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- No, I'm not that mean of a person.
So I'll be blunt: my exes were terrible in bed. I will not go into details since I don't want to take away from the question, but they didn't exactly please me.
Yes, I enjoyed being with them and it felt nice but... I'll put it this way: I could definitely go without sex. Yet I stayed with them.
Why? I liked them, they made me happy, and they were special to me. To me, the effort and intimacy are more important than a guy being "bad" in bed.
Besides, there's more to relationships than just sex- or I would hope people realize that. And if they're bad in bed, why not guide them or tell them what you want or how to satisfy you- you know, communication? I guarantee if they like you enough, they'll be willing to try different things or listen in order to please you.2|70|0Is this still revelant?Guide them? Is that what you did with your partners?
In my experience, women are excessively passive in bed. They want everything done to them, the man to by-default know what he's doing, then to just enjoy one way or another--if she enjoys it, awesome. If she doesn't enjoy it, hey, fine, she can sit back and play judge. Not that you're doing that, but it's common. But, also what you're saying.
One incident, I got with this new chick, and I couldn't get up all the way. She was totally fine with it, like "Meh, we had a good time; it's not all about the sex". Then I have to wonder... okay, what is it about? In specifically a one-night stand.
Did you ever tell them it could be better? If not, there was prolly a reason, yeah? Because you wouldn't wanna rock the boat, maybe doubly so knowing that men take their sexual prowess very seriously.
So, same thing, here. I'm a very generous lover; and, I follow all the strictures--touching, kissing, lots of foreplay [even when I wanna just stick it in and 1-2 pump], but my girlfriend...*shudder* *pains me*. And I *can't* say anything, because she outright says, "I don't want to hear anything about how I am in bed." Then cries if I mention, "Hey, could you, you know, not rip my penis apart?" [in nicer words]
Anyways. Did you try to communicate with them? If not, why?@ChurchOfSteel you should be able to communicate this with your partner tho, if you're not satisfied...
Some guys/girls prefer to give more
And some are more passive by nature or by lack of experience.
So it's always to communicate your wants and be honest about yourself.
At least that's what I try to do 😅
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- I may. I swear. Before my girl, I didn't think women could be bad in bed. How hard is it? You lay there and take it... Pussy feels good no matter what.
Okay, retracted. My girl used so much suction, it was painful. She literally ripped my frenulem, trying to pull back my foreskin. When that happens, scar tissue grows over it, makes it less stretchy, makes it more apt to tear again.
My girl is literally so bad in bed, she made me incapable of fucking hard. Her baddness literally made me worse in bed, permenantly.
Ever ripped a frenulem? Most painful shit in the world. Took 3 weeks to fully heal, and I could barely take a piss.
Then... she also starfished for a good while. She acted like it was a joke.
Ladies. Never--I mean never--joke in bed. It's not a laughing matter--it's sexy, sensual, serious, seductive. Not a god damn joke.
Right, she laughs at improper moments. Takes me totally out of the mood.
She will, also, never get me hard. She just lays there and expects to be taken care of, then acts surprised when I can't get it up when she wants only missionary in the dark. The most boring shit in the world. Because she's "self-conscious". She's better with that, now, because it would be a total dealbreaker, otherwise.
And you may say, "Well, Church, maybe if you were a better communicator, you could tell her this, so she could actually do better."
Yes. This is what makes her THE WORST in bed. I can't do that. If I mention anything regarding her performance in bed, she will literally break down and start crying perpetually. Endless tears. I can do nothing. I have tried: as gently as possible. She won't have it. I can't even suggest or point out stuff in t. v., subtely. She gets it, then starts crying.
She is, quite literally, the anti-seductress. You know the Succubus? She's the anti-Succubus.
Like. Whew.2|00|0Is this still revelant? 
Anonymous11 dNo, but I came close once.
We dated for several months before she agreed that we were ready to be intimate. When we got in her bedroom, got undressed, and got in bed, she says, "I have never had an orgasm with someone else and I'm tired of trying so just hop on and do whatever you want and then tell me when you're finished."
She broke up with me because I didn't have enough money to please her. She is still single and not dating. I know because she called me recently to ask for help with something.
I know this sounds absurd but every word is true!0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- No... because is it just that they're horrible🤔cuz it does take two for good sex to happen. Where practice, communication come in handy. If sex stays horrible, that's more someone don't really care enough about their partner, or the relationship to work the kinks out (pun intended 🙂)0|40|0Is this still revelant?
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1632- That wasn't the only reason but a part of it. Only an alpha does that with an abundance mindset.0|01|0
- Sounds like a really stupid reason to dump someone. If the quality of your sex life is what you're prioritizing you should stick to friends with benefits. You can't say that you have the capacity to truly love your S. O if you are also willing to dump them over their performance in the bedroom.1|10|0
- Yes- not because of inexperience, this is different. And I wouldn’t say lousy is the right word, but sexually incompatible. I think sexual compatibility is very important as I think it connects to other aspects of how we are compatibile as two humans and communicating in ways with our bodies and minds. Sex is beautiful.
Maybe I’m just horny and happy to be with a guy I crave sex with, I dunno, but I think good sex is essential to a good relationship and connection with someone. And the ways you can learn about the other through sex! Ugh I just think it’s so exciting and fun.
