What do you say to a guy that texted you for a booty call and you DON'T want to be a booty call?

[zeitgeist057]

I'd just let him know you aren't awake at those hours or that you settle in and don't use your phone after (_____) .

I'm a nox shift worker, so I'm often up between 11pm and 7 am. It would be fun to have someone to text, but I know most people are asleep so nbd if someone lets me know they are a normal person who sleeps those hours.

My assumption is the guy is shy and only gets the courage to text you after drinking. That might be a flag in itself, but also maybe you can communicate and work it out.

[Ozanne]

One of two things:

1. You tell him, and things either improve or he decides he's not looking for anything other than a booty call. You risk losing him, but then again, was he worth losing if that's all he's about? That, or he respects that you want more, and realizes he was moving too fast and that he does want to get to know more of you.

2. You don't tell him, and you either succumb to his wants and needs, leaving you feeling empty and hurt most times, as this usually leads to the dreaded Friends With Benefits situation, or else he just keeps you a secret altogether - OR you ignore, therefore removing any further contact both verbal and physical.

I would say Option 1 is best as you may just luck out and have him see what he's doing to you is not what you want allowing him to come around. Or, you see him for what he is very early before you get really snowed by him.

[lilyanony1]

Nothing. If you like Ice cream and he likes nuts but you have an allergic reaction to nuts and he keeps giving them to you despite you telling him you can't have them as you could die.
Would you keep taking the nuts? In fact would you even keep seeing this person or write them off as a threat to your health/life?

It's not as serious as life and death but the bottom line is you want a and he wants b. They don't match.
You could play the long game of waiting or trying to convince him to like a or joinh him in liking b.
But will this bring you happiness?

I hate saying this but you only live once.
Why try and force someone to your way of life and thinking in regards to the heart when finding a genuine fit is actually so effortless when it actually happens.

The decisions ultimately yours but Yea this seems like a headache and a waste of time tbh.

[nothathrowawayy]

I'm much younger compared to a majority of the people here, and I don't got much exp. but I'll try to help. Be upfront with him. Don't play games. State your intentions, and what you want out of the relationship. If he only wants you for sex, he'll just walk away/ghost you, cuz he's a horny bastard.

If he understands, then good on you, you're seeing a patient person who cares about you, and what you're ready to do, and is in it to make a lasting relationship long-term. If that's the case, he's just hinting what he wants but will respect that you're not ready for sex just yet.

[BigHomieNasty]

Tell him “I only play for keeps”.


This will signal that you are interested in him, but only with the intent of commitment.


Afterwards you should have a direct conversation with him about how that makes you feel. You can’t blame him until you attempt to correct him on this one. He may think you want it too.



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[btbc92]

What do you mean what do you say? This is just common sense. If you're no man's bedwench then you'll get rid of the guy! You going to like somebody that doesn't respect you? Then you must not respect yourself. If you have low self-esteem that's why you get men who is attracted to controlling and using and abusing you is anybody got a chance. You don't settle for any of that stuff. And you can't just like somebody like that anyway. Anybody that disrespects me is out of my life. I don't just invite anybody in my life like that for good reason. And if God warns me about a person, I do not paper add myself to be foolish to overstep.

[midnightmoon05]

This is a good opportunity to know if he wants you as girlfriend or. It... and learn to communicate your wants.

”I had so much fun out with you. Love to do that again. I really like you and want to get to know you. Take things a bit slow before getting sex involve... till we are in a committed relationship otherwise it will get way too messy... sweet dreams. Phone off”
good luck

[jshm2]

Kiddo, it's clear he's just playing around with you or just hasn't got a clue

Not being "sure" at the first date is inexperienced, at second date, is just wasting your time.

Both of you need to buck up your ideas and learn how to play the game properly.

[lordskull69]

tell him you like him in a more serious way and you'd rather not be seen a an easy midnight booty call to him. Rather you want him to like you but also respect you as a perron and also maybe that you'd love to get more intimate with him and you even considered taking him up on the midnight call but you're not like that,,,,

[Am_and_Pm]

A lot of females (just about every single one), said to ghost the guy. Now, I'm having second thoughts on treating u lady's with respect. However. The guy did come off as 'rude'. And did not make his intentions clear to begin with. So, lady's, gentlemen, Andy... ghost him.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You say goodbye to someone you say you told him you don't want to be a booty call and he still tries anyway... That shows double disrespect, that he just sees you as a booty call being the 1st, and that he can't respect your feelings about it being the second, so why stick around for even more disrespect?

