decisions in regards to sex with someone much older than them.

Whether you like it or not, the adult woman here has much more experience and maturity to take advantage of the 15 year old. A 25 year old is too mentally developed for a 15 year.

Of course the 15 year old would and can enjoy it, but it's using and taking advantage of them from the adults side.

There is a huge difference between 15 and 18, get real.

Answer 70

Paolaa988

Before you put words into my mouth. I NEVER said 15 wasn't a child okay but what does consent really help or do if that person can't still decide for themselves? Why dont they just raise it then so everyone can stop getting the confusion? Dont you think if it was all that bad they would've raised it everywhere though by now? I also told her she shouldn't spark anything for the sake of her job, reputation, and getting in trouble. BUT she can date an 18 year old because by 18 you don't need parents permission and that person can do literally anything and is no longer a child but i just get the sense by how fake most people are especially here, that she would still get the hate but NOOO everyday or almost everyday i see older men or guys on here asking creepy ass questions or preying on young girls but people need to stop with this assumption she just wants sex or is taking advantage. She wanted advice for a crush OK a crush! We know it's commonly not a good idea but you can't always help who you fall for and she's not a bad person for it but this boy hit puberty and yes he's still young but she isn't a pedophile because a pedophile means attraction to children. This boy is still a child but a young teen who hit puberty already which he is still young but he's not a 8 or 9 year old. Given the fact, i was saying if she likes younger guys she should date an 18 year old if she pleases and there's nothing wrong with that. Consent is all about sex by the way lol so really anyone can date consenting as long as there's NO sex involved but if there's sex then she gets in trouble but that's why its best she goes for an 18 year old so nobody can say anything.

Answer 71

JessieBellll

@Paolaa988 you clearly said its OK as long as he is legal, and you said at 15 he is no longer a child.

"since he hit puberty he's not considered a child and given the fact he can legally consent there makes him old enough"

You never mentioned anything about being 18, so stop lying now.

You sound like those guys you talk about who ask questions about young girls. You are being hypocritical by hating on them and then croticizing us for hating here.

Answer 72

JessieBellll

*criticising us

Answer 73

Paolaa988

Just like you made all kinds of assumptions of what i thought... whatever im done with you goodbye. Yeah he can consent to DATE her literally as long as they don't have sex. I read websites with information SAYING that! But right away everyone assumes it's sex which i get that but not everyone is a bad person here or just wants to have sex in a relationship. Consent means he can date her but needs to consent for anything more with his parents and there problem solved but everyone is so quick to assume and it's sad you guys have no empathy when someone is facing a situation and they automatically get thrown under the bus. I can't... You just think what you think but you're being no help but judging her.

Answer 74

JessieBellll

@Paolaa988 why would a 25 year old date a 15 year old?

You are so creepy.

Again, you are judging guys who prey on girls but asking us not to judge here, so you are being a hypocrite.

Answer 75

RebeccaBecca95

@paolaa988 here they been teachers going jail for being with person underage.

Answer 76

RebeccaBecca95

Plus orange isn’t my color.

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Inexpensivefurniture | 196 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

You better leave him alone

Inexpensivefurniture

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Who the fuck actually down voted this? If it was a 25 year old man saying he was attracted to a 10th grade girl, you'd all be so fast to tell him the same thing. It's no different when a woman does it to a boy. He's a minor

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Inexpensivefurniture

Who the fuck actually down voted this? If it was a 25 year old man saying he was attracted to a 10th grade girl, you'd all be so fast to tell him the same thing. It's no different when a woman does it to a boy. He's a minor

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InferiorElegy | 348 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Quit your job and stay away from children.

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maybe i should...
Paolaa988

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He isn't considered a child if the consent is legal there🙄
InferiorElegy

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@Paolaa988 yea the age of consent might be 13 there but there are other laws in place to ensure the safety of said child, one being where it's ultimately the parents decision, so this person would first have to convince the parents to let the person have sex with their child. Also it might be list as 13 for Japan as a whole but the fact of the matter is it's not exactly true, every prefecture has a variation of the age of consent wherein the age of consent is higher than 13.

