What does it mean when a guy says he likes you but wants to take things slow?

[OmNomaly]

It means he wants to do it right.

If you want a long term relationship and to make it well known. This is the way to go.
You build up a friendship first and get to know each other. Build a foundation and then work towards a relationship. As far as i'm concerned anyone that wants to RUSH into a relationship is a red flag. Especially if you barely know the person. He may also have some trust issues and this is a great way for both of you to build trust with each other. A way for you two do sit down and discuss things without running headlong into sex and then breaking up shortly after.
I myself if I were to meet someone would stay friends with them for a few years first. Try to hang out around in person and see how they handle different situations.
Living with someone will show you sides of that person that you had no idea to prior.
I would also not have sex with anyone I was in a relationship with until the 6 month mark. If you've made it that far and things are SOLID. Not arguing much and you find you click together well. Then I would proceed.

I feel like once you go into the relationship stage of things (Past being friends) or sex.
Then if things don't work out. You can hurt someone a HELL of a lot more than you would if you had just found out you weren't meant to be together through your friendship stage.

It's also very difficult for some people to stay friends with their exes. For obvious reasons.
But if you were to break things off and it went well. Instead of pushing things to the breaking point. Then you may both be able to continue to be friends afterwards.

[MDollarBill]

He has reason not to trust women, (or just you), and he's making sure before he takes a risk. Women can be brutal, too.

[VIVANT]

I don’t understand. You guys are getting to know each other? What kind of expectations does he think is normal/ abnormal at this point?

in my opinion this is frustrating and he should just say what he wants instead of using platitudes. I don’t think he’s necessarily trying to play hands he’s just unrealistic or dense to see he thinks he’s communicating but he’s actually internalizing everything then projecting it outward, with no actual info, bc it’s all in his head it’s not between the two of you, leaving you to guess... technically everyone expects sonethjng. The things he expects he will take for gravies bc they come from him.

id just think of what you want and tell him and see if he’s on board.

i really dk what is in his head. I e get to know each other but not exclusively. Date not have sex with others. Be friends and date other people. Be friends with potential and See each other no more than once a month. Only think of each other if you randomly run into one another?

i mean I e no idea what he thinks an expectation is in this case... honestly people are tiresome when they make an issue but refuse to be clear lol Wish you had asked him.

how did the convo come up? that might help 🙂

[Sofia123sofia]

Well, to be honest, if he stills hurt from his last relationship how can he likes you? I mean to be sticked in your old relationship that means you cannot get off your ex from your head but at the same time he likes you. Does he use you to forget his ex? What are your feelings about that?
To take things slow so normal. Just make sure that he is really into you, you can notice that by his caring/ calling/ messages etc... Good Luck