What was the biggest red flag you shouldn't have ignored?

[Cherokeehp]

He was still associated with his ex. Before me and my last boyfriend had started dating he told me that his ex before me had cheated on him. I wanted to be sympathetic, but at the same time I was very suspicious because she was still wearing his football hoodie with his name on it, and one of my friends told me she had caught them sneaking off to talk after a game. I didn’t want to come off crazy or like I had trust issues early on in the relationship. I ignored it. There were a ton of other red flags, but that one was probably the most obvious. I’m not sure if he ever cheated on me, but in the end it turned out that I never should’ve trusted him.

[SandandWaves]

I didn't ignore these, hated it.
silent treatments.
not really apologizing.
maybe there was more, not sure

[jennifer_bloom]

As a 19 year old I liked a guy who told me he looked at porn after I concluded I liked him

i learned around 7 years later that he was a very bad person and had tried to date him before that not knowing what kind of person he was

he tried to date me a few times after I returned to university at 27 but I was no longer interested in him - I wanted a guy with a better heart

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That if he lied about things on the job, that if he didn't respect anything else, I should've known he'd lie and disrespect me as well... So I kinda got what I got... 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Smoke-n-Growls]

My first ex took Gender Studies and wore a "this is what a feminist" looks like pin. He also had no fucking clue how to make a decision or manage his depression.

Never trust someome who took Gender Studies. Especially if they're male.

[Jjpayne]

For me, I didn't, but it was control. The girl I was with, wanted me when she wanted me, there was no sharing or requests. It was on her terms. Basically, "I had a really good time yesterday, could we do it again next week" then ghosting until two weeks later, "let's do again, next month"

I understand there is a place of safe control but waiting too long is not fair to the other person...

[BCA6010]

Extended periods of being out of contact and giving a weak or no reason as to why.

[Anonymous]

I heard she saying "I love him" to her mother when I was a sleep while having her on phone. In my morning I asked "whom do you love", she said she didn't say anything like that and she was just talking to her mother. She accepted she was having convo with her mother, yet denied telling she told her mother she loves a guy.

[TessCasie]

That he came from a dysfunctional family himself and I came from a good healthy family. It would never workout no matter how much I tried with him.

[Hangry22]

Manipulation. I know exactly when someone is trying to manipulate (cause i do it too) but i allowed myself to be manipulated because i liked him

[EssenceOfLight]

She behaved arrogant and self-centered. I was 16 at this time and I confused it with self-confidence. Unfortunately she was a spoiled princess and I didn't comply to be one of her servants.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Concerning a job it was the extremely low pay and lack of organization and undisciplined upper management.

[ItsTheNephilim]

I don't know.. China 🇨🇳?
xD relax people, it's just a joke.

[yucel_eden]

She was known to be flirting with someone just as she started going out with me.


Small red flag. Big in the long run.

[Mehzmeh]

There was so many red flags with my ex. That I should have ignored. But, I didn't. And now I am healing. But, will never be in a relationship again. Lol

[TacosRAwesome]

My ex thinking not wanting sex meant he respected me.

[Anonymous]

The fact that after less than 72 hours the woman was telling me "I love you". I know better than to ignore such an obvious sign of illness but in this case, I ignored it to my regret because I was lonely and sexually frustrated.

[krin_m]

When I noticed the tendency to be a self-centered drama queen in one of my ex-girlfriends. It was painful!

[Not-karen]

That small rash that started in my balls. Shouldn’t have that looked at much sooner.

[TallAnon]

Honestly, I've always been good at catching those early.

[Tstrbrainer]

The best red flag is not paying attention while talking or always being busy

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Lies. More to be hatched in the future like pregnant roaches.