TLDR respect is earned not given
@jspl90 Where are you showing respect with your comment? None. Respect is given as well as earned. You treat others how you want to be treated, or don't expect it at all.
Don't be so hasty to judge when it gets turned around on you. You don't like it if somebody did what you just did? Don't do it to other people. You can't earn respect if you don't show it either.
Absolutely ridiculous. Women who think like this are no better than plastic polluting the ocean. You sound like a damn psycho.
I don't care what I sound like to you. That's why you people get the cuddlist if you got any 101 complain to someone else about what you choose to do. You just mad and bitter because I know the difference between right and wrong. Is how you people like to live then go do it how you want to live. You just want to think you're better than some people. Least I don't think that way. you want to act like that. That's what you're going to get.
If y'all people like that filth, you like that drama, you like that pollution can you go being a pollution. Your people don't want to pull up and don't know she's not me. I stay out of it that's why I don't got that kind of messing my life. And I have healthy people in friends in my life we don't bring that kind of drama and nonsense in it either. Cause your own problems then want blame others for the garbage you have in it.
I'm a virgin so how am I a Hoe! Have a brain instead of using your vagina just to get a man.
I’m married. Hoes REAL mad!
If I'm in a relationship with somebody I know not to be dressing like some whore and acting like some whore in a relationship either! And I know better not to be sticking and getting men who like that still see lights out to but then complaining about what a woman does. Double check yourself sister because I ain't living that hypocritical life!
You can be married and still being a hoe. Who knows how many you laid up with you before you got married. Let's look at that one that you want to call somebody a ho. I got zero and I ain't messing with no man or just desperate for one. You're just mad because you're the one that was different men not me.
Go to double check yourself before that same crap get you divorced and then you're going to be another statistic. I know better than to be claiming that crap.. I'm No Man's bedwench.
Do you even speak proper English? Half of what you say is random ass words. You want to fight, I’m just being real. Women should not be showing off their bodies on social media. Women should not be hanging out in private with another man. Honoring your husband is #1 priority. Your ideals conflict, so you may not have acted on it, but your point of view is still one of a HOE.
Oh my god, you are actually a psycho. Go off somewhere else crazy ass bitch.
My ideas don't conflict. And I do speak proper English I maybe voice typing on my phone but I know what I'm talkin about My point of view ain't one of our home. I know you wait until your married to have sex. I know you dress how you also wish to be treated. I know you stick with somebody who's going to Care honor and respect you as well as respect your body. He ain't going to be asking for news, can you go to ask me to be doing sexual after it's inappropriate. He won't be masturbating, and he won't be watching pornography. So who the hell are you to call me with the mentality of a whore. I know the difference so I highly suggest you better look at the mirror of yourself. So don't talk about honoring your husband if you ain't honoring your body an AR and God first. Honor God first before you won't start till about honoring a husband. Cuz until you know God you don't know how to honor your husband.
No I suggest you go somewhere if y have your behind reported and blocked.
Skip that you're now report it and now going to be blocked. Not going to get disrespected by somebody who act like trash to people they don't know.
I don't care. Your going to get blocked too. Im not trash and neither am I a bitch. Yoi people want to live like that, go live it. Now get off my comment feed.
I don't need somebody like you or whatever your wife so call is or whatever hit can you order to tell him me and judge me who the heck I am and I know myself. If you have a better and have any kind of freaking respect you would not be speaking of way towards people.
How about you control your wife tongue and you better keep your mouth shut? Maybe if you're going to be a freaking man and tell her how to have respect for other people I wouldn't be having to have to block her. Ain't about you disagree with me. I have not far more respectful people of respectable characters and how you choose choose to behave.
You get blocked for using profanity. Harassing me and judging me nasty the way you do. Not because you disagree with me. I ain't going to be dealing with psycho behind people.
This is exactly what I'm talking about. I put the freaking man and you learn to control your wife and how she chooses to speak out of people. Because she not only embarrass herself she wouldn't see embarrasses you. And now you're embarrassing each other. He has no freaking respect and neither do you. None of you deserve any kind of respect with the kind of lack of manners you got. None.
First of all no you need to shut your mouth or I'm going to shut it for you. And I honestly don't care what you got to say to me. I don't say nothing stupid and I don't care if it sounds stupid to you. That's how you want to ask that's how you behave. You don't like what I got to say truth hurts. I can handle but I refuse to be disrespected now keep it up again and you're going to be reported in Blocked also. Last warning.
