Do you sabotage potential relationships because you are scared of getting hurt?

[Wade8888]

No. My anxiety is really caused by fear of hurting or offending the woman. I've always taken rejection itself rather well most of the time, except you know, when you're rejected 20 times in a row that gets old, but that's beside the point.

I don't get what women realy expect from me, because they lie so much about what they want, and they lie about why they reject me.

They reject me because I'm a righteous person and they don't want the Real God in their lives. They calm to reject me because I'm "not their type" or "don't have the same interests" or whatever.

Independent research BY DATING SITE OWNERS shows the number one reason Women actually reject men is if they are a Christian, and the number 2 reason women reject men is if they "believe in God" but are not a Christian... and this is true even if the woman claims to believe in God, she still rejects men who claim to believe in God. So the dating site owners recommended to all their male users to just lie and claim they were atheists.

[ChiTown33]

I sometimes wonder this. I've said before i don't ask women out anymore. If she's interested in me she's going to have to swallow her pride and ask me. If she doesn't want to do that , well that shows her true level of interest doesn't it. Why would i want to be with someone like that. Both the truth is women are very fickle they get turned off almost as inexplicably as they get turned on. I mean what's to stop her from asking me out only to dump me a couple weeks layer lol.
I've found the best course of action is just take any woman serious. Just roll with it. Till she gets bored and leaves.

[Majesty101]

I can definitely say I have in the past. I would kill the idea of having a happy relationship with someone because I didn't want to get my hopes up, let it happen, and potentially get hurt again. Before, it was foreign to me for someone to have pure intent in forming a relationship with me... I always felt like people wanted something from me or we're out to take advantage of what I had to offer, so I would kill my emotions, block any kind potential sunlight I saw, and create brutal walls as a means of protecting who I truly was and what I had to offer. Long story short, life fucked me up when I was younger... I was too naive, so later on I became cold to "hurt" others (block them out) before they could hurt me. I don't do that anymore of course, I've learned to be vulnerable when need be and give certain things a chance to grow, so at this point I'm just letting life flow. I find happiness in potential and dial down my pessimism.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I don't have to sabotage relationships or meeting guys: it seems to happen on its own whenever I start to like a guy, or I get too attached to him.

It's like they can sense when I like them and they're like, "LOL, NO. Try someone else." 🤦‍♀️

If anything I'm scared of investing all my time and energy in a guy that won't return my feelings. That's a legitimate fear most of us have!

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t take emotional risks - if I think the guy might hurt me - I won’t give him a chance - some take the risk and study the man while dating him - I say 100% trust or no first or second date

[Apope16]

Absolutely. And I also refuse to committ out of fear of abandonment or cheating.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Sometimes.
Other times is just to mess around.

[Citizenkirk]

😳I'm not trying too be be a colossal sarcastic🌭, I'm just naturally good at being one🧐, but your question is circular and self nullifying🤔.
Any actions taken by me (🌭), either intentional or otherwise (🙃), that obstruct the natural flow of the social relationship experiences available too me (🌭😑), cancel out the possibility of a relationship (👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨) ever taking place between me and another person🎱.
Therefore, the fact that I do have relationships from time too time (🤯), means that I am not actively (👁️), or at least successfully (🥴), sabataging them (🖤). If I were (😶), they never would have happened in the first place (🥺). If that were the case (🤨), the potential for relationships to happen for me (🙄), would be non🚫existent🦄.
In other words, I'm either a failure at sabotaging my relationships, or it never even occurred to me to try.
Or, to put it simply, SABOTAGING POTENTIAL RELATIONSHIPS, is a contradictory statement, known as an oxymoron.
For people who want to avoid doing things that make relationship scenarios problematic for them, practice makes perfect, and your social skills can be strengthened and improved like working the muscles of the body. You just need practice and conditioning, and a lot of practice picking up on social cues social conventions now that other nonsense. The more practice you get, the better, because you learn how to sift through the social cues too ignore, and the ones you mustn't, and the social conventional mannerisms to emulate, and the ones to openly mock and ridicule. You don't want to be pegged as being of a herd mentality, do you? If you do, then seek out shallow, simple-minded bimbles of the male or female persuasion. They're easy to spot, the guy bimbos have an issue of GQ in their hands, the girl bimbos an issue of Vogue.
If you're blessed with both of brain and a personality, than try hanging out at places where you're coming into contact with Average Joe's and Average Jane's, like the library, sports bar, ball game, local watering hole (🍻🥂), GaG community, etc. Work them social 💪's.

