She says that I need to have friends who are "more like me" and "in the same socioeconomic class". This is her excuse for why I can't hang out with some of my friends. There's nothing wrong with the parents, just that they don't have a lot of money and one of my friend's parents have tattoos.
I try to explain to her that those aren't bad things, but she doesn't understand. I even tell her that if something bad were to happen, I could just drive myself home (I have a car), but she won't listen. It puts me in an awkward position when friends invite me over and I don't have an excuse to say no. What should I do? I'm sixteen if that's important.
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Your mom is actually right. But not for the reasons you think. It's got nothing to do with "something bad happening".
This is really hard to explain, because it involves some truths about the world that frankly, you're not ready to believe at 16.
I really hate doing this, because so many kids just won't listen when an adult or a parent says "Just because" and can't explain further. Or worse "Trust me on this" and won't say any more.
I can just say that I was in a similar position as yourself, around the same age. And I didn't listen to the good advice of my own parents either, and had to find out the hard way what it was they were trying to tell me, but couldn't.
Your mother is right on this. It's not snobbery. It's not class fear. It's not the fear that you'll wind up doing drugs or getting into trouble. It's something you haven't even considered, because it's not in your realm of experience yet. And at 16, you still think there's nothing outside your realm of experience that you don't at least know something about. You think there's no more shattering insights like "There's no santa" left to be made.
But there are. Trust me on this.0