"Confidence and Game only work if you're already good looking or if she already finds you attractive." Agree or Disagree?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No matter what anyone tells you, if you look like a monkey you have both feet out the door to start. Its reality in this world.

Assuming you're talking about a woman at least a 7 on the beauty scale or above you will have to get super lucky or she's a single mom already and has no choice but to settle or is desperate or suffer from low esteem, otherwise you will need to have a good career or lots of money to get her.

A woman is attracted to a man and vice versa is the physical looks first, as that's what they see first.

If she likes how you look physically then you have 1 foot in the door already and the only way you can mess it up with her is by talking or acting like a complete weirdo.

[Not_Average]

Disagree. One of my good friends in college was pretty fucking ugly, but he pulled more than most. Legit one of the funniest guys I’ve met and had a ton of friends. Confidence and humor go a long way.

[CriticalDiscourse]

You know what the real "trick is?"

Being compatible. Stop trying to find a cookie-cutter ideal that works universally for women while you justify your own lack of intimate success by placing the fault of if on the female.

It's no one's fault.

People are compatible, attracted, into, interest in, etc, OR NOT in others.

This is why we see "grossly unattractive" people in happy relationships, even in common media.

You will never do anyone a disservice by being confident in yourself, loving yourself, and practising self-compassion. It doesn't mean the world will give you everything, but you'll at the very least have a clearer view on the world.

[Ninani]

Confidence and self worth is damn sexy, but "game" and arrogance is a major turnoff

[jennifer_bloom]

Confidence is like cultural specific food - some people love it and some people don't care either way - if one woman does not appreciate you - move on to another

[TheFlak38]

Definitely. "just have confidence dude!" that's one of the biggest lies told today. You can point at any unattractive man and ask a woman if she likes him. She will of course say "no" although she doesn't know his personality, so yes looks matter the most. If you have the looks then you need game to pass her endless series of shit tests in order to keep her and that's not even a guarantee. That's why relationships don't work today. The man must work ten times as hard to earn money and put in ten times the effort in the relationship and in the end she still won't be happy.

[Anonymous]

It works best if you are attractive and have game but it works to a degree even if you're not. Women like confident guys, so get Confidant.

I remember as a little boy and then a a teen-ager and later as a man, my grandma would pull me onto her lap and say "Get Confident Stupid" . She would go on and on, blathering like a mental patient. She would tell me that without confidence I would never get any. "Get any what Grandma?", I would ask. "Cake, she replied. Big fat blonde cakes as far as you can see, but not unless you get fucking confidence."

Those hurtful words never left me and to this day I can still her her cackle as I am about the eat a nice big blonde ass cake.

-- True story

[WindAtMyBack]

Not really. Confidence can go a long way for anyone. Less so with "game". To me game is a term used for the pickup crowd and people actively into dating around. It doesn't even apply to most people, men or women either one. Most people are after something more stable and intimate, where "game" has little to do with it. Game can be a huge negative with many women. It can cause them to run the other way, fast.

[Anonymous]

For the most part. You might be able to reel in a woman with some skills but unless she was already interested it's an uphill battle. It doesn't surprise me how women are responding to this though. As i've said before, they still want you to ask even if they know the answer will be no.

[lanadelrey25]

I disagree. Most of the time it's true, but there have been a few people I didn't find "my type" per say but their confidence and personality really worked

[slatyb]

It’s not a game. Being interesting and interested work.

[angelicina]

I mean, kinda disagree. Average would work too. But I think it wouldn’t work if you’re in a really bad position.

[iseekpinetrees]

It kinda depends because confidence is sexy so it makes u become attractive

[Avicenna]

It definitely helps, but good looks aren’t absolutely necessary.

[nevernevernever]

confidence IS attractive, if you have confidence and game it helps women find you attractive

[Egirl28]

Game only works if its back up with confidence ! It's a good ice breaker but in the long run sincerity works better and makes you stand out.