[JSmuve]

When I was younger, I'd sabotage potential relationships for one of two reasons. The first was that I was super impatient and reactionary, letting my emotions run me instead of pursuing slowly. The second was that I thought that if I went out with a girl that I only had lukewarm interest in then I was somehow committed to her and didn't want to lead her on, potentially hurting her, instead of going out with her and seeing where things could go. Again, immaturity. I let a bunch of girls get away from me due to my immaturity and anxiety with relationships.

[TruthBringer]

No. I only sabotage a potential relationship if that relationships is toxic for me to get in, or holds no future (unless we both agree it's short term). I know what I bring to the table and there are women who would gladly be with me in a relationship. I don't hold a fear of abandonment or getting hurt. I've already been burnt before, so I've learned to be independant in every aspect including emotional.

[glamz091506]

No. If I see that the other in the relationship isn't putting in as much effort or the friendship/love between us has fizzled, I don't need to sabotage it in any way. I just cut off ties - may it my a friend or romantic relationship. I'm one to reevaluate relationships in my life and if I feel that they're toxic or have come to mold me to someone whom has negative energy towards my life, I end things.

[CurlyGirl42]

Kinda.. I started focusing on showing that a relation with a man is mainly about the sex because I often got disappointed when I was hoping for more.. hope still hits me from time to time, though I say I just want something casual. A big part of me wants that so it's not a complete lie. And sure a man who wants something serious is going to avoid it with me because of my actions.

[guesswhoseback]

I admit I had a fear of intimacy. That is she would see my quirks, faults and shortcomings and reject me.

Both women and men have a bad habit of projecting their fantasies of what they their crush is on someone. They fall in love with image.

Men hit hard pavement when this happens. That is the girl discovers he’s not who she thought he was. She then quickly rejects him

[Uptowngirl88]

Not really... I do have a wall up YET I observe for red flags in the beginning and usually catch them within 2-3 weeks of talking to a person. I dont go out on dates right away I restrict conversations to phone to avoid wasting my time because people usually tell on themselves.

[Paolaa988]

I dont think so? I think i just let my fears get the best of me and i shut myself down and think the worst that could happen which is the unknown and all of my bad toxic past relationships showed me otherwise anyways so i think i should've just actually kept my guard up more and realized my worth in the time being and i failed to do that.

[Hermes-Paris]

Why would someone do that? Focus on having fun and not being a drag or a pain in someone's life and enjoy it for what it is. You get hurt when you lose yourself in someone else.

[Zarapeachy]

Yes. Unknowingly at the moment, I do it. Giving up easily, portraying my flaws more than my strengths, and my past by itself tend to make people run, so yeah.

[Belleevans]

I have an anxious/ avoidant attachment style. Very difficult for me to control and difficult for the man to understand me in a relationship.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I have done that a lot before. I’m a runner so I would make it not work on purpose just so I could “run” from my fear.

[Hangry22]

Oh many times. It's like a cycle for me now. I like em I push em away
More to come😌

[Mamaganja]

Not necessarily sabotage but I do get annoyed and even turned off by people very quickly. I’m not meant to be in a relationship.

[paraXaraq]

I sabotage potentially relationships because I either lose interest in the person or dont see a future with that person, so I dont want to waste my time or theirs. More time im not looking for a relationship im just being nice.

[WesBrewer]

I worry a lot but I never let my girlfriend know, unless it is something I think is likely

[Tonita91996]

I used to but it doesn't do any good but makes things worse than what it already is. That is why you must take time getting to know someone to see if you two are compatible.