The thing I'm getting at is you'd consider it ok if it was any age really as long as it was legal in that country. I on the other hand still consider it wrong and this person to be a pedophile because of what happened in my past, just because she's a female doesn't make it any less wrong. A child is a child.
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Paolaa988

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I just can't stand when you guys are so quick and easy to judge when you've did things yourself and act all innocent... and you should just stop because you probably would still judge her if this kid was 17 of 18 years old which is messed up because that's literally old enough by then too. I do think and agree 13 is too young yes but by 16 even in the U. S in some states they believe thats old enough for consent. If their so concerned, they should just raise it higher right? wouldn't they have did that by now?
InferiorElegy

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@Paolaa988 would I judge her if the kid was 18? No, I myself would not date an 18yr old myself being 33, but I would not judge an adult for dating another adult.

No one's perfect or innocent, but I myself have never done anything inappropriate to a female as I have been raped when I was 13 & 14 and yes my attackers were female and all 3 of them gained my trust at first being who they were supposed to be in my life it felt easy to trust them and I ended up being wrong. So yea I have issues with people wanting to have sex with kids. An yes I know how shitty it feels to go through that, an I would never want to put anyone else through that, so I don't try and hug anyone especially females, I don't raise my hand to handshake a females hand, I let them do it first or it won't happen. I don't touch females at all and I do not speak sexual or about things as such around any co-workers and if female co-workers are talking sexual and I'm around I leave, it's not my information to hear.

I'm not perfect in anyway, I have flaws, many flaws visually, mental disorders. I stole chips from a store when I was a kid and was very scared I'd get in trouble and then I did get in trouble and and I thought I was going to go to jail and I never stole again. Point is I'm not innocent but I try to be moral in everything I do in life because I don't want to go to prison, but I'm not a sexual predator either because I know what being a victim feels like.

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maybe i should...

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Paolaa988

He isn't considered a child if the consent is legal there🙄

Answer 82

InferiorElegy

@Paolaa988 yea the age of consent might be 13 there but there are other laws in place to ensure the safety of said child, one being where it's ultimately the parents decision, so this person would first have to convince the parents to let the person have sex with their child. Also it might be list as 13 for Japan as a whole but the fact of the matter is it's not exactly true, every prefecture has a variation of the age of consent wherein the age of consent is higher than 13.

The thing I'm getting at is you'd consider it ok if it was any age really as long as it was legal in that country. I on the other hand still consider it wrong and this person to be a pedophile because of what happened in my past, just because she's a female doesn't make it any less wrong. A child is a child.

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Paolaa988

I just can't stand when you guys are so quick and easy to judge when you've did things yourself and act all innocent... and you should just stop because you probably would still judge her if this kid was 17 of 18 years old which is messed up because that's literally old enough by then too. I do think and agree 13 is too young yes but by 16 even in the U. S in some states they believe thats old enough for consent. If their so concerned, they should just raise it higher right? wouldn't they have did that by now?

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InferiorElegy

@Paolaa988 would I judge her if the kid was 18? No, I myself would not date an 18yr old myself being 33, but I would not judge an adult for dating another adult.

No one's perfect or innocent, but I myself have never done anything inappropriate to a female as I have been raped when I was 13 & 14 and yes my attackers were female and all 3 of them gained my trust at first being who they were supposed to be in my life it felt easy to trust them and I ended up being wrong. So yea I have issues with people wanting to have sex with kids. An yes I know how shitty it feels to go through that, an I would never want to put anyone else through that, so I don't try and hug anyone especially females, I don't raise my hand to handshake a females hand, I let them do it first or it won't happen. I don't touch females at all and I do not speak sexual or about things as such around any co-workers and if female co-workers are talking sexual and I'm around I leave, it's not my information to hear.

I'm not perfect in anyway, I have flaws, many flaws visually, mental disorders. I stole chips from a store when I was a kid and was very scared I'd get in trouble and then I did get in trouble and and I thought I was going to go to jail and I never stole again. Point is I'm not innocent but I try to be moral in everything I do in life because I don't want to go to prison, but I'm not a sexual predator either because I know what being a victim feels like.

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Anonymous

You'll get over this crush.

Answer 86

Anonymous

dont do anything, at all.

I'm a 25-year-old crushing on a 10th grader at the school I work. What to do?

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