I will make an example out of the boat for you with the 300 plus I have blocked with your nonsense. That includes the stalker's the psychopaths, harassors, you be lumped with them.Oh please! You're not Jack squat yourself and I ain't here for no Echo chamber. It's called having Common Sense something you and your wife lack. You got one where she sounds like you got to use the name that's completely idiotic. And you got one call yourself extremely bored. Are you two so bored you got to be trolling people because you don't love yourself. Either you or your wife is harassing people who have opinions you don't like so you need to cut the crap out.
You're right you don't. That's probably why you two got together birds of a feather flock together. Sounds like a bunch of Rejects.
So everything you want to say about me then who's you and your so-called wife, you're talkin about yourselves and probably not likeable people either. Goodbye!
woah well that escalated quickly, if you are dating someone they usually at least should not be the lesser one if you are constantly ditching your boyfriend to hang with your friend there is something wrongps. respect like trust needs to be earned
Where am I in couraging such behavior that you're doing and living? So nobody that's you talkin shit. If you can't handle your relationship don't get in them. My friends don't do it. I don't do it. We respect each other and respecting those relationships. My friends don't dress like that, I don't dress like that. We don't behave like that. So what the hell are you talkin about? I see a man lusting after a woman's I ain't messing with him. A man is lusting after me I am messing with him. I don't want them. Amanda expects me to dress and behave in that way I ain't going to be with him! And I'm not going to act in ways that is ungodly and it was and not how a Godly woman should behave! I ain't going to have someone like you nor your wife be bullying me and disrespecting me because you don't like what I have to say exposing your garbage. Asker likes women pervertedly, who the hell is he the judge and who the hell is out of you people to judge? Get that is how you act and behave. I know not to be like the woman in the picture. But I ain't going to be with no man that like that in a woman either. You better double-check yourself I don't do those things. My friends don't do those things. And anybody that behaving that way I don't be around them I stay away from them like the plague. Take your BS elsewhere! Wouldn't be having with 20 years of a solid friendship if I had that crap in it.
@jspl90No. Unless you were married you are just as much in the middle as your friends and your family. Your family comes first. You are not a priority when you are dating. You want to be a priority that's what marriage is for. You treat your relationships whether you are dating or not equally as there is not one that is better than the other. There is nothing wrong with necessarily hanging out with your friend more than who's your Daddy. What you must learn to mutually communicate this. This is why you don't date strain you date your friends. Because your friends know each other. And your families know each other to your communities know each other. If you are doing this to a stranger then you are going to be disrespecting that stranger from you then if you will be dating a friend who is going to be expecting more. That is unrealistic expectations that nobody should be placing on a partner. Either you're that meeting, or you're the one that is missing something that you did not have when you were a child. Now that becomes a self problem not a relationship problem. If somebody is ditching you, that has less to do with something being wrong that have to do with the type of person you are dealing with that probably just don't like you or want you in the first place. That's it tell you right there something is off with the kind of relationship you got. That's why you don't rush into relationships you don't know anything about. Common sense. I tell men I don't think strangers without good reason. Because I don't want to be dealing with a person who does not respect my need for Freedom as well.
I ain't messing with him*If a man expects me to dress and behave that way*
This is why I also if you're not going to wait and be friends first before you date, you better talk about this stuff before you choose to become exclusive with an individual. Not be wasting your time having sex around, each other's emotions and telling each other pipe dreams, you better get to the nitty-gritty. What do you expect in a partner and you better talk about it. Dating is about process and elimination. You don't date people you're not compatible with! The hell is wrong with y'all people? Get some common sense and some wisdom before you hop into relationships you cannot handle. It is not a freaking game and is not a joke. Don't be serious with people that is not going to take you seriously from the beginning. If I had a boyfriend or husband I want to hang out with his friends who am I to stop him? As long as he is not doing anything he's supposed to be doing I ain't going to go ahead and respect someone else's relationship. Neither do I want that person doing that with mine. I'm not having that toxicity in my life. And I still don't get into relationships you cannot take care of it's like having children. Children got knees, they need to be nurtured, they have to grow in an environment that is healthy. If you cannot handle all of that work juggling your friendship and your relationships you better get rid of one or the other or both. Nobody deserves to be disrespected and nobody deserves to be neglected or abused. The fact that you people think this kind of stuff is normal you're crazy.
