Fuck this. What should I do?

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Took my shot at telling this guy, who I've had a "no strings attached relationship" that I loved him and how I felt about him. All I got back was this.

"Cheer up this will pass their is still plenty of time for you to find someone that will feel the same way about you as you do them. I will always be cheering you on as a friend you won't lose that no matter how far I am from you."

He plans on moving away for another job and that was all he said after I told him I loved him. Wow..

What should I do?

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26 d

Keep in mind that he was the one who introduced me to his family and had me stay the night a few times. I was close with the family and friend's. He treated me as if I was his girlfriend, not just a fuck buddy or a play thing. Calling me cute names and holding my hand and kissing me at every opportunity he had when we went out with his friend's or family.

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Ozanne | 446 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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26 d

Well, at least he was nice about it - but it is unfortunately a dead end. You both were in something that was determined to be no-strings, and it just sounds like he held up his end of the bargain. Still hurts though, I know.

"Fuck this", exactly. You tried and it didn't work, so take more of your time and efforts away from something that isn't happening and allow yourself to be available to someone who will value what you have to offer, and love the fact that you are brave enough to tell him how you feel. :) Good luck!

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Samoht_Sirrom1 | 81 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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25 d

Well long story short if you knew it was a "No Strings" relationship you should have at least mentally kept your distance. If you care about this person who doesn't feel the same you have four options two of which I advise you. to consider while the third and forth I only mention as a means of being though and by no means advise or condone.

1) Accept his friendship, build on it and maybe one day he'll feel the same (probably not through)

2) Deny his "friendship" and tell him in no uncertain terms to fuck off

3) Kidnap and torture him until his will is broken and he'll do anything to please you even if you asked him to cut his own dick and balls off (which shouldn't be done because then you wouldn't be able to have Colin with him afterwards)

4) Straight up kill the mother fucker for hurting you.

Again numbers 3) and 4) are just for the sake of being through.

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Gagname | 88 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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26 d

I wouldn’t do anything. It sucks that he didn’t say anything about how nice it was for you to pour your heart out to him. But, they don’t call it “No Strings Attached” fir nothing.

You shouldn’t sleep with him again, and if he texts you and says when he’s leaving, DON’T meet up with him again but wish him well in his new place & job.

And then cut off all contact with him. And realize there’s someone else out there, and question whether you want to get into another NSA (or friends with benefits) relationship again.

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- Gagname
  
  26 d
  I saw your update. Him treating you as if [you were] his girlfriend and meeting his family makes you & him more like friends with benefits and not NSA.
  
  However, everything I said and recommended still holds, It’s cleat he doesn’t recognize you now as someone that he wants to say anything dear to, because he certainly would have after you expressed what you did.
  
  I’m sorry he didn’t say anything back to you. But there’s someone else out there for you..
- Gagname
  
  23 d
  Thanks for the MHO.

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Screenwriter | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

26 d

What do you NOT understand about what that man TOLD YOU. He is not INTERESTED in having a relationship other than a friendly sexual one with you.

He has SPECIFICALLY told you that someone will come along who'll meet your needs and it IS NOT HIM.

HE IS MOVING AWAY. Please, girl, move on. He's been straight up front from the beginning.

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- Itsmekat
  
  26 d
  Moving away was something he never mentioned till now. What he specifically told me was that he plans on quitting and finding another job out of the resturant industry as well as getting a new house and possibly settling down. I also wasn't the only one he planned on sleeping with, he wanted the freedom to sleep with anyone he wanted, whenever he wanted. I also had thw same freedom but never did.
- Screenwriter
  
  26 d
  And I repeat. He was completely CLEAR. He has new goals and you are not a part of his plan. He said he wants to settle down and NOT WITH YOU!
  It's clear from his "freedom" he's decided you are not someone he wants to do anything further with.
  And to put a fine point on it, he's leaving town. Putting further space between you permanently.
  He is being plainer than daylight. Let him go and find someone who wants you.

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Tstrbrainer | 307 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Explorer

26 d

Well, the terms were all set.
He might have given more consideration to you, like kissing you or holding your hands because he might be a more romantic nature. He probably sees you as a friend.

In no strings attached relationships, don't give all your focus to that partner because you might get attached.

Right now, all you can do is ignore and move on.

There are plenty of other guys

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smash4isBetter
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26 d

Simple, move on, I've been in a similar situation couple of years ago, so my advice is to say goodbye and find another. Trust me, more fish in the sea.

