What are reasons a guy says he doesn't want a relationship?

Question

Is it another way of saying he doesn't like you enough or could there be another genuine reason?

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He got out of an 11-year relationship about 5 months ago

Answer 1

Skankhunt | 396 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Reasons:
1. Fear of rejection
2. Fear of being cheated on
3. Fear of being used
4. Fear of your girlfriend will leave you
5. Fear of not being really loved
6. Fear of losing your freedom
7. Fear of being unhappy in a relationship/marriage
8. Fear of wasting your time with the wrong woman
9. Fear of being trapped
10. Not wanting to be stuck paying alimony
11. Fear of not being understood
12. Fear of abuse
13. Fear of intimacy
14. fear of commitment
15. Fear of being vulnerable with your girlfriend
16. Fear of being hurt emotionally
17. Fear of not being treated seriously
18. Trust issues
19. They fear their girlfriend will use their weaknesses against them or will it to someone else
20. Dating is exhausting
21. Men are exhausted
22. Men don't want desperate girlfriends
23. Men don't want superficial girlfriends
24. Men feel like women are not their priority
25. Bad experiences in relationships
26. Men feel like women have high unrealistic expectations
27. Men feel like they don't need women
28. Having a relationship/marriage is not always fun
29. Men are afraid of not being respected
30. Men feel like women take them for granted
31. Men don't want to deal with manipulative girlfriends
32. Men fear they will be used for their money
33. Online dating feels like browsing through a catalog for a girlfriend (feels unpersonal) Online dating stress, girls won't reply back and therefore feeling like you are wasting your time.
34. Not wanting to be in a relationship
35. You like your freedom
36. You don't have time for relationships
37. Men don't want to waste their time on dating and relationships
38. They feel like woman are a waste of time
39. Men want to do their own things without having a girlfriend
40. Women can make a big scene over nothing
41. Men don't want to deal with fights (verbal) all the time
42: He has other priority
43: Too busy with his career

Asker

11 d
Wow long list of reasons! Appreciate the effort haha :)
Skankhunt

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You're welcome

Answer 2

Asker

Wow long list of reasons! Appreciate the effort haha :)

Answer 3

Skankhunt

You're welcome

Answer 4

Greentie

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There is many different reasons, it really depends on the context

1) He might not want to settle with someone. He might just want to meet people and have fun with no comitement.
2) He might have other priority. I know a lot of people who don't want to get in serious relationship because they want to dedicate their time to pursue goals such as sports, education, business, etc.
3) It might also be an excuse. People sometime lie to escape awkward situation. The guy might not be interested in anything serious with you but doesn't have the courage to be honest.

There can be many other reasons, it really depends. The best way to tell is to have a nice conversation :)

Answer 5

NathanDavis | 123 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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He can very well like you very much, but not for a relationship.
and this is usually a very genuine and honest, or blunt to say it so.

Asker

12 d
Would time be able to change his mind?
NathanDavis

12 d
Yes, this is possiile, maybe he's not ready yet to try again, does not want to do it too soon, it's is possible he's recharing energy till he can get involved like that, a a later time
Asker

12 d
Makes sense!! Is there anything in particular that i can do?
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NathanDavis

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You could follow up with the question, what is it that he would like RIGHT NOW, try to make emphasis on that, if he can open up about what he would like to be with you, then you can ask yourself if that can work for you, and for how long too... this is about timing, if it works for you, what he wants at the moment, then you do not have to give up just yet on him.
Asker

12 d
Thanks!
NathanDavis

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Glad to share

Answer 6

Asker

Would time be able to change his mind?

Answer 7

NathanDavis

Yes, this is possiile, maybe he's not ready yet to try again, does not want to do it too soon, it's is possible he's recharing energy till he can get involved like that, a a later time

Answer 8

Asker

Makes sense!! Is there anything in particular that i can do?

Answer 9

NathanDavis

You could follow up with the question, what is it that he would like RIGHT NOW, try to make emphasis on that, if he can open up about what he would like to be with you, then you can ask yourself if that can work for you, and for how long too... this is about timing, if it works for you, what he wants at the moment, then you do not have to give up just yet on him.

Answer 10

Asker

Thanks!

Answer 11

NathanDavis

Glad to share

Answer 12

Shihab-91

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- he is focusing on himself ( career, problems to solve... etc).
- he is afraid to get hurt.
there might be more who knows what's going on with his life

Shihab-91

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Update: 5 months isn't enough to recover from a 11 years relationship... Then this is the reason.
Asker

11 d
How much time would you say?
Shihab-91

11 d
Depends is he doing the right things to get over her, depends on him how emotional is he... And the reason of breaking up

Answer 13

Shihab-91

Update: 5 months isn't enough to recover from a 11 years relationship... Then this is the reason.

Answer 14

Asker

How much time would you say?