I don't want no crazy Jersey Shore in Mister Rogers Neighborhood. Take that filth down the block.
You aren't going to do shit and Id like to see you try to shut me up you stupid bitch. Bring it
Reported and now blocked. jerk off.
Oh look The Troll is back you're going to get blocked for a double account. Goodbye!
Not gonna read your essay but dang you a bitch
@yeahguy2 And now your too getting blocked. Keep calling me something I'm not you crazy beyond people.
If she felt anything you wrote in this really long essay (too long) she should have told him she wants to break up. And girl please don't sound like a naive feminist.
@Madladd I am not a naive feminist or a feminist period. You people need to grow up.
Calm down, i just wanted to make my opinion heard. Don't take it to heart.
First of all, he picked her for BOOTY. He wants to screw her, she'll screw who she wants, and that is if her friend even wants to screw her to begin with. None of that crap should be going on. Men lust, then get angry at a woman. Maybe if men start respecting themselves and have respectable women equally they wouldn't be worried about such women. That's feminist? No. Feminsim is what you see in the picture. You want that stuff. You don't want so-called 'religious' women. You want that woman. Why are you people mad? I had 3 people calling me a B**** in one place, one day in less than 2 hours. I am not having that crap going on. I don't see what the hell is the issue that she doesn't have a so-called butt curving for a guy when she should exercise and have herself fit for herself! Not to please some men, and then men lust and then upset she doesn't want sex with him. Really? That's all most of you crazy men want, boobs or butt. I should know. Other than my friends who had crushes on me, not 1 guy I physically met in person came to my get to know me as friends. They only asked me out because I was pretty. Really? Enough hypocrisy. It ain't about what I right am long. It's years and years of experience and observation that nobody wants to listen too, but wants to call me a b about it. Redicious. If I see a man coming to me only because I got body, he is the problem. You men again, want us ONLY when we look like the right. The left, you pass. So come on. Our body is not for you. It's for us. And for you to respect. Women who show themselves like that either do it for themselves or unless they want to be out there, they do it regardless side you see in the picture. If a woman wants to fill out of whatever she's only doing it for somebody else? How does anybodu really KNOW? NOW if it's proven wrong, all of you will look stupid. Either way, if she's does or not. All of them are crazy. That's why I stay away from lustful hypersexualized men. Want women of vanity.
@Madladd No. Your opinion sadly is again not to be heard. But to be spiteful. You don't know me to call me naive or a feminist. I never dated for these reasons. And is smart enough to stay out of them. You want women of the world, Lust, Vanity, Lasciviousness, Covetuouness, Jezebel, and Ahab spirits. That's why I said, you people who condone this way or living are crazy. This has 0 to do with her spending time with her male best friend. It's because the boyfriend wants to bang her, she probably doesn't like it, prefers the friends may be and going after the friend, who may not be going after her. Sometimes that happens. I don't agree with it. But you people date them. If she had nothing sexual to offer, none of you men or the Asker would be dealing with her. POINT BLINK. It's sad women have to do that for sexual attention and men to lust only to be mad she isn't giving it up. I'm not just blaming the Asker, I blame her and whoever she deals with and maybe cheating on that level. That is IF she is. For all you know it ain't the friend. It's somebody else. You people are naive. You see the right, our hot and heavy like dogs. So again, enough hypocrisy. If I got my butt like that just for my personal health. Forget it. Onlookers of lustful men. Not for me, but for the booty that doesn't belong to them but is my own. When are men on that level are going to start respecting a woman for her? Only very few ever do. A girl who parades herself like that sexually for no logical reason, unless personal health goals are looking for attention. Period. Men do it, women do it. I don't take sides. I state the facts. Facts people don't want to hear.
Well, you judged that from a photo wow. You don't know him or what he his intentions or feelings are. He is talking about an affair which basically means sex thats why he would post such picture. Secondly, this long essay behavior will make guys (good guys) run away from you, so learn how to control your feelings and again you are a feminist and you should stop playing the victim in a comment section that has nothing to do with you.
