Now a new girlfriend/ wife?

- Well that’s entirely up to you? Like I said the last time you asked this question, have you been to a rural Walmart on a Sunday afternoon? Some of the most jenky looking people... and they have KIDS!!! (So somebody is having sex with them). There is always somebody out there who wants love you. You just have to start treating ALL people with kindness dignity and respect, because you have NO IDEA who that person is, or when/where you will meet them! ESPECIALLY online, you have no idea whom you are actually talking to! Think about it... I treated you with kindness and respect. Then you told me to “FUCK OFF!!!” Did I retaliate? Did I treat you rudely, or dismissively? No, I just continued to treat you with kindness and respect when you said you said of me and another user “Y’all R So Stupid”, because you disagreed with my opinion as you did hers? did I do or say anything? No, did I block you, silence you, or ignore you? NO! I maintained my composure, and I simply ignored the insult, but I continued to interact with you. When you called me a “BITCH!” Granted, I was very upset! You are the first person to ever call me a bitch! But rather that allow a stranger to dictate my mood, I made a conscious decision NOT to ignore your insulting behavior, but to look past it, to maybe see if there is a decent person hiding behind the rude, derisive, and offensive mask? Let me try a small thought exercise. Imagine, by some amazing coincidence you and I lived In the same city. Or maybe you were in Orlando on vacation! Now, take that to the next level and imagine, that you saw me at the mall, and thought I was very attractive! I notice you looking at me and smiled at you. I was leaving that store, but you notice I’m going into a gift shop, on the other side of the mall, you think you would like to maybe say hello to me to see what happens, and follow me in to the gift shop. In the shop, I notice you, and say “Hi, what do you think” as I hold up the ugliest T-shirt you’ve ever seen. You ask “well that depends, is it for someone you don’t like?” I laugh flirtatiously “Hi, I’m CrazyGirl12” and hold out my hand, you reply “hey, I’m Anewme, nice to meet you” What do you think your chances are, once I discover that you are the FIRST PERSON EVER to call me a BITCH? Dude, you really NEVER know when and where you are going to meet your true soulmate, so why not treat everyone like they are, until AT LEAST such a time as can be determined that they are definitively NOT your true soulmate? Eh? It sure as hell couldn’t hurt. I mean what is the worst thing that would happen if you were polite to everyone? What’s the best thing? So, “new girlfriend / wife?” It truly depends almost entirely on you, but I will say one thing... as a woman, honestly? Your horrible languagey0|10|0Is this still revelant?
Ok first sorry. Ok.. Walmart... I go there all the time and see hot ladies... they say married or boyfriend already... after I pretend shy and be nice... usually works... jenky wow long time no hear... funny.. believe me I trust your saying it... Im in sa tx past 10 years by the way where its pretty unbalanced... anyways... i usually treat all.. I mean all... kind... just lately i feel like a nice dumb idiot because everybody else so pissed off i seem weird happy still... besides waisting a lot money online forget that... thnx so much for your compusure... its been so bad lately online and inperson with females... i also just didn't like your first answer sarcasm.. sorry... online chicks all want cash app and a lot... and first time ever? but your 18... but still... sorry no excuse obviously you are solid person... and my language bad that kinda hurts hun
I accept your apology, and thank you. As for “jerky”, that is one of my dads words! He comes up with the coolest stuff from the ‘80s like “grody”, “gnarley” “bodacious” and so on. We are building a ‘69 Camaro in the garage as a daddy / daughter project. And he tells the best stories while we’re working on the car! But just, spending time w/ him restoring cars is awesome! I love restoring cars w/ my dad! It is his hobby, and he reached out to me saying that he wanted to spend more time together. I used to help him as a little girl, but i pulled away when i was about 10! But It re-started when I was 13 and going through some very tough times, he bought an old Jeep CJ7 and my brother and I helped him restore it! That was so much fun, and i loved that Jeep so much that i actually wanted one. So when I was 15 my dad came home following a tow truck, on the back was a 1995 Jeep Wrangler, and woah was it JENKY! I asked him about the Jeep, and he said “it’s yours... or it WILL be when we’re done!” We spent almost every weekend for over 6 months and it was done! Oh, and i built the Chevy LT1 motor! Anyway, about women..., You don’t PRETEND to be shy and nice, just actually BE nice! Also, I’m curious how you approach women? More like why? What did she do that made you think she was interested? If you keep approaching women who tell you they are married, what kind of signs did she give you? Because if you keep coming on to uninterested women, you need to work on your social queues more. My mom always says “It may be THEM, but it may be YOU, and since the only thing you have control over is YOU, work on THAT!” Another thing she says is “If everyone you deal with is an asshole, the problem might just be you!”! Anyway, I have to get ready for school, I have less than an hour. Nice chatting, and I just wanted to say that I had a feeling that under all that machismo BS there might be a nice guy... Here’s to hoping I was right! Oh, and thanks again for the apology! Chat Later 👋