Answer 15

Shihab-91

Depends is he doing the right things to get over her, depends on him how emotional is he... And the reason of breaking up

Answer 16

fillipfids

Xper 4

Exactly, he just got out of a bad relationship and is recovering. If you want to stay on his good side, don’t be pushy and give him lots of freedom. Just be friendly and understanding

Asker

12 d
Thats what i have been trying really hard to do. I never bring it up and constantly tell him i understand (even when i dont really)
fillipfids

12 d
It’s like drinking too much vodka and having a real real bad hangover! You even smell vodka for a long time afterwards and you get sick. You may like to drink, and want to drink again in the future, but right now it’s just not attractive to you. I’d suggest that you be a good friend if he means that much too you. Being available if he changes his mind will put you at the top of the list. But you may have to wait and you may not get selected if he decides to date again... it’s a gamble
Asker

12 d
Thats a great comparison! I will continue to be his friend for sure but i won't be waiting around. If he is single i shouldn't have to miss out on potential great connections because i stay committed to someone who isn't committed to me! :)
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fillipfids

12 d
Very true and wide
fillipfids

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Wise*
Asker

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😊😊

Answer 17

Asker

Thats what i have been trying really hard to do. I never bring it up and constantly tell him i understand (even when i dont really)

Answer 18

fillipfids

It’s like drinking too much vodka and having a real real bad hangover! You even smell vodka for a long time afterwards and you get sick. You may like to drink, and want to drink again in the future, but right now it’s just not attractive to you. I’d suggest that you be a good friend if he means that much too you. Being available if he changes his mind will put you at the top of the list. But you may have to wait and you may not get selected if he decides to date again... it’s a gamble

Answer 19

Asker

Thats a great comparison! I will continue to be his friend for sure but i won't be waiting around. If he is single i shouldn't have to miss out on potential great connections because i stay committed to someone who isn't committed to me! :)

Answer 20

fillipfids

Very true and wide

Answer 21

fillipfids

Wise*

Answer 22

Asker

😊😊

Answer 23

misanthropistkev | 64 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I’ve turned down some really attractive and sweet women because I am too fucking lazy for a relationship

Asker

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Was it because of anything they did or purely you?
misanthropistkev

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Me It’s my friend that’s a girl got mad at me cus she said I could look so much better if I put the slightest effort in my appearance
Asker

10 d
Oh... thats not very kind
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misanthropistkev

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Yea but she was kinda right though she said I was pretty decent looking but I could look better if I weren’t so lazy

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Asker

Was it because of anything they did or purely you?

Answer 25

misanthropistkev

Me It’s my friend that’s a girl got mad at me cus she said I could look so much better if I put the slightest effort in my appearance

Answer 26

Asker

Oh... thats not very kind

Answer 27

misanthropistkev

Yea but she was kinda right though she said I was pretty decent looking but I could look better if I weren’t so lazy

Answer 28

kingofthellamas | 165 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Then i think you have your answer. 5 months ago.

Asker

12 d
But i feel like its a pretty reasonable time ro get over that. Ofcourse everyone has their own pace but generally speaking it should be long enough
kingofthellamas

12 d
Perhaps after 11 years he now wants some fun. Not a solid serious relationship. Could not blame him for that.
Asker

12 d
Yeah i don't either. I just don't wanna be strung along
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kingofthellamas

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I don't understand your problem then. You say he doest want a relationship and neither do you. That sounds like a good match.

Answer 29

Asker

But i feel like its a pretty reasonable time ro get over that. Ofcourse everyone has their own pace but generally speaking it should be long enough

Answer 30

kingofthellamas

Perhaps after 11 years he now wants some fun. Not a solid serious relationship. Could not blame him for that.

Answer 31

Asker

Yeah i don't either. I just don't wanna be strung along

Answer 32

kingofthellamas

I don't understand your problem then. You say he doest want a relationship and neither do you. That sounds like a good match.

Answer 33

AFellowWeeb | 271 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Women are annoying

Asker

11 d
Why lmao
AFellowWeeb

11 d
you're all entitled fucking skanks, lie about everything, even shit like how many guys have pipped you down, women are nasty af, have no self respect, and only really love men that are attractive, these guys can literally cheat on them anf convince them to have a threesome, and theyll do it, just saw a 20 yo girl saying this, women are actually disgusting
Asker

11 d
Im really sorry that this is how you think. Thats sad
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AFellowWeeb

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Its the truth
How many sexual partners does the average college girl have? ↗

Answer 34

Asker

Why lmao

Answer 35

AFellowWeeb

you're all entitled fucking skanks, lie about everything, even shit like how many guys have pipped you down, women are nasty af, have no self respect, and only really love men that are attractive, these guys can literally cheat on them anf convince them to have a threesome, and theyll do it, just saw a 20 yo girl saying this, women are actually disgusting

Answer 36

Asker

Im really sorry that this is how you think. Thats sad

Answer 37

AFellowWeeb

Its the truth
How many sexual partners does the average college girl have? ↗

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