I have friends who were like that growing up going after those women. You THINK I would EVER date somebody like that and bad enough I wasn't compatible with them? NO. Because them liking such pictures showed me what THEY were ABOUT. Something a woman like me doesn't need or want in a man. Common Sense, Gentlemen. Stopped getting doped with the wool over your eyes, you want to be blinded and then can't stand the truth when your Total Recall Fantasies over.
Bo Bo, close your eyes and take a deep breath and read what you are saying.
@Madladd Buddy, pretend I'm in front of you holding your shoulders. WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT!!! It is not so HARD to judge what he is ABOUT! That's why he downvoted me along with the rest of the butthurt people for the very things I SAID. He feels sexually NGELECTED AND UNWANTED. Something that shouldn't have anything to do with the relationship. He wants the BOOTY he wants the BOOTY to be his and now he is angry that she may be giving booty to somebody else. He knew what he was getting into. The photo is in PLAIN SITE. Why caption a meme of boyfriend and friend? He's jelaous because wants a 'SEXY' girlfriend because you men expect a woman liek that. You get that, your pissed. I know. My frends go to the gyms. Even with their moms. The men lust after them after they look similar to the right. Both them AND the Mom. You think they like that crap all the time? NOPE. Because their not about that. "Well, you judged that from a photo wow. You don't know him or what he his intentions or feelings are. He is talking about an affair which basically means sex thats why he would post such picture. Secondly, this long essay behavior will make guys (good guys) run away from you, so learn how to control your feelings and again you are a feminist and you should stop playing the victim in a comment section that has nothing to do with you." Stop calling me a feminist. I am a Christian. A believer in Christ and God. I believe what the Bible says and hod GOD commanded. he did not command for this filth and whoredoms. Do your research on feminism. Feminism is why were hear today and women in whoredoms you men want. First of all, people are cursing and using profanity. That's not me playing the victim. That's me getting victimized and you people condone the sick practice. It's disgusting. Profanity and threats are not normal. All the more reason to leave this country and move to a better country that isn't all westernized.
That is not what he is talking about. He feels he's entitled to her a**, and he's not. Not because of some affair. Like I SAID, unless he has evidence, no. He's just jealous. Period. I already said I don't condone if she is messing around. But what concern about her a**? Her a** is not his business! RESPECT a woman no matter what assets she got. Period. If he's chasing her and expecting her to prompt herself up sexually, that's why these women do it.
@Madladd I do. It's called me having common sense, me wasting my time with people like a broken record. I don't care what you people do. Suck it up, deal with it. Normal people don't do this. Dysfunctional reject people do.
So don't tell me calm down read what I am saying. I have been preaching this stuff since 8. I am 28! 20 years! I believe in being natural and waiting for marriage BEFORE having sex. I was told, no man would want me because I refuse. And get called a religious prude. PLEASE. You want the hoes, go get them! That's all. I don't pity you people. There are stable men out there that don't chase hoes. Or those who show themselves like one, LET ALONE EXPECT them to. You love that stuff. If you didn't, you wouldn't be going after them. You would find a woman to love, marry her, have healthy sex, start a family, and be together through thick and thin. Not chasing after a woman nearly half-ass naked, then blame her for not being loyal, and then condemn all women. Is it fair for me to condemn all men? NO. Thank God there are some men still like George Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life, The Waltons, Little House on the Prairie, Anne of Green Gables, and many more. Did that need feminism these women? NO. They were Godly women of character, and that's not what you women want. You want modern hoes.
Well, the bible says men and women get married for different reasons one of them is sex. She is his girlfriend and sex is the line that separates between a friendship and a relationships thats why he has the right to get concerned.
@Madladd No. it is NOT. You people are CRAZY. You marry because you want to love a person not just have sex. Sex is not a line between friendship or anything. A healthy marriage and relationship have both friendship and intimacy. And in marriage sexual intimacy. The building blocks you learn from a baby, a toddler, a child, preteen, teenager, young ADULT you CARRY WITH YOU. She is not his wife legally for him to entitled that. You don't ask of that of your woman. You respect her. No. he just wants her for sex. A normal man would not concern himself with that because she would know if she changes herself for no logical reason, then it's often for another man or maybe for him. And if she doesn't get his acceptance. MAYBE she may go to another guy or want another guy. I know. My friends have almost done it that's why some of them broke up with their exes. They couldn't take it anymore. Any respectful woman who isn't appreciated would leave. Period. And your wrong. My friends have families and have been married since 18. That's 10 years. Some just got married about 2 years ago, they already have their first child. The first thing they posted up after giving their virginities on their wedding night "TRUE LOVE WAITS". "ABSTINENCE IS SAFE SEX." Anybody who doesn't believe in these principles is not people who love you. They have FAMILIES and MARRIAGES most of you don't have and aren't stable in.
