Should you not approach girls if you're not attractive?

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Like should you even try at all?

Answer 1

KBird

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No if anything you should do it! Confidence is extremely sexy, and guys approaching girls doesn't happen enough.

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Random_Guy_Online

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How would you react if a confident guy approached you, but you weren't attracted to him?
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@Random_Guy_Online Bingo
KBird

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@Random_Guy_Online Depends on how he approached me (that goes for anyone honestly tho, whether I find you attractive or not). Like if a guy came up acting all 'cool' and said something like"hey baby, whats good?" (that has happened), I honestly wouldn't give you the time of day, or I would have NO interest. But if you want to talk genuinely about something, and then slip in the odd 'flirty' thing, I love that.
If he wasn't my type physically, I would be attracted to his confidence and the fact that he thought I was attractive enough to approach. Looks aren't everything, I've dated both, and to me personality overtakes looks. The more funny you are, and the more you care, I would be extremely attracted to you.

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Random_Guy_Online

How would you react if a confident guy approached you, but you weren't attracted to him?

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@Random_Guy_Online Bingo

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KBird

@Random_Guy_Online Depends on how he approached me (that goes for anyone honestly tho, whether I find you attractive or not). Like if a guy came up acting all 'cool' and said something like"hey baby, whats good?" (that has happened), I honestly wouldn't give you the time of day, or I would have NO interest. But if you want to talk genuinely about something, and then slip in the odd 'flirty' thing, I love that.
If he wasn't my type physically, I would be attracted to his confidence and the fact that he thought I was attractive enough to approach. Looks aren't everything, I've dated both, and to me personality overtakes looks. The more funny you are, and the more you care, I would be extremely attracted to you.

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WesBrewer | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

just approach ones who are just as attractive as you are. if you get big muscles and look like a toned down light bodybuilder you can attract a girl from almost any level of beauty.

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Answer 6

DrunkAss

Yoda

Just talk to people. Make some friends. Have some fun.

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The problem is that a lot of girls won't give you a chance to talk to them if you're not quote "Hot"
DrunkAss

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You can become hot or build an illusion of hotness. Just find like a short dorky guy as a wingman and be cooler and taller than him. And don't hang around guys who are way better at this than you. Girls seem to pick out the relatives at social party. So you stand next to a badass and you look like a dork. You stand next to a total dweeb and you look like a badass. It works -- try it.
DrunkAss

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Like this with visual perception -- the shorter guys are around 6'3. But they look like 4 feet tall. The man standing next to them is around 8 feet.

The relative is more important than the absolute. If you are like the coolest of the nerds, but surrounded with nerds, you will look badass until you invite a non-nerd to stand next to you. Notice your surroundings and how they affect people. Then you can get women not only welcome to your approaches, but approaching you.
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DrunkAss

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I think one of the reasons I had an easy time with this is because I work in a super-dork field as a heavy R&D engineer. And I'm not really cool. But I was sponsored athlete in a nerdy way, I do like to drink and party, so when I'm surrounded by the kings of their chess clubs, I look like Brad Pitt. But not in an absolute sense. You put me next to actual Brad Pitt and I look and act like Gollum from Lord of the Rings. But you put me next to Steve Urkel and I look like young Brad Pitt. This is very important -- master this and you will get the girls and friends. Popularity is easy if you understand the relative nature of the social dynamic over the absolute and pick where you position yourself and socially maneuver very carefully.

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Asker

The problem is that a lot of girls won't give you a chance to talk to them if you're not quote "Hot"

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DrunkAss

You can become hot or build an illusion of hotness. Just find like a short dorky guy as a wingman and be cooler and taller than him. And don't hang around guys who are way better at this than you. Girls seem to pick out the relatives at social party. So you stand next to a badass and you look like a dork. You stand next to a total dweeb and you look like a badass. It works -- try it.

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DrunkAss

Like this with visual perception -- the shorter guys are around 6'3. But they look like 4 feet tall. The man standing next to them is around 8 feet.
Should you not approach girls if you're not attractive?

The relative is more important than the absolute. If you are like the coolest of the nerds, but surrounded with nerds, you will look badass until you invite a non-nerd to stand next to you. Notice your surroundings and how they affect people. Then you can get women not only welcome to your approaches, but approaching you.

Answer 10

DrunkAss

I think one of the reasons I had an easy time with this is because I work in a super-dork field as a heavy R&D engineer. And I'm not really cool. But I was sponsored athlete in a nerdy way, I do like to drink and party, so when I'm surrounded by the kings of their chess clubs, I look like Brad Pitt. But not in an absolute sense. You put me next to actual Brad Pitt and I look and act like Gollum from Lord of the Rings. But you put me next to Steve Urkel and I look like young Brad Pitt. This is very important -- master this and you will get the girls and friends. Popularity is easy if you understand the relative nature of the social dynamic over the absolute and pick where you position yourself and socially maneuver very carefully.

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boggboss | 7.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

If u don't think u should don't lol

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Answer 12

petrachan

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girls find confidence attractive sooo 🤷‍♀️

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Asker

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Looks are the first thing they'll notice though. So confidence is kind of counter intuitive
petrachan

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hm that is kinda true but u never know until u try
Asker

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Meh there are other more important things in life than women. I'm not tripping about it anymore

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Asker

Looks are the first thing they'll notice though. So confidence is kind of counter intuitive

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petrachan

hm that is kinda true but u never know until u try

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Asker

Meh there are other more important things in life than women. I'm not tripping about it anymore

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Anonymous

No, self-preservation is best

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Random_Guy_Online | 288 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Nah, never give up

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