[scorpy04]

You tell him straight Laws were made to protect you like SEXUAL ASSAULT OR RAPE You must never ever be pressued into doing something you feel uncomfortable with Even if its just you don't want to If you mean something at all to him He should respect your wishes If he doesn't then his just a nude collector He may even sell them and you end up on a porn or escourt site

[Leah501]

I can’t help you on this one. Lately any guys I’ve been interested in aren’t looking for relationships and just want to sleep around.

[robertKugler]

As opposed to showing up at your place and demanding u fuck him again.. maybe penciling him in at a later date when making critical decisions like this are more likely lean in his favour you needing a moment to get over your self logic dictates voting in favour of a reign check no harm no foul play ball

[keenmind2007]

Tell him straight up that you're not looking to be a booty call. You want something serious and that's not rocking your boat. If he has problems with your stance, then find someone else who can deliver what you want.

[MecheD]

Well if anything I’d say you can tell him you’re not interested in that sort of relationship he is offering and depending on his answer choose whether or not you would like to move on or not. The other way I’d say just only text him throughout the day until he’s earned the right to speak with yiu during those hours.

[MzAsh]

I would be tempted to ghost his ass and move on. But you could also give him another chance and set him straight. Text him tomorrow and say “Just got your text. I don’t take calls or texts after 9 pm (or whatever time you go to bed). Let me know when you’re free during the day for an actual date.” A more blunt approach would be simply “You must have mistaken me for that kind of girl but I don’t do booty calls.”

[Screenwriter]

Stop texting me at midnight. I'm not interested in being a booty call! Straight up. Might be better if you don't hear from him again. Looks like that might be all he wanted.

[Elsa143]

Ghost him. I wish it was simple to tell guys like him fuck off but it will lead to fights and grudges.
A strong woman will stay alone rather than letting a guy use her as a sex toy or an orgi stimulator. Kick him out.
Horny guys need to leave good women alone and if they're so proud of their masculinity then why don't they work hard enough to hire prostitutes? Biggest Simps they're.

[SaraSmithishere]

Just ignore it for now. Ask to meet up again during the day. Pick a date that he normally spends with friends or relaxing, like a Saturday. If he doesn’t want to give up one of his “prime” days to spend with you, stop taking and move on.

[Bee-Hatch]

If you know the family, screen shot it and forward to his mother. It'll solve your problem and teach him a bit about respect.

[Annieee18]

Tell him the truth that you're not up for that yet. And if he left, it's his loss. But if he respected you and patiently waited, then congratulations on finding someone like him. :)

[Flower7]

If you feel that he only sees you as a booty call, it would be best to just not respond to him anymore.

[kitty71]

Tell him no of course but with the chance he won't contact you anymore if that is only what he wants from you. But you say you two liked each other. But then maybe what he likes from you is only to get laid? Do you know if that is the only reason he likes you or not?

[JPrez]

Tell him that you can’t hang out right now because of Aunt Flo and suggest hanging out during the day.

[TwoToTooTutu2]

I'm not a woman, but I do get these from time to time from other women. I just act oblivious, or pretend I didn't see what was sent to me. Personally I think men prefer a more direct declination. So maybe just tell them you don't want to.

[boggboss]

U could tell him but how u have framed the question I imagen u want him to want more in which case ur kinda fucked already

[slatyb]

That's exceptionally rude. Tell him not to contact you at that time. Or just block him.

[Sarahr123]

Depends what he says. Maybe he is only free at that time. If he talks clean then it’s fine but if he talks dirty then you block him.

[Paris13]

Be that Chase and Challenge and Change that To: A Date or a Mate. No booty. xx

[hahahmm]

Just ignore OR say, "nope". You have two choices, be easy or be the one he thinks is worth serious.