All i'm saying is that, he is talking about an affair and he is worried that the girl "HE LIKES" is cheating on him "Sexually" end of story. I'm not going to continue talking to feminist like because it's a waste of my valuable time.
No, sex is meant to pure and not defiled. SEX is not what you see in so-called pornography, or hypersexualized shows and movies. It's not that. It's not what you see on this meme. Sex is desired when people truly want a bond to be ONE. It is not sexual gratification which is just sex. Even a few of my friends who didn't wait for marriage to have sex said this after they got married and experience sex on two different levels. And excuse my french, THEIR words not mine. Just being direct as they told me. They told me this: There is a difference between sex outside of marriage and waiting for marriage to have sex. Outside of marriage really is just sex, it's just f*cking. When you have sex after marriage, it's different. There is warmth there, there is a love that isn't and can't be explained. Having sex outside of marriage feels cold. It's just pleasure, you don't really feel satisfied, and unloved, and dirty after a while. You crave more but hate it in a sense too. But when your sex married and having sex with somebody you love. It's isn't like sex. It's really is making love. And you can't help but what to be close to them and do it again. There really is a difference between making love and f*cking. Marriage is love making, but sex is just sex. It's not love. Just pleasure. So from their words: People who marry want love. Not just pleasure, but pleasure with somebody they LOVE. Hense why they have committed. Those who just want pleasure have sex. Now, most people today DO marry for main pleasure, but that is because they think sex = love. And it's not. Sex is BIRTHED from the LOVE you have for one another. It is not selfish, or self-serving. It's selfless. A person can have sex with you and still hate it. Maybe with you because your not warm your cold. Especially when your hearts cold.
@Madladd I will say it again. STOP calling me a feminist or else you getting blocked along with them. Have some respect. Do you hear me calling you names? No. Where is your respect? Don't expect me to respect you when I technically don't have to.
That is a self-esteem issue. Not a relationship issue. Because again, whether she is or not, WHY would you want somebody who already does it by the pics showing ALONE. Pictures show a thousand words. If she was like this on the left, she's no different on the right. She was always like that, that's why he got her in the first place. I said it more than 3x I will say it no more. A respectful man doesn't CHASE those girls! Period.
Okay then, he is an asshole and she is a bitch. So let it them be, it's his problem not yours so don't come here yalling for nothing. You obviously have issues and you come here taking revenge on others how Christianic of you.
@Madladd What issues? Wha revenge? No, you people just hate the truth. Because if it ain't my business. What the hell are you people doing here, instigating and then downvoting me for what I had to say? Hypocrites. Take your own advice and leave it be. I wasn't here yelling at him. Only to the people who started that crap with me, now their trolling behinds are blocked. And blocked more for harassing other female users who didn't agree. If Isiah and Ezekial were here, They would have blown all of you out. And I heard Ezekial has QUITE the mouth God had to put coals on it. So don't talk about how Christian it is of me. God will use anybody to speak the truth as long as I am not being disrespectful which I wasn't. So again, please go elsewhere.
Show where I was yelling at the Asker? I wasn't yelling at him. I wasn't yelling at the first blue comment. I didn't yell at the PINK one either. UNTIL she called me a hoe! No morals you people. NONE.
But you're yalling at me too!
If these long essays aren't yalling then what is it, they are blocked now you're talking to me only.
@Madladd Yeah! Because your disrespectful as hell calling me a feminist! And want to know why I am angry! You're a jerk! Thank God I never dated jerks.
Feminist isn't an insult. Secondly, you keep saying words like "you people" "hypocrites" that's the disrespectful behavior that will get you no where honey.
It's not me yelling. THIS IS YELLING!!! This is me speaking firm, direct, civil, and to the point. UNLESS I have to change my tone to a more calmer for younger teens and children. But still firm unless somebody is highly sensitive. But I still be direct about it without trying to hurt somebody feelings. I somebody doesn't like me saying premarital sex is a sin. No matter how I say it:PREMARITAL SEX IS A SIN!Premarital sex is a sin!Premarital sex is a sin.Premarital sex is a sin...But... premarital sex is still a sin.You know that premarital sex is a sin, right?Not to offend you, but, premarital sex is a sin.It won't matter how I said it. They hate what I said. NOT how I said it. Be real.
