Why does a female friend continue to chase a guy she likes & the guy likes her too but it’s clear he does not want to date anyone?

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She has low self esteem

She doesn’t have many options

She thinks she can change his mind about dating

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Answer 1

Cynicaldreamer | 3.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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So he likes her, but refuses to date anyone?

Simple: she really likes him and figures if she shows him how wonderful she is, or how happy he would be with her, he will change his mind.

Little does the poor girl know, she's wasting her time. I was in a situation just like that. Sure enough even he supposedly liked me, he refused to date me, and nothing I did or said changed his mind!!!

She's going to learn the hard way, unless the guy bluntly tells her to move on and stop chasing him.

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Guys are afraid of commitment.
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Did you ask him out?
Cynicaldreamer

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I did: he gave me the, "I like you, but I think we should be friends and see what happens" speech :|

Even though he claimed he liked me before, which I found very hurtful. So like said girl in your story, I stuck it out, hoping if I "chased" after him and showed him what a nice person I was or potential girlfriend I could be, he'd change his mind-

Nope. So I got sick of it and moved on.
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Did you have sex with him before you asked him out just out of curiosity?
Cynicaldreamer

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Nope, never slept with the guy

Answer 2

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Guys are afraid of commitment.

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Did you ask him out?

Answer 4

Cynicaldreamer

I did: he gave me the, "I like you, but I think we should be friends and see what happens" speech :|

Even though he claimed he liked me before, which I found very hurtful. So like said girl in your story, I stuck it out, hoping if I "chased" after him and showed him what a nice person I was or potential girlfriend I could be, he'd change his mind-

Nope. So I got sick of it and moved on.

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Did you have sex with him before you asked him out just out of curiosity?

Answer 6

Cynicaldreamer

Nope, never slept with the guy

Answer 7

Avicenna | 11K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I'd imagine she think she can change his mind

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