He told me stop looking into his past because I’ll see things I don’t want to see. Red flag or not?

[BigHomieNasty]

I’d say he’s just being honest. Not necessarily a red flag. But it could be as well.


This all depends on what his past entails. It could be some things that he knows you don’t agree with, but not necessarily bad things about him. Or for the worse, it could be some horrible things that make him a bad person.


I’d gamble he’s referring to some incidents of him cheating on past girlfriends or being a player. If that’s what it is, be careful. But at the same time, he may be a changed man.


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[AndyOh]

I agree with your boyfriend, let the past be the past.
If you want to dig up old girlfriends and deeds he did, you might not like what you will find, and that goes for anyone. If you are jealous of his past, you will never be happy with anyone, since we all have a past. So let bygones be bygones.

[MurderMitten]

you both are wrong. He shouldn't tell you to stop looking and you shouldn't be looking unless you think something really bad you need to know about. What ever it was he is the person he is today. Dont a lot of us have bad things in our past? Why dig them up you know

[EaterPeter]

Yes please stop looking in the past. You might get into negative override and negative sentiment override is no good for any relationship. That doesn't mean to avoid tell tale signs of not being in good or bed relationship.

[GOOSEBOY78]

all the lights are flashing and the warning bells are sounding. but depends on how bad.

[WesBrewer]

Past red flags, that just means he got into some bad stuff or something a while back.

[ManHater]

The past is the past, can't change it. You can learn but if you dwell on the past it will eat you.

[Synikal]

Yea, better to be safe than sorry. What guy leads with a line like that? Unless you truly feel for this individual, just take things as they come. Things always come to light on their own.

[Twalli]

No, just knowing he has done some stuff that is tr8behind him that you won't like.

[mallen3423]

people change over time he may be ashamed of some things in his past

[Jamie05rhs]

Yellow flag.
He was honest with you; that counts for something.

[doctord00m]

Either that or a humble brag.