Haha you're protesting now not just yalling
If that's your way of expressing you opinions a lot of people will call you names and won't listen to your so called common sense
"Feminist isn't an insult. Secondly, you keep saying words like "you people" "hypocrites" that's the disrespectful behavior that will get you no where honey." It is an insult. Don't lump me with those crazy people. First of all. It is not disrespectful. I have good relationships with people. I don't call me honey. i AM NOT your honey. You people refer to whoever DOES IT. Those who don't apply are exempt. They don't do it. I'm not talking about anybody else. And hypocrites is not disrespectful. If I can admit I can be a hypocrite at times, it's not disrespectful. It's humbleness and honesty. Something most of you lack besides authenticity, integrity, and character. I had talked to thousands of people over a span of nearly 8 years. I know who's who. Those who respected my opinion didn't become offended by what I said. They reflected, self-evaluated, came back, and understood. Some PM me for updates and do better than previous encounters. People who take so much offensive without at least asking why are fake people who hide things. Then when exposed you do the bait and switch tactic. Knew this for this. That's why I had only a few close friends and not many. Glad I did.
Well honey bony, YOU ARE FEMINIST AND ALSO HAVE ISSUES WITH LISTENING TO PEOPLE INSTEAD OF YOURSELF.
"Haha you're protesting now not just yalling" No. Just not settling for you BS."If that's your way of expressing you opinions a lot of people will call you names and won't listen to your so called common sense" Yeah, because they hate the truth and hate themselves. That has nothing to with me. It's their life their choices. But when they seek answers, it's not the answers they want to hear. But it's still true. What do you want to say. It's not a sin when it is? When God has something for me to say I listen to his commandments. Period. I don't answer to you people. I answer to God. There are PEOPLE who are called or are gifted to preach and judge righteously mainly when given word to speak about repentance, and they will do as they are called. They are not going to worry about getting stoned or gunned down in modern times for your nonsense. They're going to hell on the account of you people who don't want to change. These are generational curses of whoredoms. Don't like it, take it up with God. The Bible is CLEAR. God doesn't like this stuff. And you people do it anyway and use and abuse each other without remorse! Don't respect others, but expect others to pity you when in trouble. I dealt with this all my life. I'm used to hatred and death threats. Your not telling me any different.
@Madladd I am not a feminist because I opposed to this. Shows your not educated about feminism. Feminism wants this stuff. That's you. You're a male feminist. No. I have excellent listening skills and respectfully listen to people. People would not be coming to me if I didn't. I just don't listen to BS.
Well have a good day ma'am.
And then try to convince me something I see right through in less than 3 secs. I'm Intuitive. Not blind. I don't see just the mask, I see behind it, the scars and all. It's wrong. Period. Your sleeping around before marriage. Wrong. You could have made a mistake, but best not to do it again. Cursing out your boyfriend, your wrong. I don't care what he did first. Don't do it if you expect a man to respect you. Snatching things from people? You're wrong. That's toxic, abusive, and childish. Your taught better than to be snatching. This is common sense and morals. I don't have to be around crazy immoral let alone immature people. I don't think I am better than people. But people who willingly love that lifestyles refuse to change and add more pain and drama to other people's lives are toxic and dysfunctional people who need psychological HELP. Not screwing up others' lives after their messed up their own. People who do that stuff are miserable people.
@Legacy95. Fine. I wouldn't tolerate this In a serious relationship.
You're telling us you never once wondered about his dick or lips, or imagined a relationship with him? I call BS.
@Legacy95 In your case, you've grown up with this person. So the Westermarck effect is likely to play a role in your platonic friendship (if it TRULY is platonic without one of you having secret feelings for the other). However, in most cases, male and female "friends" did not grow up together. And that opens a door to problems. Men and women can RARELY be friends. Because most of the time, at least one has desire for the other. Most of the time, it is the guy. The astonishing thing is, that many women KNOW their male 'friends' desire and want to sleep with them. They are simply waiting for the right opportunity to "strike". That's why they are called ORBITERS. That's why they get into friendships with you, out of hope. But the females just brush it off and act they don't know because they LOVE the attention/validation they get from these men. They often also keep these so-called male "friends" as back-ups in case shit hits the fan with the main boyfriend.There are tons of relationships that ended in a train wreck because one of the two partners cheated with "the friend he/she told not to worry about". It's so common that it has become a stereotype and a meme. And I've found, seen and experienced that the relationships where no partner has "friends" of the opposite gender are the least likely to bring headaches and doubt when it comes to infidelity.
