Should the man court (wine & dine) a woman during the early dating stage?

[btbc92]

A man should be courting women period who he wants to have a future with. A woman should equally court by getting to know him and respect his leadership skills. Be honest about what she wants and feels so she wouldn't be wasting his time. I feel that men don't have logical reasons to be with women except for sex, so they get upset about approaching and paying for women so they want 'equality' but hates 'golddiggers'. I would never go 'dutch' with a man who I don't know, and whom I don't already want to share. If I pay I pay to have fun and spent time with the guy I am friends with, love and enjoy company with as I do with all of my friends and family. A complete stranger I wouldn't do. If he asked me out, he needs to prove himself, and he needs to make sure that he WANTS to court me for the right reasons. I don't care about being wined and dined. If I date a man it's because I already have compatibility with him and we share a friendship and a desire to serve God together. Not out of vanity or lust and selfishness. What is the point to say yes to date with a guy who will not pay? He's selfish. If he is scared that I will use him, he needs to say that, and at least work with me if he doesn't want to be that traditional man. No man shouldn't expect me to be a traditional woman if he doesn't want o play the part. I don't want a man wasting my time hurting me, and neither do I wished to be accused of using him. You ask, be a man like George Bailey and do so when he was seeing Mary. Don't look for Violet and then complain how much of a B****, hoe, or golddigger she is, but want a Mary in a woman but can't appreciate a Mary. Yet you want what the Baileys got.

When I see men who are like Sam Wainwright and sadly so many men are like him, I reject them. Yes, men, so many of you ARE Sam Wainright and refuse to see that! I'm not aggressive like Mary who is so fixed on the man she wants, yet she KNOWS who she wanted to be with. She has and had a friendship with George BEFORE they courted and been with each other. She settled for Sam because she obeyed her family and the expectations of others, but her heart was for George. And George sees that, and they got together, married, and had three children. George wanted to provide, he stands up for the people he loves. I have seen but FEW men like that. So many like Sam, yet expect a Mary. But unlike Mary Bailey, I would never settle for Sam if I'm not wanted by a George like how George saw Mary. He could have easily got Violet and he wanted Violet like any other man, but his heart wouldn't let him because Mary didn't treat him like a piece of meat like Violet did.

[Avicenna]

Since no two people are exactly alike, it should be whatever the two are comfortable with. I've had some women want to go Dutch and others who were shocked that I paid for both of us. It just depends. I usually advise people to discuss it in advance of the date to avoid awkwardness.

[JackofSpades]

Personally I think that whoever is doing the inviting should pay, man or woman.

As time goes on I think that going duch should be the goal though.

(We can go out more often if we both chip in.)

[padreflint]

You should be courting each other. I have no problem paying most of the time but I'm not some sugar daddy. If I find no effort coming from the other side I'm out.

[Anonymous]

I think that's a bit antiquated. The cultural landscape has changed and we should make an effort to keep up.

[zagor]

I don't think courting is synonymous with wine-and-dine.

[Luckycharms12]

Depends if its date or not

[Anonymous]

Pay for your own shit. I am not the govt handout.