Oh your welcome... your stories are awesome too... cool cars stories seems like great dad daughter and bro team and mom advice... actually I'm great reader of character... just recently it seems most people pissed off and I'm not exactly desperate or needy for a lady it seems hurts me also... I get a lot more good luck... not real aholes... but I just feel no action I guess... kinda boring.. and for pretending to be nice I kinda exaggerated... Im usually always nice... I tried to be a bully a few times and didn't like it... light headed conscious I think you call it... I don't know I guess I just have unique story very few can relate to a lot... but I make a lot of people proud not so close people to long distance fam... i show doing well alone but... not having someone to share really sucks for me... my older bro... rip... i know we missed a lot on... and with no current girlfriend or wife i imagine all the Good Stuff a single man misses out on... I approach random and online but it seems like it just waiting on luck... geezzz
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I’m glad you like the things that I tell you, I guess it’s pretty important in any conversation that both people actually like what the other is saying. My brother actually only helped on that first Jeep, and for about half of the Mustang GT350 he didn’t help with anything on MY Jeep, and so far he hasn’t helped with the Camaro. I just consider that to be daddy / daughter thing. You are certainly right about people being upset most of the time, but with everything people are going through these days... well that’s completely understandable! So if you just approach women at “random”, then it’s no surprise that you are getting rejected so much. To most women, a stranger just walking up and asking us out, or commenting on our appearance seems creepy and can be quite frightening. You may mean to come across as sweet and endearing, but to most women, it just comes across as desperate. Nothing turns women off quite like desperation. I KNOW a that you SPECIFICALLY said that you are not desperate, but I’m just telling you how it LOOKS to women! Obviously I don’t speak for ALL women, nor do I believe that I know what ALL women want, think, or believe. But I am a woman, and all my friends are women, and with 18 years experience being female, and about 6 years experience talking to other females about men/boys, I clearly have a BETTER understanding of what women want, like, or go through regarding relationships, than a guy would. And honestly, if a guy just walks up and asks me out, or starts complementing me... it looks desperate. You have to wait for social queues, like a flirtatious smile, or if we look at you and touch our hair, these are social queues that we think you’re cute or something. That is our queue to you that “if you wanna come over here and say hello, I would like that”.PART 2
Also, you need to stop assuming that ALL women are lying when they tell you they have a boyfriend! Because I DO have a boyfriend and if someone just walked up to me and asked me out, I would say “oh, thanks but no!” However, if I saw a really cute guy, and maybe gave him a subconscious flirty smile, and HE walked up... I would tell him that I have a boyfriend! Because I want hime to know that he did everything correctly and if I WAS single, I would definitely say yes! Also not all women wear wedding rings. My mom never wears her wedding ring, because of her job! Now, IF she’s going out with my dad, or maybe out with friends, then she’ll wear it! This has been a terrible year! people are locked at home, even if they’re not, there’s nowhere to go in many places around the country! Also, because of CoVid and all the stress that 2020 wrought, it’s kinda like, if you didn’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend before all this started, then you’re just going to be single ’till this is all over! People just don’t want the added stress of a new relationship with all this BS going on! I know THIS because of my five best friends, FOUR just happened to be single at the beginning of this CoVid mess, and I went on my first date with my boyfriend on the first weekend of February 2020, by the second weekend of March we were fully engulfed with CoVid! So I was almost certainly gonna be single for all this time, if my boyfriend and I were not ALREADY getting serious BEFORE a all this happened!PART 3
As for the IQ question you asked me in a different post: IQ tests are either administered by an organization called MENSA, or by Psychiatrists. They are also often administered to kids in school. In fact, I once read that a good indicator of a person’s IQ being above average or high is whether you had advanced place English or advanced placement Math when you went to high school! Because although 8th graders are allowed to choose their 9th grade electives, the Math and English were chosen by the high school! Therefore, if you DO have a high IQ, they are likely to believe that you could easily handle the difficult studies of AP classes! Now this is by no means a sure thing, and it certainly does not tell you the score, but it is a start! Also, online “IQ” tests are NOT official and are WILDLY INACCURATE! They are often for amusement only and the IQ Scores are randomly generated! I have never understood why people even care about their score. IQ is one of the least determinative metrics of lifetime success! When you consider that most of the countries worst serial killers have extremely high IQ’s, it’s not exactly a “great” club to be a member of! Another thing w/having a very high IQ, that is a negative, is if you tell people you have a high IQ, they tend to believe that you think you are better than them, or you believe that you know MORE than them... either way people rarely react positively to hearing about it! Just something to think about!
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