I have an ex who surrounded herself with male "friends" and she knew they were orbiters. And she knew that if she wanted to have a shot with me, she will have to cut them off. And she did. When I grew tired of her bullshit and ditched her, guess who she flocked back to? Not her female friends, but her old orbiters.No man in his right mind would date a woman who surrounds herself with male "friends". No man who is willing to invest in a relationship is going to date a woman who leaves a back-door open for potential problems. My girlfriend knows that if she seeks out male "friends", and she didn't have any when we met, she will risk losing me. Thankfully, she doesn't seek them out since she shares my perspective. Many people see this as "controlling" or "insecurity". This is a typical manipulation tactic to guilt trip a person just so you can have your way. Not falling for that. Because in reality, it means you don't accept bullshit and have standards.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
@TruthBringerThis one we can agree on.
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Bro! I hope everything works out. I hope she's not cheating. I hate to see a guy suffer.😔 I've been there.
Was the guy she cheated on him with hung too? Not saying you would have this information, of course, but I'm curious
Wow, that's interesting. Was he really handsome?
@RemoErdosain Far as I know he was just a skinny little dude that drank beer all the time. Nothing but beer and bones. And her husband was all pumped up and ripped. Her husband was 5'11 220 lbs ripped. Some girls just think they can get away with anything.
They can always lie about that too, so what's the point?
@RemoErdosain come on men don't lie about sensuality.
@Missycloak oh sweetheart, dont underestimate what a thirsty man is capable of doing for coochie
@AFellowWeeb Yeah, right?
@Missycloak Hahahaha yeah you're naive.
@Newhead Unbelievable. The fact you say that your husband "need" to get comfortable with a 'gay' best friend to come over clearly shows you lack respect and are inconsiderate to how your husband feels about you. That's called being selfish and not-wife material. If your husband sits there silently even though he isn't okay with it, then he is one of those weak men (aka beta male in general terms). I wish my girl would come in MY house with that attitude, but she wouldn't dare. One of the reasons why she loves being with me.
Precisely, girls with guy friends are often showing red flags. Let alone a best friend who is a guy. Literally any person who has dated a woman with male (best) friends has warned me not to date these chicks. And I've come to know why. This only validated their warnings even more.
@TruthBringer Yeah, those are good warnings they gave you. Definitely a bad idea to date a girl like that
Many more people are like this. Not putting their foot down in fear they come across as desperate, needy or controlling. But it's moments like these that one has to put their foot down. He shouldn't even have gotten with that girl, to begin with. I made it absolutely clear to my girlfriend that guy friends is unacceptable and I'm lucky that I got a girl who agrees. I have no female friends and she doesn't have guy friends. I've noticed that most successful relationships are like this. We all know so many cheating has sabotage has been done by the "friends" of the opposite gender.
@TruthBringer Absolutely correct.
Their ain't no foot being put down if she doesn't know from the gate what she is doing is weird af she getting left way to old for that highschool mentality shit
@Fuentes That's true. She was a no-go from the beginning
If you're going to act single, then BE single. No need to string someone along and have them sitting in doubts. With that mentality, it's best to remain single. There is something called compromise and communication. Two things that are crucial to maintain a healthy relationship. This girl clearly isn't right for him, and any person is right in their minds to have doubts when their "partner" is out with people you know nothing about. I guess with your logic it's safe to say that one can hang out with an an ex. Because an ex entered their life before you did. Which is absurd.
that's really funny
You’re literally stupid.
Beg your pardon?
Trust is not to be used as an excuse to go do whatever you want without any accountability. Also, if she respected her boyfriend she would communicate her whereabouts and make sure he was comfortable. It’s called respect. The fact that you lack that sense of accountability in a relationship is actually alarmingly stupid.
