Is it a red flag if a woman you are dating invites you to her place but abruptly cancels because she is "tired"? Bad if happens more than once?

[Apope16]

Yes

Vote A

No

Vote B

Updates:

1 y

Here is the update to the question.

I met with her tonight. She said she invited me for wine and changed her mind 30 minutes later because she truly was tired. That night she also asked me to pick up furniture for her because she was thinking of a different day (not that same night). She said she wants to date me exclusively and she isn't seeing anyone. It was canceling to be with a guy. She says I was jumping to conclusions and being an asshole.

[TruthBringer]

If Chad or yrone were to visit, somehow she is all energized. Ditch the bitch. The fact she is inconsiderate of your time should already be a dealbreaker. But someone who cancels plans with you clearly shows they aren't interested. And "being tired" is no excuse

[slatyb]

Have you actually had dates? How many? How long after did you meet? I would ask her what's really going on. Have you had sex? Maybe she wants to but it's anxious about it.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I mean, it could be. Maybe in the moment she wants you to come over but after a long day she isn't in the mood. I do that a lot. She could also have depression or something weighing her down mentally and emotionally.

[pleasestopthis]

She doesn't take you seriously, just ditch her. Time is too valuable to waste it on an inconsiderate jerk.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

If you are excited to spend time with someone, being tired doesn't change that. She could fall asleep in your arms if she's tired and still spend time with you. It's a bullshit excuse and she's blowing you off.

On your update - it honestly sounds like she's gaslighting you. Big red flag. Detach emotionally and maybe see where it goes, but if you really like her, you are in for some hurt.

[iseekpinetrees]

Not a red flag to cancel. But if it happens multiple times yes.

[SandandWaves]

well, she isn'ttired thats for sure. it is something else cause just because someone is tired doesn't mean we can't still be together.

[Sessy]

You're concerned that she is losing interest because she changed her mind

[megzs16]

Yes definitely a red flag 1. Because it shows she may be a flake. 2. It shows she doesn't care about your time 3. She could be making excuses because she had other plans

[QuestionMark19]

Yes. Only give people 2 chances, bro.
You're 33. You should know this by now.

[bobalife]

Oh no, it’s a bad sign and pattern... I hope you find a better chick who will keep her words and make time!

[Pete671]

The lady maybe has her period, which apparently comes on suddenly, but not unexpected, I would make a note of dates,,,

[Adam1978]

Yes that sounds like a booty call going out to multiple partners and you wasn't the top choice that said yes.

[MysteriousDarkness]

A good girl with a bad girl streak. One who can be modest at times and sexy other tines with a naughtiness behind closed doors. In other words my girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is just waiting for her herpes to clear up.

[chHaynes]

Personally I would get to the bottom of why she did that more than twice I say that because two times is yeah I find what's going on

[nella965]

i think a bigger red flag is a man who goes online and writes long hateful rants about women.

[ETfoneh0me101]

Means she prob isn't in to you or she has bad anxiety. Could go either way.

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes. It means she has a better offer and you are just a second tier cock.

[cth96190]

Yes, it means that Chad will visit her that night.

[Anonymous]

What this means is that she had another guy over. Dump her.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't happen more than once. Because the next time she invited me i would have an excuse why i couldn't.

[LeoElias]

I would think she isn't that much into sex.

[Agem123]

Experiment 645 visited her maybe😂