[Mamaganja]

Say I don’t want to be a north call and stay celibate like meeeeeee :)

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy and how he asks. If he's sweet and not pushy I let him down gently, if he's arrogant or won't quit then I just won't respond or I'll block him. But I don't give my number to many guys so most of the time if the ones that do know it want to get it on, I'm gonna get it on.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm did you guys already sleep together? If so, there's no reason for him to work for it anymore or he's just a scumbag.

I would tell him that you want someone that doesn't text you at midnight because that's booty call hour. That's his first verbal warning, if he does it again tell him that you already talked about it and he will risk losing you if he does it again. You have to follow through or he will not respect you.

[vintagegirl90]

It’s up to you, you don’t really owe him a reply or you can always say directly I’m not really interested in being a booty call, I think you need to text someone else keen. Then leave the conversation, at least you were honest about it.

[Don-__-Don]

Just tell him that you don't want to be his booty call and leave it at that.

[TruthBringer]

You tell him no and that you're not the type who is a booty call. Did you have sex with him before? If you did while not being in a relationship with him, then it wouldn't surprise me if he saw you nothing but a booty call

[loveslongnails]

You say "Did you think 2 decent dates gets you midnight booty calls? Think again". And then you dump him.

[Janessa2021]

You know what you want for yourself and he clearly thinks you're a peace of ass so tell him you don't want to be that and leave him alone if he doesn't respect that

[jack187625]

Please don't be a person that just blocks and ghosts. It's shitty. Just tell him what you are looking for, if he keeps pressing the matter, then yes.

Treat the guy with a little respect?

[Tstrbrainer]

Are you sure that it's a booty call?
Or is he free only during that time?

Anyway, to make your side clear, tell him that you are looking for something serious.

[JackieJaii]

Tell him to stop wasting your time or just stop replying

[Anonymous]

Ok well what exactly implies that it’s a booty call? Maybe he’s just up late? Did he come out specially or hunt at sex w you?

[Dsg1193]

Ask him to be honest about what he’s actually looking for, since he tends to reach out at midnight. And say that’s not what you’re interested in

[utterlyconfused11]

just straight up tell him that you don't want to be a booty call and if he insists just tell him that its not gonna go down like that.

[Smegskull]

Don't answer texts at night and don't date in private spaces. If he wants to date you he will move at your speed if not he'll say so or just stop contacting you.

[Virginmartha]

You should be grateful. Booty calls are hard to find right now. This guy is taking a risk with the Rona to try and please you. You should give him a chance sis.

[Starrr01]

Just don’t answer him. And I’m speaking from personal experience, please don’t waste your time with this guy. You’ll only get hurt

[FriendlyEnigma]

Just say no then move on with life :o life is short don't waste your time

[GoldenTulip]

Very simple , be honest "I am not your bootycall. Bye "

[departedthe]

You are worried about replying? Damn my crush will never reply to any of my text messages beyond 10 pm.

[Quackthulu]

"I'm actually busy with your mom right now. But I might be able to schedule you down for next Wednesday."

[ShadezMcgee]

Just don't answer back if you don't want to. You are sleeping. Legit excuse, or just tell him straight up you aren't looking to be a booty call.

[sheikalana]

I would answer in the morning saying sorry I was sleeping when you texted me last night.

[CasaNorba]

Simple, just tell him that if he only wants you as his human fleshlight then he can kiss your relationship with him good bye

[Paul09]

So he knows à lot about you, and you know nothing about him? Tell him or leave.

[rjroy3]

"We should hangout with our clothes on sometime"

Then make plans where you go away from a sex location lol

[AFellowWeeb]

go for it, you want that deep down, we all know you do

[winterfox10]

"I've noticed that you only text me late at night. I enjoy our vibe, but I'm not interested in being your booty call. If you want to continue dating, please only contact me during reasonable hours."

[supercutebutt]

Tell him you have HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. :)

[Snickermarstwix]

Did you guys already slept together? Cause the thing is, if you don't give the man the chance to know you more before you go into sex, chances are he'll know for nothing more than sex.

[Agem123]

Tell him you're looking for something more serious than that.

Is it really that difficult to communicate? Damn.

[Daniela1982]

Nothing! You ignore and block him. He is apparently only interested in you for sex.

[Iknowbestgirls]

Soo let me get this straight, you like him and he likes you, you get along... And you don't wanna have sex with him? Doesn't make sense to me...