Is it a red flag if a woman you are dating invites you to her place but abruptly cancels because she is "tired"? Bad if happens more than once?

Question

Yes

No

Select age and gender to cast your vote:

GirlGuy

Updates:

1 mo

Here is the update to the question.

I met with her tonight. She said she invited me for wine and changed her mind 30 minutes later because she truly was tired. That night she also asked me to pick up furniture for her because she was thinking of a different day (not that same night). She said she wants to date me exclusively and she isn't seeing anyone. It was canceling to be with a guy. She says I was jumping to conclusions and being an asshole.

Answer 1

TruthBringer | 264 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

If Chad or yrone were to visit, somehow she is all energized. Ditch the bitch. The fact she is inconsiderate of your time should already be a dealbreaker. But someone who cancels plans with you clearly shows they aren't interested. And "being tired" is no excuse

Apope16

1 mo
I got a new job offer. She doesn't really congratulate me via text until later at night. She says she's happy for me and asks me to stop by her place like usual for a glass of wine. She wants to hear all about it. I suggest 9pm because I had a few errands. She said thats too late. She wants to sleep early. So I suggest to hang out at 7pm (its 545pm when I say this). She replies by a asking if I can pick up furniture for her several miles away and drop it off. Then she says she's tired. I can't sleep over this time.

Thoughts?
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 Mate... she is playing you for a fool. Now she wants you to do favors for her? Typical behavior of a woman who wants boyfriend energy without the need to give up the coochie. DITCH HER. Have some bloody self-respect. You're 33 for fucks sake. These things should already be obvious to you. Make your standards clear. I've dealt with a girl I was "friends" with when I was 20. I cut contact with her for some time and she reached out to me trying to put me back in the friendzone. I declined and guess who wanted to sleep with me. Now I'm not saying this will happen with you too. But what you should do is grab your balls and bail from this girl. Replace her with some other chick.
Apope16

1 mo
I ditched her today. I told her i was dating other girls... but now she wants to make me food again. Im trying to swing her as an friends with benefits while i date.
Show All Show Less
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 See? Women like her are extremely predictable. She panicked from the inside and is trying to get you back in her pocket. She has to know that there has to be sex involved for you to remain in touch with her
Apope16

1 mo
Absolutely. I've told her that point blank. She all of a sudden today said she wants to make me pizza and show me the new lingerie she bought. She begged to see me this weekend. I said i was busy. She said, "im free the whole weekend. You can't see me at all?" I bvb told her i had plans and scheduled to chat at her place Monday. The truth is my new girl who is hotter is coming to my place for date#2 in Sunday. She is bringing wine and hotter. We kisses on date 1... so... im busy this weekend...
Apope16

1 mo
Sorry about my typos. New girl is bringing wine and is hotter. The girl that canceled has been blowing up my phone since she canceled. Every day.
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 Damn bro, you're doing a fine job. Tell the old girl that you'll let her know and focus on the new one. In the end, you're not attached to anyone so unless you're officially in a relationship, you're allowed to sleep with whomever you like. When the new girl is away, you can bang the other one at the side
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 The power of walking away is always underestimated. Gotta love the reverse psychology when dealing with women. I've never lost when I walked away from girls. I'd either never hear from them again or they try to reel me back in and I'll be having my way. Both outcomes are in my favor. And you can see it's working out for you aswel
Apope16

1 mo
Yes. That is the plan. But keep in mind the red flag girl and I were not in an "official" relationship. I told her I didn't want to make things official yet. I even said I was open minded about dating other people. She was jealous asking me if I was with anyone and such. She is very worried about covid because her mom has cancer. so... she may not be fucking around. I dont know. She has shown signs of flakey behavior and lack of interest in other ways. I think it is bipolar stuff.

Anyway, I just dont trust red flag girl. She keeps texting me but I will make it clear that I have no interest in a forever project with her. That we are for romancing and sex. That is it. No texting buddy or friendzone stuff either. The other girl I am dating who is the instagram model is the one I will date for long term purposes. I go with the flow and will have fun with both until things are more established with the new girl. Then I fade red flag girl off. But she seems a bit crazy and has been messaging me non stop even after I told her I was seeing other girls and pissed off at her. Red flag girls attitutde has change MASSIVELY. its like an abuse cycle or a female narcissist.
TruthBringer

1 mo
Ah yes, the typical 2020 excuse. Covid. I'm not buying it. She is jealous because she is scared to lose her source of attention/validation. Aka losing her narcissistic supply. Yeah ditch her. Last thing a man needs is some crazy bitch who will eventually accuse you of all kinds of crap
Apope16

1 mo
YOu might be right. Yeah she is leaning heavy into narcissistic supply. Even after I told her that I am pissed at her and seeing other chics now because of what she did... she keeps sending me pictures and love bombing messages every day.
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 Yeah I'd stay the fuck away from her. Watch her get mad at you and spam you with hateful messages next. People like her are predictable as fuck
Apope16

1 mo
thanks bro.
KrakenAttackin

1 mo
@Apope16. Good man! She was trying to lock you into being an orbiting beta. You passed her major shit test.
KrakenAttackin

1 mo
She's either really high maintenance or she is banging other guys. Either one is a hard pass for me.
Apope16

1 mo
@KrakenAttackin @TruthBringer So i saw her. We talked about it. We had sex. She still says she just changed her mind and was tired. she's not with other guys. She said that is based on my insecurity. She is pissed that i started dating and slept with another woman as a vf response.🤷🏾‍♂️
TruthBringer

1 mo
@Apope16 Lmfao just smash and leave. If I were you, I wouldn't even care what she thinks of me nor that she gets mad that I date other girls. As long as you're not with er exclusively, she has no say to your love life. As logn as you make it clear to her she's nothing more but a friends with benefits, it is up to her to want to agree to it or not.

Is it a red flag if a woman you are dating invites you to her place but abruptly cancels because she is "tired"? Bad if happens more than once?

Most Helpful Guys

Most Helpful Girls

What Girls & Guys Said

Related myTakes