Have you ever dumped someone because they were horrible in the sack?

[Cynicaldreamer]

No, I'm not that mean of a person.

So I'll be blunt: my exes were terrible in bed. I will not go into details since I don't want to take away from the question, but they didn't exactly please me.
Yes, I enjoyed being with them and it felt nice but... I'll put it this way: I could definitely go without sex. Yet I stayed with them.

Why? I liked them, they made me happy, and they were special to me. To me, the effort and intimacy are more important than a guy being "bad" in bed.

Besides, there's more to relationships than just sex- or I would hope people realize that. And if they're bad in bed, why not guide them or tell them what you want or how to satisfy you- you know, communication? I guarantee if they like you enough, they'll be willing to try different things or listen in order to please you.

[ChurchOfSteel]

I may. I swear. Before my girl, I didn't think women could be bad in bed. How hard is it? You lay there and take it... Pussy feels good no matter what.

Okay, retracted. My girl used so much suction, it was painful. She literally ripped my frenulem, trying to pull back my foreskin. When that happens, scar tissue grows over it, makes it less stretchy, makes it more apt to tear again.

My girl is literally so bad in bed, she made me incapable of fucking hard. Her baddness literally made me worse in bed, permenantly.

Ever ripped a frenulem? Most painful shit in the world. Took 3 weeks to fully heal, and I could barely take a piss.

Then... she also starfished for a good while. She acted like it was a joke.

Ladies. Never--I mean never--joke in bed. It's not a laughing matter--it's sexy, sensual, serious, seductive. Not a god damn joke.

Right, she laughs at improper moments. Takes me totally out of the mood.

She will, also, never get me hard. She just lays there and expects to be taken care of, then acts surprised when I can't get it up when she wants only missionary in the dark. The most boring shit in the world. Because she's "self-conscious". She's better with that, now, because it would be a total dealbreaker, otherwise.

And you may say, "Well, Church, maybe if you were a better communicator, you could tell her this, so she could actually do better."

Yes. This is what makes her THE WORST in bed. I can't do that. If I mention anything regarding her performance in bed, she will literally break down and start crying perpetually. Endless tears. I can do nothing. I have tried: as gently as possible. She won't have it. I can't even suggest or point out stuff in t. v., subtely. She gets it, then starts crying.

She is, quite literally, the anti-seductress. You know the Succubus? She's the anti-Succubus.

Like. Whew.

[Anonymous]

No, but I came close once.

We dated for several months before she agreed that we were ready to be intimate. When we got in her bedroom, got undressed, and got in bed, she says, "I have never had an orgasm with someone else and I'm tired of trying so just hop on and do whatever you want and then tell me when you're finished."

She broke up with me because I didn't have enough money to please her. She is still single and not dating. I know because she called me recently to ask for help with something.

I know this sounds absurd but every word is true!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No... because is it just that they're horrible🤔cuz it does take two for good sex to happen. Where practice, communication come in handy. If sex stays horrible, that's more someone don't really care enough about their partner, or the relationship to work the kinks out (pun intended 🙂)

[Apope16]

That wasn't the only reason but a part of it. Only an alpha does that with an abundance mindset.

[slackbabbath]

Yes- not because of inexperience, this is different. And I wouldn’t say lousy is the right word, but sexually incompatible. I think sexual compatibility is very important as I think it connects to other aspects of how we are compatibile as two humans and communicating in ways with our bodies and minds. Sex is beautiful.

Maybe I’m just horny and happy to be with a guy I crave sex with, I dunno, but I think good sex is essential to a good relationship and connection with someone. And the ways you can learn about the other through sex! Ugh I just think it’s so exciting and fun.

Also, life’s just too short for lousy sex.

[Twinrova]

Sounds like a really stupid reason to dump someone. If the quality of your sex life is what you're prioritizing you should stick to friends with benefits. You can't say that you have the capacity to truly love your S. O if you are also willing to dump them over their performance in the bedroom.

[TruthBringer]

I've never dumped someone because of bad sex. But then again, I'm the person who mostly does the work. Women are extremely passive in bed so I enjoy it because of my own skills. And they do too.

[Shuttlebus78]

I know women who have dumped guys for trying to get them to do things they don’t like even hate. However, I can say I haven’t dumped anyone for being lousy. I’ve only slept with 4 ladies and had feelings for all of them. We had great sex because we both understood boundaries. So it was a lot of fun for both.

[courtney06]

I've never been in that situation in a romantic relationship. I would dump them if they aren't interested in improvement. No sense in being with someone who doesn't want to please me the right way.

[pie-filler]

I don't see how you answer (no) sex is huge if your partner isn't where you are you with either have a bag of dildos or side piece. Intimacy , passion all the feelings leading up to sex are you going to have those feelings when prior you know you'll be finishing yourself off

[purplepoppy]

Definitely. That's why it's important to sleep with a new partner as quick as possible so you can find out before it's too late.

[Anonymous]

No, but she did gave horrible bjs, unadventurous in sex. It became more of a routine even after I've communicated. Always the same positions. Nothing experimental at all but at least I got to give her creampies. Those were amazing. Its just part and parcel of being with a girl who doesn't watch porn so she has no sense of curiosity to try new things.

[HawkPerception]

I haven't, but if I had to be honest, I might. Sex is important to me. It's part of chemistry. I'm okay as long as they're willing to communicate, improve and listen, but if they have no intention or desire to get better or try stuff that I want to do, it really turns me off. It creates a toxic feeling of always wanting more.

[rjroy3]

No, but I've also never been in a relationship with a girl i didn't sleep with first. Barring my girlfriend in high-school.

[Mt808]

Most decent humans enjoy life more than just a hot time!!! Sex isn’t a requirement of a great life! Although sex is a good thing, there are other things that make life complete and fulfilled!!!

[Nikki1989]

I have dumped for a lot of reasons but never that one.

[Oram52]

Its never happened to me, but if they were bad in bed yes I'd definitely break up. Sexual compatibility is very important.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont want to have sex with many in life. So if it sucks, we’ll just have to do all kinds of tricks til it turns out right

[DirtyLemon]

absolutly not! im pansexual so i mainly go on personality instead of attrection or sex appel when it comes to realationships. i just think that it would be extremly rude to make a guy feel like shit (by breaking up with him), when he's trying his best to pleasure you. and personaly i would just masturbate in front of him (when your comfortable of course) and just have sex with him aswell that way he knows how to please you in the same way you please yourself...

[RenoHT]

No, thats something that can be developed and modified over time, compatibility is most important. If you meet a girl, to be indelicately blunt, is a wild animal in sack from day one then is that a good thing? Might be a bad sign.

[yofuknutz]

Nancy Hernandez the only good thing about her is that she was fixed

[AffectionKing]

Nope communication is key and try to work with them!

[pervertedjester]

No but I should have. Would've saved me years of compounded troubles.