Why is it so hard to tell someone that they don’t have a partner because they’re ugly?

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I’m mostly talking about guys with this one. There are plenty of videos and tips given to guys about how to be more charismatic, etc. However, no one talks about how their genetics plays a huge role in who they attract. If you know you’re ugly, and a girl is being nice to you, 9 times out of 10 she isn’t attracted to you and most people aren’t. There is nothing you can do about that. Why not discuss this fact?

Answer 1

OlderAndWiser | 6.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Go to the mall, have a seat in a main corridor, and watch all the couples that pass by.

Q. How many of those couples look like Hollywood stars?
A. Not too damned many.

By definition, most people look average (subjectively) and there are as many unattractive people as there are attractive people. Do you really think that the unattractive people sit at home alone every night, talking to their cats? I firmly believe that there is someone for everyone and sometimes unattractive guys get very attractive women.

Answer 2

Anonymous

I think it is discussed, but it's not useful that's the point. There's little productivity in "you're just ugly, stop trying". As much as the situation is completely unfair to them, that's not going to get them any sympathy -- at least not anything that's going to change a woman's feelings.

Acknowledge it's unfair all you want, she'll just shrug, because that's just reality.

Women also aren't going to change their behaviour either. They're not going to take initiative, as a general rule they're going to sit back and wait. So the only hope false confidence, learn to take initiative, hope for the best, resist against the worst, and maybe the numbers game will deal you a winner. Telling a guy there's no hope, do nothing, is going to only get that result and never anything else.

Answer 3

Anonymous

Because there's nothing to say so there's no discussion about it.

In past women HAD TO marry ugly guys because they were NOT ALLOWED TO WORK. But not anymore.

Asker

29 d
That’s what I previously thought as well. However, there doesn’t need to be a discussion. People could just simply state that and be on their way. I understand why YouTube channels wouldn’t say that, it would hurt their views and subscriptions.
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29 d
It’s easier to say “hey, she’s not into you because your genetics are trash” rather than “hey, she not into you because your personality doesn’t mesh”.
Opinion Owner

29 d
Why do you want other people to state that?

I don't know you personally but been so hungry for approval of others is not a good thing. For you, only your own opinions and experiences should matter. If you know it just move on now, don't wait for other people to state it and expect them to move on.
It's about you.
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I’m not talking about me. I’m talking about other dudes who complain about not getting girls and then people tell them to work on their personality or something. It’s not ALL about personality. In fact, most of it is about your genetic makeup.
Opinion Owner

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Of course you're talking yourself. And yes, if you're ugly, STAY AWAY FROM GIRLS.

FAR AWAY.

Answer 4

Asker

That’s what I previously thought as well. However, there doesn’t need to be a discussion. People could just simply state that and be on their way. I understand why YouTube channels wouldn’t say that, it would hurt their views and subscriptions.

Answer 5

Asker

It’s easier to say “hey, she’s not into you because your genetics are trash” rather than “hey, she not into you because your personality doesn’t mesh”.

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

Why do you want other people to state that?

I don't know you personally but been so hungry for approval of others is not a good thing. For you, only your own opinions and experiences should matter. If you know it just move on now, don't wait for other people to state it and expect them to move on.
It's about you.

Answer 7

Asker

I’m not talking about me. I’m talking about other dudes who complain about not getting girls and then people tell them to work on their personality or something. It’s not ALL about personality. In fact, most of it is about your genetic makeup.

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

Of course you're talking yourself. And yes, if you're ugly, STAY AWAY FROM GIRLS.

FAR AWAY.

Answer 9

msc545 | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

This gets discussed a lot. There is nothing that will make a man 6ft tall if he isn't already 6 ft tall which is a very big deal with women. There is very little that will make him extremely wealthy except a lifetime of hard work or inheriting money. There is almost nothing that will make a man is as attractive as a male model except expensive plastic surgery which most men can't afford. In short, if a man is ugly he will probably have to do without a woman.

Answer 10

Browneye57 | 5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Bullshit. If'n ya got some dough, and a nice physique, with some decent game you can get all the pussy you can stand. Just take a seat at the mall sometime and watch the folks strolling by.

Answer 11

Avicenna | 8.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Dont tell them that. They can still get a partner if they have other things to offer.

Answer 12

Twalli | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Because guys are never told they're ugly while growing up

Answer 13

YaBoiJacob

Xper 2

Because it's rude and blunt. It would make you feel horrible among other things.

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WesBrewer | 698 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

because it is an unspoken one.

Answer 15

Jmmmfi4 | 915 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I accepted that when i was 14

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