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AlexanderAnttila | 178 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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25 d

You can hardly be surprised when you literally just said you had a no strings attached relationship, which I don't support by the way. because in actuality it's impossible to have. Sex and emotion is integral to each other. It's never just physical no matter how much people may pretend it is sometimes.
He's not interested, so move on and this time start a relationship intent on love.

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Anonymous

26 d

Wow, I send my regards, that’s rough. In all honesty, it’s more than clear he does not feel the same way, so I would suggest moving on. I know, easier said than done, as you love him; but it’s really the only option you have. You deserve someone who will reciprocate those romantic feelings!

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  26 d
  And if you feel it will effect you too much, maybe even consider ending the friendship; may help you move on. Of course you do not have ghost him or anything of the sort, just slowly distance yourself.
Wise4myage | 999 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Guru

25 d

Hey, it took courage to do what you did and even though it sucks, at least you know how he feels. Its time to move on and cut him out of your life for good.

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KrakenAttackin | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

24 d

What would you prefer that he say? Should he lie to you and say he loves you too? First, it's hard to love a girl who is willing to be a friends with benefits as she is willingly diminishing her own value.

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Paul09 | 391 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Explorer

26 d

Friends with benefits, leave it at that. You can't really make a proper connection based on that type of relationship. You want someone to be serious with. Then don't fuck them till you know them way more. Sex is just a temporary feel good spell lol.

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Guffrus | 719 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Guru

25 d

You should shit can him if for no other reason than he doesn't return your feelings.

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morganlove | 127 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Xper 5

24 d

Sorry it happened. Unfortunately, even with him treating you like a girlfriend, claiming your feelings to a friends with benefits is a gamble. It might change when he thinks about it. Good luck.

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Cataphract | 85 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Xper 5

24 d

And that, kids, is the consequence of your hookup culture that you thought was so cool.
You're a hookup. You knew it, he knew it. Showing you off to his family might be just to get them off his back. He was more than clear in the message.

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TessCasie | 103 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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26 d

oh well! you need to move on! he has decided you aren't for him , I know it hurts

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- TessCasie
  
  26 d
  your update makes no sense. Why would he do all the above and yet give you this reply "Cheer up this will pass their is still plenty of time for you to find someone that will feel the same way about you as you do them. I will always be cheering you on as a friend you won't lose that no matter how far I am from you."
  
  could you please tell us when did this happen? was it after you met his family and spent time with them?
- Itsmekat
  
  26 d
  This all happened yesterday and our little "relationship." Has been going on a year. He wants the freedom to sleep with whoever he wanted, whenever he wanted. As long as there was no emotional connection. He also gave me the same choice but would get jealous if I ever tried to move on. He seemed to always know when something was wrong when I would try to move on with another guy and would pick me up if I felt uncomfortable. And even when expressing myself too him he'd think I was starting an argument.
- TessCasie
  
  26 d
  can I be really honest with you? Please get this through your head. This guy has just kept you UNTIL he meets the girl he wishes to be in a long term relationship with. YOU are not the one. Just save yourself a heartache and kick his ass. Don't fall for it. That's all I can say.
AFellowWeeb | 172 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Xper 5

25 d

then women with this baggage that only go for guys that want to use them as fk toys only, want a charming prince to marry them when they get older, no wonder the divorce rates are all time high

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Anonymous

26 d

So you misread a few cues and feel like he led you on. It happens to guys to. I don't see why you're upset he told you he still supports you. Still considers you a friend.

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AnthonyJ01
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25 d

His problem, not yours. We cannot decide who we fall I love with. It is best to find out now instead of down the road.

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joeldalton | 138 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

24 d

If he’s moving away it wouldn’t worry anyway. So just take your L and move on.

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Wewladdy | 192 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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26 d

So you're a whore for a man with no morality and even he turned you down. Nice.

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Dinosaursandanime65 | 502 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Explorer

24 d

It could have been worse John... a lot worse. Anyone want a soda or something?

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iFarted | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Guru

26 d

Move on? He's was your friends with benefits not your romantic partner.

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Anonymous

26 d

Oh he really funny, funny. Suck it up and move on. Don’t contact him for a week. Not even to wish him good holiday and watch how he switch up!

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Anonymous

26 d

Obviously he doesn’t feel the same so you’ll need to find a guy that does

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- Opinion Owner
  
  26 d
  It sucks he let you get that close to him and his family only to not be in a relationship
Anonymous

25 d

When will women learn that no strings attached means no strings attached and we will NOT magically fall in love with you because of pussy.
When you fall for us because of the oxytocin you get during sex... we will NOT.

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I-have-a-biscuit | 200 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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26 d

Yikes

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zagor | 6.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Master

25 d

Take his advice.

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