What do you do when you get rejected?

[MrOracle]

I say, "okay, thanks anyway." And then I forget about her and move on. Because you can't change how other people feel or what they want, and it's better that they were honest up-front than string you along (or let you string yourself along by accepting the Friend Zone). Ultimately, they're doing you a favor, so you can look elsewhere and not waste any further time or energy into them.

But that's another issue: a lot of men (and this included me when I was younger!) have a bad habit of meeting a girl, deciding you really like her, and then watching her from afar for months or years before asking her out. Whether you realize it or not, during all that time, you are building them up in your mind and investing a lot into them, even if they don't even know your name. And then when you finally work up the courage to ask them out, the rejection seems devastating. If, instead, you'd asked her out the first week, either she'd have said "yes", or she'd have said "no", and either way, you'd be better off, because a quick rejection hurts much less, and you wouldn't have wasted all of those months on her. When you do this, you are doing it to yourself, and it's not her fault that the rejection hurts so much - it's YOURS.

Rejection is a normal part of the dating process. It's to be expected. To use a sports metaphor, it's like the other team scoring points in a game: it's not what you want to happen, but it doesn't guarantee ultimate defeat either - you can still win if you keep playing the game and you learn to play it better - but you will need to move on to another girl.

And, occasionally, taking rejection well may work in your favor. I asked a girl out once and got rejected, but I accepted the rejection gracefully, and she told her friends about it. Later, I met one of those friends, who accepted my date request BECAUSE I'd been so cool about it with her friend. So, you never know when karma will throw you a win.

[OlderAndWiser]

After you get experienced at being rejected, you will accept the fact that rejection does not mean that there is something wrong with you. It simply means that the woman you pursued thought that you would not be a good match for her. If she was correct, then she has done you a favor. If she is incorrect, she is an idiot and it is her loss to suffer.

When rejected, I immediately start looking for someone else to pursue.

[Sakura-san]

It’s better to move on from that person and you should always think that you deserve someone better. Being rejected doesn’t mean you’re bad but it means that person isn’t mean for you. Be confident and you will find someone better soon

[Bratsondanielle]

My boyfriend won't dare reject me. If I say so he performs. Or no dinner

[Anonymous]

Do want to ruin your question, but I've never been rejected. I've only rejected. I've only found three women I've actually desired, but I rejected them because of beliefs. There have been more that came onto to me, but I didn't feel anything towards them so didn't reciprocate. I have a slight desire to be rejected so I can feel that and quell any arrogance. I have imperfections I have a crooked nose, bad skin, and gray tooth. This hasn't phased 30+ women, but I still haven't accepted any offers. However, I consider rejection like making a plan. Not everything goes according to plan, so you make a new plan. Hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

It sucks. It always sucks but I had to think it through on my head. We aren't all attracted to the same people. We all like different things. That is true for both males and females. I had to pump myself up by remembering how many relationships I haver been in and that I was brave enough to go up to women, even if it meant getting rejected. A lot of women won't do that. They dont want to be rejected either. A lot of guys dont want to do that either but they are more often that only ones who will take that chance.

Keep something else in mind. 18 year old girls are at their peak or close to it. You won't reach your peak until 30 - 35. Most girls will start to gain weight and lose their looks while you get more manly looking and mature in your career (at work). At some point they will want you and you might not even want them anymore because your options have improved and their just keep going down

[The_Sal]

I see rejection as a good thing.
It helps me work on my approaches
what I said what I did how I said it etc
I never let it get to me. there are 4.5 billion women out there, that was just one. there will always be someone out there looking for someone just like you. 👍

[WarningerrorDetected]

You just move on. There should not be issue with self esteem. 1 person may not want you, but a thousand others do. You dust your shoulders off and keep it moving.

[Alpha09]

Lol um move on to other options. Who's losing thier self esteem out here over not being liked by everyone?

[1stranger]

There are points in life where everyone is right. People may have different points of view. If I love someone doesn't mean it loves me too. I've experienced this a few times.

[I-have-a-biscuit]

I don't have to recover my self esteem because it's not dropping 🤣
After a rejection I just go about my life as usual.
It's just a rejection bro, you're gonna have way more than one of them

[PBandJ_Nerd]

You just move on and respect that they don't want to be with you.

[Lliam]

Move on. No big deal. She's just one out a million.

[OddBeMe]

Just know it’s probably less to do with you than her subconscious. We all have attractions and sometimes perfectly fine people get tossed to the side. Shrug it off and move on.

[coolhandroo]

It sucks. Maybe a rebound lay to get your confidence back on track

[strraku]

depends on who rejected

[Jmmmfi4]

I never really get over it