1. I never said it was an excuse. If you can’t trust your partner, then why would you stay with them? It’s logical to leave them. 2. Correct. But she doesn’t have to nor is he entitled to know where she is or who she’s hanging out with. 3. Maybe try talking instead of just insulting people. Tends to work, and has the added benefit of not immediately making you seem like a judgmental bitch. So, do you want to try that first contact over? Or are you going to keep digging a hole?
You’re wrong. #2. His IS entitled to know who she is hanging out with AND who she is with. I’ll call people out any day any time. You sound manipulative as hell and I don’t buy into it. This chick is clearly being a hoe, and has zero respect for her boyfriend. I have enough of a moral compass to realize that I have a relationship to honor, if something I do makes him uncomfortable and I do it anyway I am the one that should be held accountable. It has nothing to do with trust. Trust is only built through communication. But you can call me a judgmental bitch. Men in relationships need to be respected or there is NO love.
Actually I’m not wrong. She doesn’t belong to him, she is not property. Should he know? Absolutely. But he is not entitled to that information, she is entitled to a private personal life the same as anyone else. You can handle it however you wish, that’s your choice. She can handle it however she wishes, that’s her right. I will. Instead of talking to me like a grownup, you instead decide to jump into a post unwanted in order to insult me. That’s pretty damn judgmental hon.
So I’ll be awaiting the apology you owe for insulting me from the get go.
Then your words mean nothing without an apology for your abuse. So your response will be hidden until you grow the fuck up and act your age.
Still awaiting the apology. You can’t claim to be any way superior when you decide to insult strangers and refuse to own up to your own behavior.
As you said, do better.
I’m waiting for the apology you owe me for insulting me. If you want, I’ll even make you a deal. You apologize for calling me stupid and I’ll state that you are correct
Or you can just say I’m right because I know for a fact that I am, and stop trying to manipulate people.
Nope, that’s not how this works. I want my apology, so you give me that and I’ll concede. All it takes is one sentence from you, so take the high road. Or do you think it’s proper to just randomly insult people?
So do we have a deal?
I don’t insult people at random. I read what they have to say, before I condemn or praise them. If you truly have changed your mind, then I will say that you are not in fact stupid. Just misguided. In which case I take back calling you stupid.
Good I accept the apology.
Fair enough, you’re alright. I’m just so tired of seeing men walked over like doormats. They need to be uplifted a bit, women have emotionally beat the crap out of them and it’s sad.
Agreed they truly have. But I have to confess, I have not changed my mind on what I said but it is ok to disagree. That said, I fully believe we need to be more equal in society, and believe we are still entitled to our personal lives and private lives, and how we go about it all is determined by each individual as it should be. Hopefully we can reach a state where mutual love and respect is the norm and not the outlier.
So you lied, to get your way. That’s what I was talking about when I said you’re being manipulative. I’m not comfortable letting my husband be uncomfortable, because of shady behaviors. I would not be comfortable if he was okay with letting me be uncomfortable. Mutual respect is important, but secrecy has no place in a relationship. That is how trust fades. That is how respect is lost. That is how relationships fail. I have a duty to my husband, to be honorable, loving, communicative and respectful. A woman in a relationship with a man should know first and foremost that men value Respect more than they value love. That is how men stay in love. If those values are not being upheld, then what can anyone bring to the table in a long term relationship? Nothing.
Correct I did. I was owed an apology and I got what I wanted. But if it’s any consolation, I apologize for calling you a judgmental bitch. It was wrong of me to exchange insult for insult. That’s ok! :) like I said it’s ok to disagree on what we allow, believe or feel is right. We are all individuals with different beliefs and desires. I give my partners respect and their privacy, and I expect that same courtesy. I don’t demand to know where there at or with whom, that’s their business and I’ve no right to intrude. Now they can tell me and I’d appreciate it, but it’s not necessary for me. If I didn’t trust them, I wouldn’t be with them anyways.
I never did apologize. I said I would take back calling you stupid. If apologizing is how you interpret that then that’s up to you. However, I am not remorseful for calling you stupid, I said I would take it back on the precedents that perhaps you were misguided. But it seems even worse is that you are willing to be underhanded to get what you want and feel you deserve in life.
Good for me at least. Correct I will. Especially when it comes to matters of basic courtesy and respect. If someone insults me, I will demand my apology. If they won’t, I’ll find a way. But since you don’t seem to care about being civil, then you have my permission to go about your day.