Also, life’s just too short for lousy sex.1|10|0 - I've never dumped someone because of bad sex. But then again, I'm the person who mostly does the work. Women are extremely passive in bed so I enjoy it because of my own skills. And they do too.0|00|0
- I know women who have dumped guys for trying to get them to do things they don’t like even hate. However, I can say I haven’t dumped anyone for being lousy. I’ve only slept with 4 ladies and had feelings for all of them. We had great sex because we both understood boundaries. So it was a lot of fun for both.0|00|0
- I've never been in that situation in a romantic relationship. I would dump them if they aren't interested in improvement. No sense in being with someone who doesn't want to please me the right way.0|00|0
- I don't see how you answer (no) sex is huge if your partner isn't where you are you with either have a bag of dildos or side piece. Intimacy , passion all the feelings leading up to sex are you going to have those feelings when prior you know you'll be finishing yourself off0|00|0
- Definitely. That's why it's important to sleep with a new partner as quick as possible so you can find out before it's too late.1|22|12
What if he had whiskey dick from too much fireball so he couldn’t get hard, but he still ate your ass and pussy the whole night and made you squirt 4 times? (this literally happened to me 2 weeks ago)
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@warrenstone Yeha and then find out you got pumped and dumped. It's "advice" like this that puts (young) women on the wrong path and cause them self-esteem issues simply because they had been mislead from the truth. No guy with hgh level of self-esteem will invest in a girl who was easy to get into bed.
- Anonymous11 dNo, but she did gave horrible bjs, unadventurous in sex. It became more of a routine even after I've communicated. Always the same positions. Nothing experimental at all but at least I got to give her creampies. Those were amazing. Its just part and parcel of being with a girl who doesn't watch porn so she has no sense of curiosity to try new things.0|00|0
- I haven't, but if I had to be honest, I might. Sex is important to me. It's part of chemistry. I'm okay as long as they're willing to communicate, improve and listen, but if they have no intention or desire to get better or try stuff that I want to do, it really turns me off. It creates a toxic feeling of always wanting more.1|00|0
- No, but I've also never been in a relationship with a girl i didn't sleep with first. Barring my girlfriend in high-school.0|00|0
- Most decent humans enjoy life more than just a hot time!!! Sex isn’t a requirement of a great life! Although sex is a good thing, there are other things that make life complete and fulfilled!!!0|40|1
- I have dumped for a lot of reasons but never that one.2|40|0
- Its never happened to me, but if they were bad in bed yes I'd definitely break up. Sexual compatibility is very important.0|00|0
- absolutly not! im pansexual so i mainly go on personality instead of attrection or sex appel when it comes to realationships. i just think that it would be extremly rude to make a guy feel like shit (by breaking up with him), when he's trying his best to pleasure you. and personaly i would just masturbate in front of him (when your comfortable of course) and just have sex with him aswell that way he knows how to please you in the same way you please yourself...1|20|1
- No, thats something that can be developed and modified over time, compatibility is most important. If you meet a girl, to be indelicately blunt, is a wild animal in sack from day one then is that a good thing? Might be a bad sign.0|00|0
- No.
Good sex is matter of mutual attitude and motivation, sometimes there is no point to make any efforts in bedroom if it's only one time thing.0|00|0 - No but I should have. Would've saved me years of compounded troubles.0|00|0
- I dont want to have sex with many in life. So if it sucks, we’ll just have to do all kinds of tricks til it turns out right1|20|1
- I have never done that to anyone, but i have had that happen to me once0|00|0
- Dude, you're crazy. Meg Ryan would never be horrible in the sack.0|00|0
- I can't say I have experienced that, so no.
The only thing I have experienced was kissing a girl who was absolutely terrible at french kissing.0|00|0 - Yes I have.
He showed me a pic of his pee wee (I didn't ask for)
And when we had sex, he was limp, small, and not even 2 inches.
His fingers did better. Tuhhhhhhh0|00|1 - No... i dumped them for their words and behaviour.. not for such issues. Words and behaviour are more important factors to me.1|40|0
Anonymous11 dNot just that alone though, but because the chemistry had gone mentally too.0|00|0- No that's harsh. You can always teach them to be better.0|00|0
- Who wouldn't especially if you're a man and woman can't give a good BJ. Lol0|00|0
- girl;s lie, at least I was honest with my girlfriend, all before my brain injury, she married the new guy, MY loss0|11|0
- It’s scary that a such a high percentage of women voted yes on this.1|30|0
What did you expect? One of the top reasons why women cheat is because they lack satisfaction in bed.
- One guy came as soon as he entered me. Never saw him again after that.0|10|1
- nope becuase I never have sex and waiting until I find the right man for me.0|40|0
- Yes and no. Bad sex was disappointing but he started to act like a bitch so I ended it0|00|1
- Not specifically, but it turned out they weren't so interesting out of the sack either, so no reason to hand around!1|00|0
- Not for that, but I have for her having no interest in sex.1|00|0
- Anonymous12 dAs a guy I dont care how skilled a woman is in bed. I like it when they want to learn and improve but I dont have any expectation that they are skilled like a porn star. I only care about being with a girl that I am attracted to.1|00|0
- It's fun to learn together... if she sucks at bed than I'll teach her because love comes first.2|10|0
- Not proud of it, but yes I have.0|00|0
- Yes if she want try to make it better fuck that BS. .
God Bless0|01|0 - Nope not for that anyway I'm happy to report lol0|00|0
- Anonymous12 di thought you were removed from gag?0|00|0
- Yep.0|00|0
Sex isn't everything, but it is one important thing. If we can't have good sex we might as well be friends instead of lovers.
- I just let them lay there I did all the work1|00|0
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