To date or not to date?

Question

Is it odd if a guy, who was a stranger prior, asks for you guys to be exclusive after a second date? I have dated guys in the past exclusively, but I knew more about their background, being that we started out as friends or acquaintances.

Answer 1

MecheD | 199 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Well usually a man who asks for an exclusive relationship. He is a majority of the time insecure about his dating past and wants to shake things up with a hope the outcome is different.

zeewee392

18 d
So this is a negative thing right?
MecheD

18 d
It can be but than again I’d ask more about his past to find out. So more so I’d say proceed with caution ⚠️
zeewee392

18 d
Yeah I will, I decided to not be exclusive with him since I did not know his past and he was not giving me much detail on the significant parts of his past.
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MecheD

18 d
That’s a great decision but if anything I don’t think you should stop talking to him simply because of that he may be a great guy as well. With that being said this will give him some confidence if that was the case. Good luck

Answer 2

zeewee392

So this is a negative thing right?

Answer 3

MecheD

It can be but than again I’d ask more about his past to find out. So more so I’d say proceed with caution ⚠️

Answer 4

zeewee392

Yeah I will, I decided to not be exclusive with him since I did not know his past and he was not giving me much detail on the significant parts of his past.

Answer 5

MecheD

That’s a great decision but if anything I don’t think you should stop talking to him simply because of that he may be a great guy as well. With that being said this will give him some confidence if that was the case. Good luck

Answer 6

Tyrael | 172 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

If nothing else it should tell you that he must be genuinely interested in you.

zeewee392

18 d
I guess

Answer 7

zeewee392

I guess

Answer 8

Wise4myage | 995 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

That's way to soon in my opinion and likely a red flag.

zeewee392

17 d
I agree

Answer 9

zeewee392

I agree

Answer 10

heres-my-op

Xper 1

If you see potential in him to be your partner, then you can agree. else just respectfully disagree and tell you need to spend more time with him to get to know him before proceeding to the level.

zeewee392

17 d
Yeah. I am respectfully declining

Answer 11

zeewee392

Yeah. I am respectfully declining

Answer 12

Miristheiss | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

2 dates is early for that to be coming up.

zeewee392

17 d
Yeah I agree

Answer 13

zeewee392

Yeah I agree

Answer 14

slatyb | 5.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Yeah that's weird. He sounds desperate.

zeewee392

17 d
Yeah I think so. That’s what scared me

Answer 15

zeewee392

Yeah I think so. That’s what scared me

Answer 16

Avicenna | 8.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It just means he’s decisive

zeewee392

18 d
I feel like it does mean this but after only two dates? Isn’t that kind of quick?
Avicenna

18 d
It can be. How did the dates go? How much did you communicate with each other outside the dates?
zeewee392

18 d
The dates were good and we communicated everyday. The only thing is that he was vague on his past.
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Avicenna

18 d
Then you shouldn’t agree to go exclusive until you’re comfortable with his past
zeewee392

18 d
Yeah you’re right