Is it okay to be friends with a guy who's rejected you twice?

[Cynicaldreamer]

First off, let me say I'm impressed you asked out a guy twice, especially after being rejected once. I couldn't do it; not even going to lie.

He's made it very clear he's only interested in you as a friend, particularly with the, "friend for lifetime" part. Yeah, that's a nice way of saying you're not leaving the friendzone.
Once a person sees you as a friend, it's very hard to get them to see you in a romantic sense. So if you're hoping for more than a friendship down the road, or for him to change his mind the more time he spends with you? Not likely.

Yes, I'm speaking from experience- just trust me on this and heed my warning.

With that being said, is it okay to be friends with someone that rejected you? Sure. Would I recommend it? NO. If you're able to detach any romantic feelings you have for him and only see him as a friend? Which isn't going to happen right away- then maintain your friendship.

However, if you still have feelings for him, it's going to be hard spending time with him, talking to him, only to never have him in the way you want him. Plus keep in mind he's going to eventually start dating other women, assuming he's not already. Are you going to be okay with that and not get jealous or upset knowing he's with another woman? Picture that and ask yourself can you just be friends with him and not get upset...
If the answer is no, then I suggest you back away from the friendship.

Of course he wants to be friends with you, but it's not fair to you! You won't be able to move on with your life if you can't get over him. And if he's any real friend, he will understand that.

[btbc92]

He wants to be your friend. You shouldn't cut ties. Anybody who says that and there is no logical reason to are selfish people. That's why they don't have friends or healthy relationships. You never know, maybe in the future. But you are desperate as hell for something you lack within yourself. LOVE. But you've been very selfish and you need to learn what real love is. You don't know that because you too caught up with an idea of a relationship when you don't even know how to respect the man you claim you desire. Learn to be his friend. Because if this is how you treat men, watch how men treat you.

[Nawlins34]

No, it isn't okay.

1.) If a guy tells a woman he's not interested in her, that's the kiss of death to a romantic future, it's not happening.

2.) You have ulterior motives; you're not trying to be a friend, you want more than that.

3.) "People say that I must cut ties with him for my good." -I agree. You're not going to "grow" onto him. ESPECIALLY if #1 has occurred.

4.) If you think about it, you're actually being selfish here. You're invalidating his wishes and you don't care for the boundaries he's setting for himself or any chance of a real friendship.
Your actions say you don't really care about him, this is about you at this point.

"Friends" don't do things like this.

You asked, I answered. I hope I helped. Be safe and good luck.

[AdithyaR]

Well there's s few things to consider.
1. He seems to want to be friends, he doesn't see you in a romantic way and probably never will.
2. You're totally allowed to do what you want. If you wanna stay friends do it, or break ties.
3. Put your own feelings as the first priority. If being friends with him now cause you pain cause you're not over him, don't stay. You won't be able to maintain a healthy relationship if you're constantly wishing for more. If you think you can handle it and genuinely want to stay friends, then do it. But don't do it with the hope that maybe someday he'll change his mind. Your first priority must be moving on and getting over him.

[Anonymous]

If you continue trying, he will continue saying no because honestly, you look desperate. Desperation is a turn off. You can continue being friends with him if you want but you need to stop trying to force yourself on to him because he will more than likely always say no. Not only that but if you continue to push him, he will probably end the friendship himself. I know that when my old best friend told me he was in love with me I didn't mind. I stayed friends with him. It wasn't until he started acting like a jealous, territorial boyfriend that I cut ties with him because my mental state wasn't worth risking over his feelings. Worry about yourself.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

You're going to have to just STAY FRIENDS WITH HIM or DROP HIM as your friend.

He has made it clear that he isn't interested in you romantically. You either have to accept it like a grown woman & remain his friend while working on moving on, or you drop him as your friend & don't have anything more to do with him, resulting in splitting the friend group you are in.

[pajamasam]

Don't beat yourself up for asking twice. Pat yourself on the back for being brave enough to ask twice.

Also you should be friends with him. Crushes come and go, but you could approach the friendship as a learning opportunity take notes he is a man after all you can learn more about men from him and use that knowledge the next time you ask a guy out

[RJJ33666]

Well, their is no issue in being friends with someone who rejected you twice. But it can hurt you in more than you think. I mean, you are friends with him but he is interested in other woman while you are still holding feelings for him. It's not healthy and I recommend not to be friends, otherwise your feelings can be affected badly, I mean very badly.

[Twalli]

Stay friends. You can maintain a lifelong friendship with a guy or girl you fancy even if it isn't mutual. I have a major crush on a friend of mine and we will probably never be together romantically (although to be fair I haven't confessed to her). Nevertheless, she brightens up my day every time I see her and that's enough for me.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

No means No 😑.

It's ok in life things happen like this, but if has said no twice it would leave you two options either cut ties, or just be distant from him for a while try to seek and bond with someone else.

First crush or love is hard to forget I get it no one can take there place as you know there are 4 Chambers in heart hence love can happen multiple times try to search someone who appreciates your love and gives if back to you the way you like.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be friends with him because I feel like it might always give you the thought that there may be hope for you two. There MIGHT be but I think it would be hard to stand by and wait and possibly even see him date or pursue other women.
I’ve noticed from experience that if a guy wanted you (even a little), you will know. He will make sure you know and won’t let you hang around as just a friend.

[shade_19]

Ya, for ur good
Not permanently but for some time
Do cut ties , find ur inner self
Go and cry in a room
Isolate urself for some days
Maybe go make more friends, see if u meet someone who makes u feel complete (that is with that person u don't feel the need to have anyone else)
And go back be friends again qith the guy who rejected u
No hard feelings for him by ur side

[abfabvictoria]

Nah, what’s the point of communicating with him? It just pulls off the scab of your feelings each time you talk to him. Some relationships die, usually for the best.

[VanillaSalt]

In some places like the UK and very possibly in the USA you can be arrested for that. Harassment if they bend the law a lot and in the UK it’s considered a hate crime if it’s a man to a woman.

[sheikalana]

Yes, if he wants to be friends with you if not just respect his wishes you should never force someone to be by your side.

[Espresso-Grande]

If he's a good friend, it would be a shame to cut ties with him. I wouldn't let rejection stand in the way of a good friendship.

[Anonymous]

If you can see him as a friend only - yes, you can. If you want to date him - you can’t keep having him as you friend

[ITGirl95]

If you are okay with being friends and not expecting anything else I don’t see why not

[romeo_and_cats]

Dude, guys sense that creepiness like Jedis of Star Wars sense The Force

[Wise4myage]

If his rejection is holding you back from moving on with your dating life, than you need to cut ties and move on.

[JosyJosy]

Yes, just move on, so he doesn't have to reject you again

[AmeerX]

You can be friends but never think about letting him use you as a side chick unless you like being that

[Dinosaursandanime65]

If you can’t enlarge your S. D. B. N, then you probably should cut the circuit between you both.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Not if you're just going to try to get with him again.

[Waldoe]

if you CANNOT respect his wishes, you do not really care about him, you are just selfish, so stay away from him.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't like you leave him for good. ur being played.

[boggboss]

If u can get over him sure

[Blackmamba67]

It is okay but why would you want to?

[ItsTheNephilim]

Nope.

[Iron_Man]

Bad idea it’s over

[COMMODOREII]

Hell no!!

[In_Trance]

What's the point?

[Teenybop]

I wouldn’t.

[msc545]

Cut ties with him